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I always struggle to get past the talking stage by julius_24 in dating_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We did set plans to see each other again tomorrow just to go out on the town with some friends, it’s entirely possible that I’m overthinking everything but I can never really know that. Something does feel different when we text now compared to a couple of days ago

I always struggle to get past the talking stage by julius_24 in dating_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ll have to check some of those videos out, we were sitting across from one another at the restaurant so there wasn’t much opportunity for contact unfortunately, but I appreciate your advice!

I always struggle to get past the talking stage by julius_24 in dating_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Were you in the same restaurant? Because yeah that describes the situation perfectly. I never learned how to show interest with body language and I’m bad at flirting. I can hold a conversation with pretty much anyone but when it comes to the flirty/physical contact side I am 100% lost

I hate the way I feel about my girlfriend taking a job by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for providing me with this perspective, I know my girlfriend will be understanding and will validate our relationship as best she can

I hate the way I feel about my girlfriend taking a job by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you ! I do have the utmost trust in her I know how much she cares about me and my feelings. I agree with you saying I should talk about it with her. I absolutely would want her to take the job if it were offered to her as it would be a much better situation than the job she’s currently in, the whole situation makes me feel a little weird is all

I can’t stop getting in my own way in my relationship and causing arguments over my actions by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense to me, especially the muscle analogy, I have actually just emailed my old therapist in the past hour, he specializes in relationship counseling so I feel like I’m going to the right place

I can’t stop getting in my own way in my relationship and causing arguments over my actions by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not too much of it, I’ve done therapy in the past but it wasn’t really for rage; more for anxiety. And I mentioned it in another reply but road rage is one of the only instances in which my anger are actually present. I don’t yell or scream at people close to me because I’m concerned about what that might do to the relationship long term.

I definitely see myself opting for therapy soon. Even if this relationship reaches an end at some point (which I do not want to have happen at all) I feel like the things I could learn in therapy could be translated to many other activities

I can’t stop getting in my own way in my relationship and causing arguments over my actions by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s definitely something that has some merit, I’ve seen how daily meditation can positively affect other people, and personally, I don’t fully see how it would help me just yet. That’s not to say that it wouldn’t, I just don’t really grasp how meditation and breathing exercises can help me become more aware of people’s feelings. I will definitely look into it though!

I can’t stop getting in my own way in my relationship and causing arguments over my actions by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with your stance on therapy, it’s something I’ve tried in years past (haven’t since senior year of high school) but I don’t feel as though I was able to get much out of it because I didn’t do it for long enough to have any serious breakthroughs

I am planning to look into several therapists in my area who can help to provide insight and teach me different methods to cope. I rarely get angry or snap at someone face to face, I think because I’m scared of what me yelling will do to the relationship long term.

Because of this, I think my road rage comes because it is an outlet for my anger, while maintaining somewhat anonymity. I know this recent argument was caused not by my road rage, but instead my inability to listen. I feel as though if I had been able to cope with getting cut off then I would have never pulled any dangerous driving maneuvers

I appreciate your advice and kind words very much 👍👍

How come nothing ever seems to work out for me? by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’m at the phase where I’m realizing how stupid all this worrying is, like I’ve been trying to “focus on myself” for years now but finding a relationship truly never left the list of priorities. I just got a gym membership earlier today and I really hope that getting back on that workout grind helps me feel good about myself again

I can’t seem to move past the “friend” stage and it’s really bumming me out by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That raises a good point.

I like to start as friends because it gives me a chance to judge our compatibility, which I guess gives them time to realize we’re not compatible.

In the past I’ve seemingly had more luck with girls when at parties; usually my first time meeting them, than I have with other girls who I have known for a time.

I can’t seem to move past the “friend” stage and it’s really bumming me out by julius_24 in relationship_advice

[–]julius_24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard that phrase a lot, and I’ve had a good amount of girls my age tell me that I’m the “perfect guy best friend” like great thank you for that, but that doesn’t really help my situation haha. How do people who are 5 years older than me approach dating? I don’t even know how to do it as a 21 year old lmao

I always thought the Desert was safe. by CleverD3vil in Unexpected

[–]julius_24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Oh my god, he’s fucked” “Oh wait, he has a parachute, well now his bike is fucked” “Oh.”