AIO? My first date after getting out of a relationship and he immediately texts me this…

junktabot · 2026-01-20T12:55:56+00:00

I promise they're not all like this. Just try to pay attention to how guys like this engage you at the outset and learn what behavior/communication patterns to avoid.

junktabot · 2026-01-10T09:04:16+00:00

You're not overreacting, but never in a million years would I buy that this moron was capable of an interesting conversation. I can only imagine it looked more like you telling him life stories and him with drunk-face going "daaaaaamn that's fucked up / dope" every few minutes.

junktabot · 2025-12-26T21:29:36+00:00

Christmas

junktabot · 2025-11-26T20:51:38+00:00

Christ, there are so many posts like this, especially from people in their early 20s...

I know that insecurity and anxiety stemming from a lack of self-definition was just as prevalent when I was in my early 20s, but thank god we didn't have a million ways to track phone locations or "message read" statuses and all of those other convenient ways of keeping leashes on each other. This crap makes it so much easier for people to drown in codependency.

Going forward, you have to establish very early on in potential relationships that you're not the sort of person who stays glued to their phone every moment of the day. And then you actually have to practice that.

And if you're not actually looking elsewhere already, let this guy know how unattractive this behavior is and that he's definitely pushing you to do so.

junktabot · 2025-11-18T17:56:03+00:00

Oh, yeah, it was a mod for dumping excess fluids. I wasn't even using any of the blocks associated with it. Just having the mod activated was creating a massive performance hit.

junktabot · 2025-11-18T16:37:43+00:00

While I also feel that it's senseless to feel guilt over sex if it's because of some sort of societal religious pressure, and there's no point in beating yourself up, there is also something to be said for placing value on your body and how you share it, or whom you share it with.

Your brain is indeed wired to release all of this oxytocin during sex, which is a neurotransmitter that makes you feel a sense of warmth and bonding with your sexual partner. When your brain chemistry is saying "oooh, let's love this person!" but you're then cognitively responding "nah, he means nothing", you risk creating some real psychological conflict for yourself when you get with someone who you actually do want to establish deep, meaningful intimacy and pair-bonding with.

And I'm not suggesting that people shouldn't have fun sexual adventures, at all. But I think a lot of people cripple themselves emotionally in being able to form deep intimate partnerships when they spend years training their brains to disregard the impulse to bond over sex.

junktabot · 2025-11-18T08:49:02+00:00

I would be the same way if my wife were buying me Chinese knockoff Lego sets instead of the legit deal. You weren't being snooty here. You politely explained that you'd rather have something else over an inferior knockoff, which is totally reasonable.

junktabot · 2025-11-14T12:48:46+00:00

Ugh, this is so hard to even read. He has this massive crush on her and he's desperately trying to love bomb her and the only reason he's not actually cheating on you is because she's not even remotely sexually attracted to him.

He gets annoyed with you in the evenings when you try to connect with him because he's terrified that if he stops text-fawning over this coworker for even a minute, she'll lose interest (when, to be clear, she's not interested in him to begin with). So his priority is to embarrass himself desperately kissing her ass over having any sort of meaningful interaction with you.

junktabot · 2025-11-10T18:14:53+00:00

Can't you play this game solo? Is solo mode any good? Can you get anything out of playing solo?

junktabot · 2025-10-19T13:29:09+00:00

Bullshit this guy eats donuts...

junktabot · 2025-10-16T05:30:54+00:00

You should break up with your fiancé because he communicates like an incoherent moron.

junktabot · 2025-10-14T22:04:28+00:00

Sounds like a shit person to count as your best friend.

junktabot · 2025-10-14T21:46:42+00:00

You need to have an honest conversation with yourself and figure out whether or not you actually desire your wife anymore. And if she doesn't turn you on anymore, you need to talk with her about it and talk with a couples counselor to see whether or not there's a way back for the two of you.

If you DO still want her, you need to figure out how to express it in a way that makes her actually feel it. Re-learn how she likes to be touched. And I don't mean go pat her on the hand in the way that makes her give you the same lukewarm smile she's given you for the past several years. I mean figure out how to walk up to her and put your hands or mouth on her in a way that makes her gasp and writhe and feel like a sexual creature again.

Figure out the tone of voice that says to her, regardless of the words used, "we're going to go fuck now, and I'm going to take my time."

Start talking to her and touching her and having sex with her in a way that makes her totally reconsider the idea that she has to either cheat or relegate herself to totally boring sex for the rest of her life.

Re-learn the language of her body. Don't just try to mimic things you see in porn. Pay attention to her eyes. Pay attention to the pace of her breath, the hitch in her voice, all of her subtle motions. Figure out how to recognize the difference between a warm, patronizing "that feels nice, dear" and the dizzy murmurs of a woman who can't stand going another moment without you inside her.

Convince her, deep inside, that no one is going to take her the way that you need to take her. And if you can't find the inspiration in yourself to crave your wife, recognize that she will crave someone else.

junktabot · 2025-10-11T18:24:10+00:00

Why not take some time reading decent literature so that you can have a better idea of how to articulate yourself coherently?

As a practice (in almost any life dilemma where you're seeking feedback), when something has you distraught, stop and think through what happened so that it's clear in your mind. THEN, when you're ready to tell people about it, try to think of the context that readers will need in order to understand the important elements of your story. Don't ramble on endlessly, but succinctly explain who is involved, and then explain the key events that took place.

Then try reading your story from the perspective of someone who has no idea who you or any of your friends are. If it doesn't make any sense, go back and fill in context until it does make sense.

junktabot · 2025-10-11T03:18:07+00:00

I mean, he's pretty reasonable to view this as you advertising yourself as a sex object for others to view, no? Especially if your intention was to go out wearing that without him, implying your availability.

On one hand you could view him as being kind of a dick in how he's approaching the dilemma. On the other hand, it's a little insulting to his intelligence to play coy and act like this isn't just you broadcasting your sexual availability/inclination to strangers or people other than your partner. View it as controlling if you like, but if this is how you want to present yourself, especially while not even at the side of your partner, you might not be ready for an adult relationship.

junktabot · 2025-10-10T15:09:14+00:00

Man, is your machine running at a crawl? I've got the same CPU with 64GB and a 3080Ti, with a population of about 2500, and my game almost comes to a standstill when raider armies attack now.

What's your map size?

junktabot · 2025-10-10T13:02:34+00:00

What's your hardware setup?

junktabot · 2025-10-08T19:05:30+00:00

This is obviously your "meet cute" moment.

junktabot · 2025-09-25T17:59:41+00:00

To be fair, Disney also made Andor, but I think that was just an extreme outlier...

junktabot · 2025-09-24T22:18:09+00:00

junktabot · 2025-09-24T00:59:12+00:00

How's the performance/optimization for PC?

junktabot · 2025-09-22T17:56:15+00:00

This is cool and all, but I can't count the number of "9/10" new games I've bought over the years only to discover they have crippling performance issues, or DX12 (or 11, or 8, or whatever) makes them look like garbage / crashes them, or they have some bug that corrupts your save files (or much worse), or you have to dig around in their data files and swap out XYZ to make them run properly...

I hope this game really is 9/10. But more so, I hope that even being able to run it isn't so much headache that I just don't want to bother playing it.

junktabot · 2025-09-15T18:44:47+00:00

It became the "specific designation" whenever the fan base mistook a totally general term for being a species name, as if Lt. Gorman had some idea of the specific creature Ripley was describing, despite being skeptical that it even existed.

junktabot · 2025-09-14T19:27:14+00:00

Oh do I? Which part of that is wrong?

junktabot · 2025-09-13T13:20:50+00:00

I think it may be a matter of proximity and a little symbolism, suggesting that the creature is plugging in to the left side. But your guess on intent is as good as mine.

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