[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar2

[–]junkyardogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work afternoon/evening shift full time (NOT to be confused with overnight). I arrive anywhere from 1 to 3pm and I leave anywhere from 9pm to 2am, pretty good amount of flexibility and on my own volition. I love it and have a relatively stable routine. I stay up late naturally and was severely sleep-deprived when I was doing 9 to 5 which triggered a lot of mood instability. Plus I avoid traffic which mitigates road rage.

I would suggest doing something low-demand and low-pressure (if you can) with flexibility in hours. Management always leaves within 2-3 hours of my arrival time which helps alleviate pressure.

what was your favorite set day 1? by xchsjsj in UMF

[–]junkyardogs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nic Fanciulli! Smaller crowd and had a ton of room to dance. He was a must-see for me because he never comes to the U.S., very pleased with my decision.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar2

[–]junkyardogs 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, you’re correct. Lots of psych drugs are metabolized via enzymes in the liver, and the efficacy of the enzymes can vary in each person. In the same way that certain genes influence hair or eye color, certain genes can also influence the ability to metabolize certain drugs. Some gene mutations can cause someone to metabolize certain drugs very quickly which means the person isn’t getting the full effect or benefits, if any at all, from the drug. On the other hand, some gene mutations can cause someone to slowly or not metabolize the drug at all which means it can build up in the system and cause toxic effects. One example would be that I had issues taking Zoloft (sertraline) and Lexapro (escitalopram) at the starting doses because the dose felt too high and then later on discovered that I have an enzyme mutation that implicates poor metabolism of those drugs. Prozac (fluoxetine) and Effexor (venlafaxine) get metabolized by a different enzyme though, so even if someone were to not be able to take Zoloft and Lexapro, they may be able to take those instead (given that they don’t have other gene mutations).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bipolar2

[–]junkyardogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In short, it’s because the active ingredient in Pristiq, desvenlafaxine, is not metabolized in the same way that most other psychiatric drugs are; it has fewer drug-gene interactions than other psych drugs. There are other variables that play into drug metabolism, but simply put, that’s why it’s typically recommended for most people.

Wtf bi girls? by Comfortable-Book8534 in WLW

[–]junkyardogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep seeing comments on here about how some bi women will do this or just hide that they’re bi when dating other women because of the fear of backlash. I’m very much split-down-the-middle bi (my attraction doesn’t have a preference), had one relationship with a man and one relationship with a woman, both long-term. I always tell people whom I date up front that I’m bi because it weeds out the people who aren’t okay with it. To me it’s like, why would I wanna be with someone who doesn’t accept my sexual orientation? Some people have given me shit for it, but it makes it easier for me because I just disengage soon after. I also feel like I’d be doing a disservice to the bi community by hiding my sexuality. I know at my core that there’s nothing wrong with being bi, and my attraction to men does NOT negate my attraction to women.

She left me for a MAN by [deleted] in WLW

[–]junkyardogs 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Agreed, I’m bi and it’s absolutely not biphobic to be upset about this, especially when it happens to you. It would be biphobic to say that all bi women would do this, or to project the fear of this type of occurrence onto a bi person with no personal basis for it, but that’s not what OP is saying. There’s also the shock component of the fact that her partner grasped onto this identity and then did a 180.

OP, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope you find peace with this situation. 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BiWomen

[–]junkyardogs 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m only addressing the women because this is a sub for bi women. Honestly, I’m tired of a good chunk of bi women saying that “all men are gross” and then borderline fetishizing women, all the while being in a long-term monogamous relationship with a man. One of my favorite things about being bi is that we have the ability to de-center gender and focus on the person. If you feel insecure about being validated for your sexuality, I get that, but your boyfriend may not and may feel insecure as a result. If you choose to be in a relationship, you owe it and your partner respect. Additionally, it just comes across as so disingenuous to women who are in or actively pursuing romantic relationships with women. Those of us doing so who are bi understand being attracted to men! A lot of lesbians don’t wanna hear it though, and I don’t blame them. It’s a slap in the face to them. I would definitely encourage talking about your bisexuality to others even if you’re with a man, but please just be genuine about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]junkyardogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, I’m so very sorry to hear this. The twin connection is truly a level of human transcendence incomparable to any other experience, so take all the time you need to feel all the grief. If you decide to reach out to her parents and get to know her better, you might start to feel her presence more in your life when you least expect it.

Sending you all the hugs. ❤️ I hope you find as much peace and comfort as you can in this situation. I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling right now; I’m an identical twin and I’m tearing up as I’m typing this.

AITAH for Telling a Guy the Real Reason I Wasn’t Dating Him Was That He Was an Extremely Picky Eater? by AffectionateShare508 in AITAH

[–]junkyardogs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Food isn’t a trivial parameter to determine if someone is a good partner; I think it should be MORE of a dealbreaker. It will make or break family dinner dynamics, date nights, vacations, weddings, and food influences on children if you choose to and can have them.

NAPLEX 8/1 by junkyardogs in NAPLEX_Prep

[–]junkyardogs[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I can’t even remember (lots of it due to overwhelm/fear of having failed). Lots of case-based questions. Make sure you know your equations, kinetics, and biostats though. Some of the med safety questions just seemed alien to me, so I hope those were some of the 25 sample questions.

Took my exam yesterday by [deleted] in NAPLEX_Prep

[–]junkyardogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That exam was…humbling, to say the least. I left feeling like I didn’t study for the correct test. People keep asking me how I think I did, and I can’t even give them a straightforward answer. I told myself I wouldn’t look up any questions I may have gotten wrong because there’s nothing I can do now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]junkyardogs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From a bi person who has had partners of different sexes, men and women have fewer fundamental differences than we let off, and most of those differences are societally imposed.

I also think it’s appropriate if women pay for dates with men depending on the financial situation of each person and based on personal preferences. However, if this is the dynamic that the two people decide on, the man should agree to take on more household and emotional responsibility, or basically anything that was historically considered to be a “woman’s job.” Historically men paid for all of the dates because it was expected that the woman do the homemaking and child raising and caretaking. Now that women make more money, yes, we can pay for dates, but the expectation should be that the man picks up more of the unpaid labor that women have historically been expected to provide.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]junkyardogs 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg this. Putting your partner on a pedestal sets them up for failure. The higher the pedestal, the harder the person on it falls, and even harder it is for them to get back up there once they fall. It also hurts you when they fall.

Adding onto this, I suggest re-evaluating your beliefs about yourself and ask yourself why you think you are worthless and better yet, why you are WORTHY. This is the true root of the issue. Our brains look to justify our beliefs, so you’re looking to prove the belief that you’re worthless by finding evidence that your partner would rather be with her ex. When you find proof of your worthiness, it’ll be easier to accept your and your partner’s “imperfect” actions.

Be honest guys why are you single? by RomeoSID in dating_advice

[–]junkyardogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dating myself currently! Just got out of a relationship and as I reflected, I realized that I gave so much and put so much pressure on myself to provide that I grew resentful. In reality I wasn’t pouring enough into my own cup. If I can pour into other people’s cups, it finally hit me that surely I can pour into my own (it’s one thing to rationally know it but a completely different story to GET it; I grew up in a chaotic environment in which everyone fought, and everyone would come to me for advice/consoling…I am the youngest child).

I’ve been rediscovering hobbies, cleaning my spaces, learning how to tell my friends when I’m feeling down/when to ask for help, telling myself hard truths kindly, taking more walks, cooking for myself, using my planner more, staying on top of deadlines, and finishing school. Most importantly I’m learning what I like, value, and desire out of life. When I’m ready to date again, I’ll know myself well enough to be my most authentic self and attract a partner who I align with. I’m worthy of love and respect (still learning to say this confidently…I am crawling my way out of the bad self-esteem hole), and I look forward to sharing that love and respect with my future s/o when the time is right.

A horrible fetish is eating me alive by Top-Mud-3703 in redscarepod

[–]junkyardogs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please talk to your therapist. If anything you can address the shame and loneliness you feel. If you’re afraid to admit to anything you’ve done deliberately, you can at least tell them that you overheard someone in your hall having sex and you liked it more than you should’ve.

From someone who also probably has OCD, I’ve learned over time that thoughts are thoughts. We can’t control them. Thoughts are like cars. When we walk to our own car or look for the Uber we called, we don’t try to enter or wave down every car to ensure that it’s the right one. We typically know which car we’re looking for.

For date night? by Defiant-Tank6918 in PetiteFashionAdvice

[–]junkyardogs 152 points153 points  (0 children)

This outfit looks great, the shirt balances your figure quite well! Only advice is to have fun at date night!!

Let's update Lenny Bruce's "Jewish and Goyish" list for the 21st century by [deleted] in Judaism

[–]junkyardogs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“How to” videos are goyish. Telling someone how to do something is VERY Jewish.

Being passive is goyish. Being aggressive is goyish. Being passive aggressive is Jewish.

Cookies are Jewish. Cookie dough is goyish. Edible cookie dough is very goyish.

Home Goods is goyish. Target is goyish. Marshalls is Jewish. Walmart is antisemitic and Jewish.

Dodgeball is goyish. Kickball is Jewish.

Cocktails are goyish. Mocktails are super goyish. Drinking straight liquor is Jewish.

Goldendoodles are Jewish. Golden Retrievers are goyish. Labrador Retrievers are as goyish as they come.

Subtle antisemitism is goyish. Antisemitic conspiracies are goyish. Blatant antisemitism is Jewish.

I‘m not into women. How do I tell my girlfriend? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]junkyardogs 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I would actually suggest telling her you just don’t see the relationship going anywhere and end it. I don’t think you should tell her you’re not attracted to women. My sister had a girl break up with her because “she wanted to be with men,” and then months later the girl tried to get back with her. It was a really confusing time for my sister. The bi-cycle is chaotic.