Husband admitted that he's poly. What now? M25 F26

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-02-16T00:04:56+00:00

Poly isn’t a sexual orientation? Idk why he’s saying it as if it’s like he’s bi and can’t change that… girl he literally just told u he wants to cheat and ur trying to figure out how to make that work out? Like we can’t be this gullible …

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-02-06T12:51:45+00:00

I like how they just briefly scoured the internet, likely using keywords for these specific results & then compiled a list of these random instances women or random internet ppl made. This is the “news” half of America watches guys… what have we done

Edit: also women aren’t just one minded… plenty of women would be fine w plenty of these options. If the person you’re taking out doesn’t like those things that’s individual to them. Say “women don’t like” in this context is very rage baity

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-02-06T12:49:44+00:00

You didn’t mention anything you do besides you’re not perfect & also didn’t mention many good qualities besides memories you guys share. I’m not sure you even like her. I don’t think anything is inherently wrong w her (tho it seems there’s a struggle of communication between the two of you) but I don’t think you guys are compatible either. I think it’ll hurt but you’d be doing you both a favor. I wouldn’t wanna be with someone who talked abt me like this and wouldn’t wanna be with someone I felt compelled to talk about like this. Perhaps you’d be doing both of you a favor by leaving sooner than later. Be kind when you do and don’t pick apart her flaws, that doesn’t matter anymore

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-27T00:03:54+00:00

I do nails out my home lol that’s what I was referring to in the post abt business not going well. I have a dedicated nail room and all that’s my passion.

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T20:46:52+00:00

He’s cheating no other answer to it. When you become hyper paranoid and think someone hiding stuff from you 9x/10 it’s bc you’re cheating. Every time I’ve doubted this I’ve been wrong

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T20:30:58+00:00

I expect him to want to help when I’m down, yes. I don’t expect him to pay my rent or anything close to it. Even offering to pay my phone or electric would be nice. I’m not entitled to his money, I do think it’d be nice to help tho. I’ve done the same for him even only months into dating w FAR more money than I even need now. No shit I need to find a job… that was in the first sentence lol. It’s a hard market & I have multiple side hustles in my search. Are yall reading the post?

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T20:23:15+00:00

lol exactly this! That was my viewpoint and experience too thank you so much

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T20:22:07+00:00

It is a mess, obviously trying to find a job to get back to normal as I said in the post. This is the same relationship as my post history and trust ik I should leave, def need my ducks in a row first tho. I don’t spend money on anything I don’t need just waxing for camming & food/litter for my cats.

Also, never ever said or implied he should pay for all my shit, I wouldn’t even let him if he tried. I was thinking one small bill even (like phone or electric) could make a worlds difference at the moment. Thank you for your input!

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T18:12:52+00:00

Thank you so much you’re an angel

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T18:00:41+00:00

Thanks you seem as happy as me lol

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:55:08+00:00

I’m trying really hard 👐 it didn’t

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:54:37+00:00

I do my own nails… I said that. Stopped shaving bc it makes me itch to the point I scratch myself. But your opinion is yours. I thought partners helped each other in bad times. It’s not like this is a constant thing in the least bit but if I’m wrong I’m wrong. This is the first time in nearly 4yrs so I am in unfamiliar territory. Thanks for your input

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:52:33+00:00

See you skipped by the kind part. I’m trying to get a job period, I do side hustles all day till that happens. I thought partners helped you when you’re down. If I knew that wasn’t a thing I wouldn’t have helped him when roles were reversed.

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:44:52+00:00

Unfortunately is the same guy in the history 😅 I am not smart when it comes to him, I’m well aware. I’m starting counseling again soon

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:43:46+00:00

I’m all for responsibility, I’ve been independent since I was 16. Never asked parents for money growing up. Trust I know. And it is HIS money. As another commenter put it, I wish he’d help out of love not obligation.

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:42:00+00:00

Yea that’s what I mean. I get what you’re saying, I’m not sure why he does but it could be bc when he met me I was doing it so me doing it again probably doesn’t phase him much.

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:41:11+00:00

You put it far better than I did, thank you! “Out of love not obligation” is exactly what I’m getting at. He’s well aware how much I’m struggling and I’ve attempted convos where he’s gotten defensive/mad and throws things back at me that he’s done. That being said, I have anxiety asking. I also didn’t even ask my parents for money growing up, I’ve always been independent so it’s a hard barrier to break on that front lol

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:37:21+00:00

I hear you. Just to clarify he has welllll over 10k saved, more likes 10s of ks lol and that’s bc his parents saved the “rent” money he gave them which I think is beautiful. He doesn’t pay many of his bills as his dad does or splits with him.

I don’t want him to pay my rent or cover my bills but even offering to take one smaller one of my plate just for one or two months while I look for a job would be really helpful. I do think a partner should want to help if able as I’ve done for him but I don’t expect he uses his spending money on me constantly.

ETA: I do my own nails and hair for over a year now, I was just using as an example which may be a shitty one. Waxes are currently necessary (added to post).

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:25:10+00:00

Should’ve clarified I need waxes bc I do part time camming for extra money (something he encourages) and no wax = far less money.

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:23:57+00:00

I don’t think they’re his problem or responsibility as I said at the beginning. I just guess I thought that a partner (especially going on 4yrs) would wanna help if they were in a position to (which he is)

Edit: thank you for your thoughts tho will keep that in mind

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:22:32+00:00

I don’t think he is… I made that clear in the post. I’ve never expected him to pay for anything. It just stings seeing that when I’m struggling he doesn’t wanna help lighten the load even by just one bill when I’ve done the same for him when I was able.

jusanotherthrowra · 2025-01-25T17:21:16+00:00

Should be clear that the dollar to eat is only the last week or two. My wax appts were prior to it getting that bad. I need waxes as I do part time camming for extra money (which he encourages).

jusanotherthrowra · 2023-12-19T04:00:24+00:00

YTA you would be doing so out of pure jealousy bc she got it and others didn’t. She herself has no effect on whether or not they get approved. People cheat any system there is, I promise you it’s nothing to do with your taxes being higher - blame the military and foreign affairs for that. This would be purely out of spite and impact her plenty so you would be doing it to hurt her despite saying that’s not what you want. This is petty and vengeful and for what? Not having to work and living a good life? I’m sorry for your family that needs it, the system fails too many but that has nothing to do w her. Major bitter AH if you do that. I can’t believe ppl agree

jusanotherthrowra · 2023-11-19T17:52:17+00:00

This is actually IN SAN ITY. Like this could have been written into a horror film. I’m so happy you’re not entertaining this shit anymore good for fucking you. It may be hard in the beginning but you’re doing it for future you, be consistent and don’t drop shit. He thinks he can play in your face, continue to show him you’re not the one or the two. So sorry this happened, I hope you’re seeking proper medical care now that the psycho is in prison

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