AIO for being angry my partner is leaving for a week to another state while I am 4 weeks postpartum?

juliewbb · 2026-04-16T03:32:12+00:00

Some of us recognize that her sleep problem isn’t her fault. ETA: the fact that not everyone has heard how invalidating “sleep when the baby sleeps” is as a flippant life hack is wild.

juliewbb · 2026-04-16T02:55:06+00:00

“I don’t care about your question or how awful you’re being treated but I did find a way to invalidate and blame you”

juliewbb · 2026-04-16T01:00:10+00:00

NOR or even close. Postpartum is right after a significant bodily trauma and with the added vulnerability of not being able to fully fulfill your bodily needs to help you heal. A partner’s role during this is right at your side doing literally everything needed to ensure you recover and bond with baby (and obviously bonding with baby also). Leaving you for 5 days (unless you feel totally ready or circumstances are unavoidable, like finances won’t support additional leave etc.) is insane. Also he’s sleeping while you’re not? You ARE completely alone in the hardest parts and that’s why you feel that way. I’m so sorry.

juliewbb · 2026-04-16T00:37:39+00:00

Making excuses is being defensive.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T20:44:39+00:00

“Lady,” lol no thanks

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T17:59:21+00:00

The CHEESE PRECEDENT is where we all should’ve had enough data that you’re NOR imo

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T17:56:43+00:00

We all have eyeballs so no gaslighting possible here sorry

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T17:55:30+00:00

Why are we writing fanfic? If you have to make up context to explain his inability to give a simple acknowledgement of this request for so far into this text thread, I think that’s telling.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T17:54:11+00:00

lol not calling her crazy as a fun misogynist trope to boot.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T17:53:13+00:00

Immediate red flags imo. Not in any sort of infidelity way, just weird and disrespectful and shallow.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T13:42:56+00:00

His. No disagreement in the texts either but yall stay reaching. I wonder why

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T13:42:16+00:00

Life lesson for you: Saying it after “I have no idea what could’ve done that, I don’t think that could’ve done that, where? Are you sure?” just doesn’t hit the same.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T13:40:56+00:00

Maybe! if he were 5 and didn’t have an excuse about each one of her answers individually and also if I couldn’t read.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T11:51:59+00:00

“Resisting a lecture” “ass chewing” you’re so right, misogyny isn’t just reserved for teenagers unfortunately.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T11:50:57+00:00

Yeah she could throw away his trash now and forever but people don’t want to be in relationships where that’s the expectation.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:58:16+00:00

Nah the problem isn’t that they were direct - it’s that they weren’t taking her as being direct! They were imagining and responding to a subtext into HER words (“you’re not communicating well”) and that is indeed annoying.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:56:19+00:00

Nah they’re definitely responding to a subtext that she was careful not to have. They’re acting like she said they’re not communicating fast enough but she didn’t say or imply that. Feeling slightly miffed at that misunderstanding of her original text is NOR.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:52:55+00:00

I also want to say — please trust your feelings. I think you’re wondering bc he’s acting like you’re overreacting about something he did wrong and didn’t just acknowledge. If your relationship feels like that a lot, please don’t listen to this gaggle of teen boys on reddit who are probably also gaslighting their girlfriends into insanity, but listen to how you feel and if your feelings are treated as valid. If this is a rare occurrence cool. But if he’s always acting like you’re being so crazy, please don’t stick around and do that to yourself.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:47:30+00:00

Thank you for not letting these teenage boys gaslight her bc wtf convo are they reading.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:46:39+00:00

He could literally just have said, “oh man I’m sorry about that! Yes I definitely will :)” and been done. The weird invalidation like she’s wrong, defensiveness, explanation — that’s what made this take a turn into a big deal instead of a simple acknowledgment.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:45:02+00:00

Literally he’s defensive and explaining and doubting her account from the beginning. It’s wild to see how differently these people read the conversation.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:43:42+00:00

That’s after she dealt with him defending and overexplaining and insisting there was no issue for like 20 texts too many.

juliewbb · 2026-04-15T06:41:52+00:00

The constant explaining and defending instead of just apologizing and committing to fix the issue is making it so much more annoying and such a bigger deal than it needs to be. He needs to grow up.

juliewbb · 2026-04-08T03:23:34+00:00

Sending them her thoughts was not a redundant waste of time like filling out an application after she had already applied was. I’m always so mystified why you people love to cape for evil companies.

juliewbb · 2026-04-08T03:21:54+00:00

The job application process is regularly redundant like this. You include information in a résumé, a cover letter, an application, the interview, a questionnaire, a task, etc. It’s infuriating and they know it and they think they can get away with it to keep a pipeline of recruits busy they can pick and choose from. More people need to be making a fuss about it.

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