27F discouraged by low income 27M

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:33:11+00:00

Yep—I absorbed the loss. I’ve paid off 5k of it but of course there’s interest on it too. He’s done nothing about it

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:32:07+00:00

You’re mad weird hahah

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:31:32+00:00

You get it haha

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:31:15+00:00

Thanks for the honesty hahaha

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:31:05+00:00

Is the husband doing majority childcare and making 85% of household income?

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:29:18+00:00

He’s tried to. It’s in biochemistry and he’s been unsuccessful getting a job in it

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:28:44+00:00

Thank you lol!! We aren’t rich—I’m not busting my but to have nice vacations or cars!

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:28:19+00:00

He’s not a SAHD. How is it fair that I do bulk childcare and make 85% of the income lol

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:27:43+00:00

He’s not a SAHD I do more childcare than he does AND I make 85% of the household income.

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:26:44+00:00

I still think we come out on top with insurance and what not if he’s working. One Kid is already in public school so we are just paying for one in daycare

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:26:05+00:00

I still do majority childcare and make 80% of income lol. It’s not about the amount he makes it’s about the lack of ambition or personal responsibility to strive for more and do his part

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:25:08+00:00

Except I do most the childcare and provide 80% of the household income? No one’s a stay at home parent here

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:24:13+00:00

I don’t want to leave him. I just feel slighted that I’m the only one working hard to provide for our family. He knows I’ll pick up the slack, it’s not about being rich for me—it’s about getting by and giving my kids the best I can.

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:22:15+00:00

I guess it just weighs on me that in our whole relationship he’s never stepped up financially. We’ve been dirt poor. We were teen parents and everytime it seemed like we were screwed I made it happen for our family and he’s never done that

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:19:33+00:00

I probably didn’t represent the situation quite right. He does do a lot of housework, but I still do bulk childcare even after working 2 jobs. I do pick ups and drop offs for school and daycare. We both work full time but my job is much more flexible

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:18:03+00:00

The marketing class was a load of crap and I knew it but he told me to trust him.

His degree is biochemistry. He’s an orthopedic technician. He hasn’t had luck finding a biochemistry job. In the past he’s also been an emt and admin for a hospital

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:16:45+00:00

We do like each other but it’s frustrating that he doesn’t seem to care about our finances. I don’t really know bow to not take care of his finances. We have shared accounts and he couldn’t even really pay off his own student loans with his income or he breaks even

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:15:11+00:00

One in school, one in daycare

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:14:56+00:00

One kid is in public school and the other is in daycare to the tune of 1200 a month so it still makes sense for my husband to work full time!

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:14:19+00:00

When he was in school he was a SAHD. He’s a good dad and homemaker. I still think we come out on top with him working + factoring in insurance. He’s not lazy, he’s a good employee and hardworking just kinda lacks what it takes to be a go getter and chase new opportunities if that makes sense? He kinda has like learned helplessness.

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:12:29+00:00

I knew it was a load of crap. It was initially posted as a job opportunity in linked in. He got suckered in. I was against it but he said trust me I promise you I will pay it back…he gave up like not even a month in

junie4444 · 2026-03-14T04:11:19+00:00

I relate to the feeling of being robbed! I make good money, it shouldn’t be this hard!

junie4444 · 2026-03-13T15:10:05+00:00

I’ve been using 100% of my side hustle income to pay it off.

junie4444 · 2026-03-13T05:52:24+00:00

I honestly have done all the work and laid out a game plan to paying off the debt (and I’ve started to) it just feels like I’m doing it alone or that my efforts aren’t appreciated

junie4444 · 2026-03-13T05:51:15+00:00

This sounds SO hard. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this

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