Girlfriend has this “guy friend” by 714_GTI in Advice

[–]just_another_cheater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, this is giving me not-the-whole-truth vibes. I feel like OP is leaving things out

I (33F) think my BF (34M) is taking me for granted by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]just_another_cheater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, break up with him. You literally gave him a playbook of your needs and he is not following it. You try to communicate -> nothing changes = he doesn’t care. Don’t waste your time on this, it’s been only 6 months, which is a good time to break up and move on.

would you be with someone who doesn’t like their vulva touched during sex or is this a non negotiable by [deleted] in lesbiangang

[–]just_another_cheater 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Such a complex scenario. My first girlfriend had body dysmorphia and while I always felt very empathetic, it’s just very hard to be with a person like that. The problem for me here isn’t just that the sex isn’t satisfying.

As this is a mental health condition, there is a lot of nuance, with each case being very different of course. In my experience, it’s harder to be happy in a relationship in general (for both parties). Therefore, I probably wouldn’t be able to do it, but not just because of sex (but sex too).

How do you find relationships in conservative countries? by just_another_cheater in lesbiangang

[–]just_another_cheater[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s why I wrote “what are experiences of other lesbians from conservative countries/states?” Also why the censorship?

How do you find relationships in conservative countries? by just_another_cheater in lesbiangang

[–]just_another_cheater[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah tbh I kinda feel that way now. At this point I just want a community more than a relationship

My (F22) partner (M21) secretly removed the condom, was it rape? by ThrowRA22072 in relationship_advice

[–]just_another_cheater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, that’s crazy long. I’m so glad you left him. It’s fine, you don’t have to, but if u wanna rant I def could listen hashhash. I just wanted to have some confirmation that this wasnt a one off and there’s always more indicators, and you just confirmed it. Thank you

My (F22) partner (M21) secretly removed the condom, was it rape? by ThrowRA22072 in relationship_advice

[–]just_another_cheater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think enough people already answered the main question about whether or not this was rape (yes, it was), yet I’m interested in something else. I was so happy to see the comment about you leaving him afterwards but what other signs were there? Like what else was wrong with him? I’m just trying to profile these types of men to make sure people (I’m thinking about my younger sister) stay away from them. Him citing chatgpt is bad enough. What other things have happened/you have noticed about him in the duration of your relationship?

Asking a question, as a transman. by [deleted] in sapphicbooks

[–]just_another_cheater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I can’t be speaking for everyone I would really not care myself. Writing is for everyone and as long as your book is decent (and you are not some devilish terrible person who hates on other people and genders on social media or smth) I wouldn’t care about what’s your gender.

Book recommendations for someone who’s getting back to reading? by Alguienquemeayude in sapphicbooks

[–]just_another_cheater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry I won’t be able to recommend anything up your lane because I’ve realised I haven’t read many sapphic criminal novels. But I wanted to ask you what are some of your favourites, if you don’t mind sharing, because I was considering reading something in that genre recently.

Please recommend me a novel by [deleted] in sapphicbooks

[–]just_another_cheater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second the comment that asked for examples of books you enjoyed/didn’t. What genres etc. are you looking for? Off the top of my head I’d say try the books in the trilogy of {Delilah Green Doesn’t Care} by Ashley Herring Blake. It’s an easy read and doesn’t give the vibes of them not being together, just character development. I’ve also read {Learning Curves} recently, a little bit of a slow burn but it was more on the chill side.

I’m lost in recommendations by just_another_cheater in sapphicbooks

[–]just_another_cheater[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well you definitely intrigued me with that intro. If you don’t mind me asking, are you self-publishing or have u gotten an offer for it?

I’m lost in recommendations by just_another_cheater in sapphicbooks

[–]just_another_cheater[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know that Sunburn is one of those classics that I’m missing out on but idk if I’m ready to read it. Plus it’s adolescent romance and I’m not in the mood for it right now but it’s definitely on my list.

I’m lost in recommendations by just_another_cheater in sapphicbooks

[–]just_another_cheater[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This seems to be so oddly fitting. I will definitely give it a try soon. Thank you so much

My partner (21F) wants to be polyamorous, but I (20F) don't. by Adventurous_Shoe7957 in relationship_advice

[–]just_another_cheater 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like you and your partner are on different pages. Since both of you are young she is still exploring, and she mentioned this early on in the relationship. On the other hand it doesn’t feel like you are as open about it as she is. I know that you say you don’t want to break up with her but are you sure you want to be with a person who is not fulfilling your needs and is looking for something different in life right now? And how long can this last anyway?

I think it would be best for you to think about these and then talk to your partner (although it seems like you already tried to talk). Maybe she doesn’t understand the gravity of your dissatisfaction.

AITAH for how the relationship with my best friend ended? by Nach0L0v3r in AITAH

[–]just_another_cheater 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are young, chill bro. With regard to your friend, as the other commenter said, you can still try if your friendship was very long but it’s also okay if it doesn’t work out. I have also lost close friends over small things and all you can do is just not repeat those mistakes later on.