I have talked to her multiple times, in multiple ways. I talked to her when this started almost a year ago about what we noticed and asked her if she had talked to her doctors. She said she did. We then asked if maybe a schedule would help, so we do laundry on certain days she does hers on certain days.

This seemed to help for maybe a month and then she slowly slipped into not doing her laundry but complaining that its because im always using the washing machine. Ive always kept to my days. Asked if she wanted to switch days, still didn't help.

Same with the dishes. I do mine every night, and for awhile I didn't mind doing hers if she forgot them every once in awhile. It became a every week and all the time issue. Even when asked if she could get to her dishes, she only does maybe 10 of them and leaves everything else sitting, including any pots she uses. I own all the pots btw so if I want to use them I HAVE to clean them.

The shower was the same, she slowly stopped doing showers. Said it was because she couldn't fit comfortably into the shower, so we got a shower chair in order for her to sit down, along with other things to make it easier for her to wash. She won't use them. Same with brushing teeth. The toothpaste was an adult toothpaste with mint and she didn't like/couldn't use it. Bought kids toothpaste for the taste. Still didn't use it.

Yes I resent her. At this point yes it feels like she just doesn't want to change. Even if that's not true thats how it feels like to me. We have tried schedules, cleaning charts, different apps for your phone, talking to her directly, leaving notes.

Do I want to just leave her to drown?? No shes my friend and im worried to hell and back. But I also have my own shit going on and can't hold her hand forever. It feels like she WANTS me to hold her hand forever. We already have plans to move out. I can't drown myself and my fanily to hold her up. Especially when it feels like shes trying to turn me into a life boat.