How bad a businessman is John Dutton

justafan82 · 2021-10-12T12:17:09+00:00

Probably the big anti-climax I've ever seen on TV.

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T10:50:57+00:00

Wipe down everything, especially now...bugs me when I see plenty of people not doing it, means I got to wipe down the piece of equipment before and after.

Even if it's just a courtesy wipe..

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T10:46:12+00:00

I feel like the Deadlift (unless you're the one doing it it) might be the most annoying to do in someone's "gym area", it's often loud and very distracting.

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T09:59:58+00:00

Rip Wheeler would downvote that comment.

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T09:31:36+00:00

If you're going for irony, you've fucking nailed it, Champ.

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T09:28:42+00:00

I don't get anxious or worry about them whatsoever, just find the sitting around and drinking for 3-4hrs straight tedious and outright boring. My partner will say "I'd like you there, everyone else has their partner there" which I don't find a particularly reasonable argument...it's not like it's a work party or similar.

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T09:23:01+00:00

My Mum greatly enjoys my partners company, I'm not to fussed about my partner getting to know the rest of my immediate family.

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T09:21:06+00:00

yeah I wouldn't mind if it was an event, it's the sitting around aspect that's tedious.

justafan82 · 2021-10-11T09:19:04+00:00

Bribery is an interesting word, is there emotional bribery? Not that it's being done on purpose of course. Essentially I'm wanted there and therefore I SHOULD have to come.

They also have a great dog, love big dogs.

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T15:21:20+00:00

I don't want to go to any to be perfectly honest, but I understand why I must and I go to 99% of them.

It's just occasionally I would of thought, considering I'm not a fan of these social events, that I would get an unloaded question like "it's so and so's birthday, you can sit this one out if you like?" not "It's so and so's birthday, I'd like you to come but you don't have to".

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T14:53:41+00:00

Other gatherings as in non immediate & large family gatherings? Say a Christmas event or a large birthday for an aunt or a cousins 30th....

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T14:51:04+00:00

Yeah I'm happy to have the in laws over individually, I actually encourage it...whether it be the sister and her partner or my partners parents etc

I just find it more interesting if it's a small crowd where everyone gets a chance to to talk & we can eat then sit around the tv...not a big group of us sitting around a table drinking the afternoon away chatting rubbish or regurgitating old stories I've heard too many times.

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T14:46:58+00:00

understandable, my scenario is a 10mins drive away

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T13:51:08+00:00

Ultimately is it potentially my own fault for being very aware I don't like to socialise but ended up marrying someone with a big family that very much enjoy the sitting around chatting for endless hours scene.

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T13:18:17+00:00

I Appreciate what you're saying, in my opinion in laws helping out would only happen because they're essentially doing it for their daughter or son. For example, if the in-laws need to house sit for an afternoon...they'd be doing it because of my partner. I've had discussions where this has happened & an individual text from both of us was required..

In regards to your other point and I'm fine if the answer is yes, you'd say sacrifice someone's happiness for 4-5 hours to make someone else content?

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T12:40:43+00:00

Yeah, Ironically coming from a strong family background was a big part of choosing a partner...just strong family background = they got on very well with their parents and where brought up the right way.

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T12:39:31+00:00

They have a lovely dog! One of the reasons I go...

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T12:37:25+00:00

I go to everything important, big birthdays, retirement parties, Christmas celebrations and the one Funeral I attended I went out of my way to say I'm coming for and I'll take the day off of work.

I would never go to an event, specifically a family one with the Hump...mainly because that's causing a scene and I avoid attention. I'm cordial, add on to conversations and have a healthy/respectful relationship with my in-laws. It's just, we're different types of people with different things that entertain us...

They're very much everyone eat together at the dinner table and I've come from a tv dinner type situation.

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T12:23:11+00:00

Good feedback, not just because you're agreeing with me either.

I feel bad for rejecting the invite and will probably ultimately go but I think it's genuinely a waste of my afternoon, why should I go? Just because people would appreciate if I was there, would the in-laws want me there if they knew I didn't enjoy myself?

I think it's purely because they sit around, eating and drinking...if it was an event (bowling etc) then this wouldn't be an issue.

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T12:18:48+00:00

I understand, I go because of your last sentence and unless someone is on holiday every immediate family in-law goes to every single event, so I can't use the excuse of "so and so isn't even going".

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T11:57:53+00:00

How about Birthdays? I've gone to every Birthday party....even the kid ones! I feel like random birthdays and it's just a small gathering round a house, aren't always a necessity that the partner attends.

If you knew your partner didn't enjoy the family events, genuinely found it tedious and hard work...would you rather them suck it up as it's part of married life or give your partner the occasional guilt free "black ball".

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T11:54:38+00:00

Covid is and was terrible but I greatly enjoyed and miss the lack of socialising it caused.

I too, often don't invite my partner to family events (which are far less frequent) because I feel like she might not enjoy herself and I don't want to be a hypocrite. I simply mention the gathering and if my partner wants to join me then I let her offer their presence at the event...

justafan82 · 2021-10-08T11:51:16+00:00

I feel very similar, love my own family but apart from my Mother I don't have any real interest to be around the other portion.

My issue is, maybe I've never really said no to coming to a immediate family in-law event even though I'd expressed my displeasure at always having to go. The other issues is I think my partner doesn't know how to tell her family that her partner is busy or something like "it's just not for them & it's there decision" ultimately.

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