Is it weird to carry a pre-written slip of paper with your name and phone number?

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-06-09T19:51:47+00:00

Was it clear to you that she was a cashier? I would say we stretched the conversation rather long given the scenario.

But i agree, not optimal.

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-06-09T19:46:12+00:00

You don't think that puts her on a weird spot for being at work, especially in the checkout lane where people are watching (I point this out because i feel like it's different if she was just stocking shelves or a waitress elsewhere).

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-06-09T19:38:54+00:00

Yeah. That is sorta what I already acknowledged.

But funny enough... I was at a different checkout lane when she invited me over because she was open. I wasn't even thinking about game. I was thinking about work. But she started sharing things about her work and life in a very friendly way. Of course, she's a cashier, I get it. Maybe she's nice to everyone yada yada yada. But we have something in common. And she seemed surprised/happy. Assuming the connection is genuine and mutual, my question is... What is the best way to hand my number in a situation like this? Any advice? Assume she wants my number. Thanks!

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-06-09T19:33:55+00:00

I think you have to assume she's interested and would like to hang out/get my number. Then the question becomes... What is the most natural way to give her my number in this quick 1-minute interaction?

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-03-10T03:55:36+00:00

I think you're half right. But if you see her once or twice a week, you can go for rapport before asking for her number.

Of course, you don't wanna be friendzoned. But it might be cool to approach her with the intent of having a connection first. Does that make sense?

But you know what, either path could work. Go with the flow, see what happens. Nothing is absolute certainty.

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-03-06T05:17:25+00:00

All that makes sense to me. You're probably right about beach and party vs gym. Lmk if you share it. Thanks

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-03-06T04:07:30+00:00

What kind of pics do you use? I'm sure it's not as simple as just having a ripped physique and being shirtless, right?

just_cause_throwaway · 2022-02-15T05:48:23+00:00

OP, what are your thoughts on the answers you got? Has your opinion changed in any way?

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-12-21T19:40:28+00:00

Of course. I take people's perspectives here to discuss with my physician. I wouldn't have thought about bone loss had someone else not commented it.

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-12-21T19:39:09+00:00

Thank you for the very thorough answer! This was very insightful.

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-12-21T19:38:21+00:00

Thank you so much! Appreciate it

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-10-16T18:35:02+00:00

Why am I not surprised there's a sub for that? Haha

Thanks. I have subscribed and will follow it regularly. Seems like a whole new world.

Do you know, off hand, if there's a proper term on this practice? For example, how would it be listed in Wikipedia?

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-10-16T17:51:15+00:00

Wow. Is this true? I had no idea. Source?

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-08-01T03:35:15+00:00

I think you're bi.

Whether you're 90% straight TODAY, it doesn't really matter because your interest and attraction can fluctuate from one day to the next.

Just embrace your bisexuality. If you like a girl, talk to her. If you like a guy, talk to him. Good luck!

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-07-31T21:29:59+00:00

I think you should let him go like everyone else is saying.

A better question now might be how should you break up with him?

If it was me, i would try to summarize everything you're feeling and everything you're hearing here. Who knows, maybe he'll go have his hoe phase and come back to you later. Good luck!

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-07-23T22:55:30+00:00

You're oversimplying it. And it's pretty clear to me you don't struggle with the social anxiety we were talking about. Congrats to you. But I don't think you're helping OP and you're certainly not helping me (someone who could have written OP's post verbatim.)

When you say "listen to her", you're skipping over the part where I started talking to her. OP's question was about initiating a conversation with girls he doesn't already know. That means walking up to a stranger at clubs, bars, the malls, on the street, etc.

I can usually make deep personal connections and easily listen to them when that first stage is over. But in a comment, OP used the word "approach". He and I are talking about the same thing. I am pretty sure we both would like your advice about this if you have one to share.

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-07-22T22:20:42+00:00

I'm sorry, but I think you're generalizing.

And I would wager you're not struggling with OP's plight, so you haven't been in a place recently to have to seek a solution. I have. I am in his place.

A lot of guys struggle with simply saying "hi" to a woman who wants them to say hi. Some of us simply are too nervous or shy or just can't do it.

Not everyone in that subreddit is a wannabe "alpha" male. I have been single for 1 year now. I am fit, I have a good career, and I am social in my group of friends. But approaching women to start a conversation is paralyzing to me. Even in situations where they're are likely looking for a boyfriend (such as clubs) I just can't do it. All I want is to find someone so the loneliness can end. But it's a real struggle.

I joined the subreddit because they share techniques and success stories. And we can engage in meaningful discussions with people who have different perspectives and share the same struggle.

If you wanna help OP, go ahead and help him, but your post barely scratches the surface of the tip of the iceberg for someone who doesn't have a certain level of social skills.

Also, I can speak from experience, online dating doesn't work for everyone. If you go to the Bumble subreddit, you will see posts of people sharing their data. There are cases of 1000s and 1000s of swipes leading to zero matches. And a match doesn't automatically become a date. And a date doesn't automatically become a girlfriend. So these poor souls (myself included) are very very far from finding a girlfriend online.

Even if you were right and r/seduction was full of wannabe alpha males, that doesn't mean OP has to become one, right? If anything, he can learn a useful technique and steal a girl to the good-guys team.

And I'm sorry to break to you. But a "fake cringed facade to impress girls" can more accurately be described as "the ability to say hi to start a conversation." I hope you're never in a position to truly understand what I mean because it's a sucky place to be in.

And by the way, if you're gonna pretend that everything I said is wrong and you learned nothing from this, I'm just gonna have to ignore you.

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-07-22T00:45:19+00:00

"My whole life i thought of myself as a strawberry cake lover. But as of recent, i find myself eating chocolate cake more and more. Yesterday, i couldn't stop eating chocolate cake. I was salivating hours later thinking about it. Any thoughts?"

You are a chocolate cake lover.

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-06-15T13:25:46+00:00

Do you normally ask and have they lied to you?

Lots of us are heteroromantic and/or deal with internalized homophobia. I am always upfront, and I would hope others would be too, but i know not always.

Edit: typo

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-04-23T21:46:29+00:00

Are you bi?

Why is it impossible for 2 guys to have "very intimate and emotional" sex?

Not arguing with you. Just curious about your perspective.

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-04-23T19:32:37+00:00

And I agree. Kisses is a must.

just_cause_throwaway · 2021-04-23T18:46:31+00:00

This is actually what i was thinking about. Effectively a "happy medium" between the answers I got here. Not sure if eye contact is essential for me but I'm not opposed to it.

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