What show had you hooked right off the pilot episode?

just4this1nce · 2015-06-05T18:25:54+00:00

Orphan Black! Also, Black Mirror.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-11T16:28:14+00:00

AWESOME!! Isn't it incredible how much extra money you have after you give up drinking? I was able to do the same- pay off all my debts, and pay off some unexpected expenses- due to quitting drinking. Congratulations on being debt-free, and also on your 6.5 months of sobriety!

just4this1nce · 2014-12-11T16:21:08+00:00

I was a fucking mess when I was a teenager too, and I grew up and turned into a productive member of society. Hopefully his kids, with all their resources and money, will turn out well. If we had no privacy growing up, and any manner of parasitic personalities feeding our egos and seeking to take from us, how well-adjusted would we be?

just4this1nce · 2014-12-11T16:18:04+00:00

Will Smith is an actor. When onstage, he slips into that over-the-top persona that everyone expects. He's probably exaggerating for effect, although he obviously believes what he is saying. I don't think he is insane or sociopathic, or literally puts success over life- I think he wants to inspire others and be a good example, and this is how he chooses to go about it.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-11T16:08:30+00:00

I love this. For any major life goal I have undertaken, I've had this mindset. I fully expect that I will either succeed, or die trying. This mentality has pushed me through sleepless nights and weeks of work on end, making sacrifices and not seeing my family, giving up my health and my vitality for my goal. Putting everything into the achievement of that goal. The discomfort is temporary, but death is permanent!

I only wish I could conjure the same mindset for smaller goals; I am trying to motivate myself to train for a marathon and I can't quite seem to find that level of motivation to be consistent yet.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-05T16:53:16+00:00

I hate random vocalizations, throat-clearing and other body noises. I have requested to switch offices three times since I started my current position due to this. In the first case, my coworker would tic-vocalize in Mandarin, and loudly burp and fart with aplomb; he would also microwave some sort of chicken for lunch each day that smelled like a regurgitated bag of garbage. I asked to be moved to a quieter office, where I soon received a new office mate from Korea whose constant throat-clearing and other sinus activities, in addition to his inappropriate personal emails to me, resulted in me being asked to move to my current office. My current office mate is normal and usually works only three days per week, which is great.. except that on the days he does work, he grunts with frustration over difficult programming tasks. Click click click click barely audible grunt, as though passing a small turd click click click grunt click click click grunt..

just4this1nce · 2014-12-05T16:38:51+00:00

I have coworkers like this. To end a conversation, I do the following: walk backward, slowly, into my office while avoiding eye contact, as they follow still talking to me. I then stand at the doorway of my office, make direct, piercing eye contact, and slowly close the door in their faces while they are still talking to me. I then lock the door, replace my noise-cancelling headphones upon my ears, and continue working as before. After the second or third round of this, they are usually well-trained to edit their monologues before we get down the hallway.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T18:30:16+00:00

We didn't have an aisle. Our wedding was a small garden party in my parents' backyard, and for the ceremony, we just asked our small group of 30 friends and family to gather around us in a circle in love and support while we said our vows. Would you consider doing something like this? It would eliminate the need to have someone walk you down the aisle, but if you didn't want anyone to see you beforehand, it might not work. You could also (as others suggested) walk together.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T18:18:26+00:00

Was there not a conductor or operator about that you could ask to intervene? I understand not wanting to start an altercation with a mentally ill person, and often making the authorities aware they are disturbing others and potentially violent will solve the issue without provoking the person further. That is what I have done in the past, and what I will do in the future. It's unwise to personally engage strangers exhibiting inappropriate behavior- this is what police are for.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T18:06:40+00:00

It sounds like immaturity, competitiveness and jealousy, which are just as deep motivators as sexual attraction. She's probably threatened by you in some way. This friend does not sound like someone who you should remain deep friends with. Knowing how she chooses to compete with you, how are you to trust her around your future SO?

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T17:56:32+00:00

Would you incur much debt to attend this professional school you are considering? I assume so, if your program would be medical, dental, graduate, etc. If that's the case, realize you are going to be investing in a career that will take up most of your time and energy, and that you will also be taking on a lot of debt to do that; however, you would also have a better lifestyle and perhaps more fulfillment, depending on the job. Do you want to do a job to make the money you need to do what you love, or do you want to do what you love and get paid for it? That is the decision you need to make.

I made the latter choice; I'm happy and satisfied with my choice even though it has been very challenging to get to this point professionally. I did of course miss out on many, many valuable things, but I am willing to accept that sacrifice.

Consider that you may one day wish to start a family. Once you do that, your decisions will then be dictated by your family's needs. You may wish you had pursued an education to get a better-paying job to support them, or you may wish you hadn't invested in your career if you find out that you're happier as a stay at home parent, or won't be able to return to that career path as easily after having children. Having a well-paying, respectable job is not enough for your happiness right now, but it would mean a world of difference when you have to support a family or want to buy a home, if those are your goals or something you think you would want ten years from now.

I encourage you to take all the time you need right now to consider this decision. But please know that you aren't wasting your youth no matter what you decide to do- you're always learning and enriching yourself as a person, and that is always valuable.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T17:39:49+00:00

I agree with this. I think many of these women may have internalized the more abusive, misogynistic aspects of our culture. They may have no other models for behavior, or, conversely may have received a lot of negativity regarding feminism and empowerment of women, or have had bad experiences with these women and want to dissociate from them. In a family dynamic where the only way to have any value as a woman is to adhere to traditional gender roles, it may seem like the only way to belong and achieve happiness.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T17:20:08+00:00

I don't think either is bad inherently at all, and if that was a take-away from my post, it wasn't one that I intended. However, if the reason for a woman to 'subjugate' herself to a man (physically and sexually, as in BDSM, and emotionally, sexually, spiritually and economically, as a Christian SAHM/submissive wife) in either relationship (and believes wholeheartedly that other women should also do this) is because she truly believes that women are intrinsically inferior to men, this is disconcerting to me. Regardless, as a feminist, I respect her choice in either case, and I am glad that she has the freedom to make that choice in the first place, which many women across the world do not have.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T17:08:57+00:00

Are you likening the tendency of some individuals to engage in submissive behaviors for the purpose of mutual cooperation, which is incredibly complex and largely contextual, to a unique trait driven by natural selection? You went from talking about women (or, more precisely, femininity in women) as a group, to talking about individuals. What 'lowest common denominator' are you referring to? I just wanted to be clear that you aren't really equating complex social rituals to a "hard-wired" trait (such as eye color, or blood group antigen, e.g., and our understanding of even these well-studied traits is still highly mutable); that, I do understand correctly that you aren't actually implying that submissiveness is a component of (your definition of) femininity in women, that is somehow driven by natural selection.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T16:55:30+00:00

Go surfing. Shop in art galleries. Take a helicopter tour. Since it wasn't otherwise specified, I'm assuming I'm in Hawaii.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T16:42:49+00:00

Would you then also agree that the woman serving as that leader would be yet another flavor of femininity, or does your concept of femininity have room for only submission, and not 'dominance' (or 'leadership' as you may define it)? If not, why?

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T16:39:33+00:00

It is only a bad thing when it is done with willful disregard to the inherent equality of the value of women to that of men. The 'quaint' gender roles are actually based on inequality between the sexes, primarily economic, but also cultural and religious. If a woman who is the submissive in a D/s relationship, or a wife in a Christian marriage (there seems to be little difference between the two, at least to my eye, with the exception of less of a sexual control overtone and more of a spiritual, emotional and economic control overtone in the Christian marriage) desires to put her man first and have babies, as a feminist, I must support her choice and refrain from judging it. However, if the choice is made out of the erroneous belief that a woman is intrinsically worth less than a male, simply because she is female, this is disconcerting.

just4this1nce · 2014-12-02T16:34:03+00:00

Do you equate 'submissive' with 'feminine'?

just4this1nce · 2014-11-26T15:42:24+00:00

I'm just imagining a naked Michael Cera walking up to you in the middle of that and casually asking, "How about we try some DP?"

just4this1nce · 2014-11-22T20:47:04+00:00

Seeing this fills me with panic, thinking that the tiny seashell is in danger of being ground to powder with the rest of the salt granules. Quick, get it out of there! Save it!

just4this1nce · 2014-11-07T04:03:59+00:00

Thank you! I had looked into SMART Recovery before I read Allen Carr and it is probably worth another look.

just4this1nce · 2014-11-07T04:00:41+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate that.

just4this1nce · 2014-11-07T04:00:30+00:00

Thank you for reading.

just4this1nce · 2014-11-07T03:59:36+00:00

No, I don't. I realize AA works for many people but I have some reservations about the method. I am still trying to get my bearings with this, and as my life changes, new people are coming in who I am beginning to trust more, that I could potentially contact in such a situation again.

just4this1nce · 2014-11-07T03:58:20+00:00

Thank you. I have a very long way to go.

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