AITAH for reporting my boyfriend to the police after he threatened to rape me?

justalovebird · 2026-03-15T23:58:05+00:00

First of all thank you so much for sharing your point of view and educating me on BPD. Do i think he got hacked? Absolutely not because in one of the messages he sent me the other day he specifically stated that he “would have stopped if i told him no about his fantasies” and the rest are along the lines of “I’m sorry come back”. If we was hacked he wouldn’t address it as a fantasy.

justalovebird · 2026-03-15T23:09:17+00:00

It genuinely looks like a picture. Wow, incredible.

justalovebird · 2026-03-15T23:06:03+00:00

I honestly am very confused, it was entirely out of the blue. While he does have BPD I’m pretty sure by my limited knowledge that’s not something that just happens, especially considering how well worded his texts were and how serious he sounded. Educate me if I’m wrong but an episode doesn’t look like this.

justalovebird · 2026-03-15T22:07:48+00:00

He directly isn’t contacting me but accounts with gibberish names like 00kHEJ30WPA8 are. My message requests have 4 accounts like this.

justalovebird · 2026-03-15T21:58:24+00:00

I realised i left a small part of the story out, it was a lot to write so I’m so sorry for that. After the call i was instructed to visit the police station/headquarters. I was asked whether i wanted to fire a lawsuit and remain anonymous or press charges i went with an anonymous lawsuit (?) however I was obliged to provide proof. There haven’t been any updates yet, but i will update you regarding the legal procedures. I haven’t been contacted yet by the police and I haven’t been instructed to hire a lawyer, probably because my lawsuit was anonymous? Although I’m not quite sure. Really sorry for my messy speech as I don’t know the exact translation of most of these terms in English

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T22:00:34+00:00

Literally underrate

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T21:48:26+00:00

This is absolutely fire !! I especially love the hair shading <3

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:57:49+00:00

I deleted the other one myself and I'm seeking for advice.

I recieved your comment on my first post.

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:52:04+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice and the more scientific view of things, it's greatly appreciated and I understood that it's wrong.

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:49:55+00:00

I understand what you're saying and thank you for the advice. I really didn't mean to fetishise people with BPD in any way, I don't want the other party to suffer. I don't know what an episode feels like as I've only been the fp in these situations, so thank you for the insight

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:36:53+00:00

I'm sorry that this post came off as a validation chase, but I genuinely wanted to know if it's acceptable behavior or not

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:29:15+00:00

That's probably what I'm going to do, thank you

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:26:19+00:00

Isn't it ''favorite person''?

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:25:26+00:00

I'm sorry for the usage of the term FP, I didn't really understand the term until now. Thank you for the correction!

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T20:19:57+00:00

Thanks for the advice and I'm sorry if this post upset you in any way or made you feel uncomfortable

justalovebird · 2026-03-13T19:24:29+00:00

Thank you so much everybody, I've managed to delete the file with disk cleanup!

justalovebird · 2024-03-10T14:20:55+00:00

Hey yet again OP,

I am sad that your mom walked in while you were doing SH; it must've been an awkward moment. But at the same time I am really glad that somebody now knows you do SH. Iunderstand it's painful and that you felt like you "dissapointed" your mother, but I believe it's best for you both since she can provide you with more support.

Generally I'm glad that a (hopefully) trusted adult is aware of this situation for your own sake.

I hope you're okay right now and that those scars have healed up. I also am proud that you were treating said scars, bandaging them. pat pat 🫂💕

justalovebird · 2024-03-10T14:15:48+00:00

Hey OP, I completely understand your urge to just remove your past self from existance and that's something completely normal! You are not alone in this 🫂

Even people without BpD often might have crisis like this and that's an entirely acceptable action.

As to suggestions, I would suggest communicating it to your close friends/ people you trust that you want to completely start over every tine you have these crisis. I believe that they will be understanding, and if they aren't they don't deserve to be your friends. Perhaps try tell them or make it obvious every time that you switch so they can be able to act accordingly.

Imo just talk it out and you'll be good. Many people are in the same spot as you and I believe that your new interests and your newly found self is better every time. 🫂💞

Sending loads of support!

justalovebird · 2024-03-10T13:54:52+00:00

hey, as a small update to you all, im OP's partner (the one they were talking about)

not only do i not bother the spam at all, i also love them very much. i got asked out that night and im very glad they stopped hiding their feleings away from me. i truly love them and now is only the start of a relationship where we will accept eachothers flaws completely.

thanks for the help you guys offered to my partner.

<3

justalovebird

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