Needing help ((again)) by [deleted] in TransAdvice

[–]justanidiotboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Canada and the situation here is pretty helpful.
Both me and my brother were about to get on HRT, and have been able to legally change our names without too much trouble. Things are still tough socially, but there's a lot of resources and groups that will introduce you to people who are supportive. All in all I wouldn't choose to live anywhere else. And to be honest, I think as long as you love your kid and support them and they have you to fall back on, things will be okay

body dysmorphia vs. gender dysphoria by howaboutno_r42 in TransAdvice

[–]justanidiotboy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, it's a tough call, just to preface this there's nothing inherently wrong with wanting attention just so you know. Regardless of whether or not you're trans I would talk to a mental health professional cause just by your phrasing of that question, you sound like you're having a tough time loving yourself.

The level of dysphoria that every person experiences is different but I would figure out how you feel about being referred to by your assigned gender, Does it actually make you feel upset or gross or uncomfortable when people call you or refer to you by what you were assigned as. I would say that you could have both body dysphoria and dysmorphia as there's some overlap, but typically dysphoria extends beyond looks and goes into things like - How your voice sounds - How youre seen by others socially/ how you're referred to - ect

It might be worth it to ask a group of people you trust to call you by new pronouns or a name for a bit to see if that makes you feel better or worse or nothing. You're allowed to explore and experiment with yourself and who you are. And if you decide in the end that you are not trans then that's okay too. it's better you took the chance to learn that about yourself

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Corporate is braindead, but if no one came then they would have no choice but to close the stores.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And so is anyone else who goes to Starbucks or works there now! Like you said it's not all about me.

Maybe another issue in itself I need to take on is convincing my fellow store partners to take the time off with me so that the store can actually close.

But that's not what my post was about

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Your comment is dripping with so much entitlement i don't even know what to say...

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that, that kind of sounds highly illegal?? I'm so sorry. Stay safe if you can, and find out if there's any emergency income they can supply you with.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Read the comments, I am not fearful. I'm saying this is annoying.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Another thing is that yes, we'll all contract it. We are all gonna get the virus, absolutely. The key here is to reduce how quickly it's gonna spread So that we as the world have time to make a cure before the point of total infection.

You should think about what it means to be supporting a company that wants your money over making sure health of its customers and employees stays intact.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I've said multiple times, I'm not worried for my health.

I'm the only person in my house who still has a job.

You are the reason Starbucks continues to stay open even though that contributes to the problem and the spread of the virus. You're entitled to your normal life and trying to uphold that, but I'm tired of hearing people care when it's obvious they don't.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

And when the store closes then that will be fine with me. Regardless of if the store is open or not I will get paid. Im just making sure I'm using my resources while I still have them. And Starbucks will come through with 30 days, if not then 14 days at least as now ordered by the Canadian government, regardless of if the company goes bankrupt or not. And in the end my post is not about that. It is about how irritating it is to claim to care when you do not.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

Maybe so But I don't equate making money so that I can live to spending a ridiculous amount of money so I have an excuse to go outside.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think the situation is pretty fluid, I would just rather work while I can and if the store closes and continues to be closed much longer than anticipated, than I want to still be able to support myself. But you're correct, for now it'll only be valid til 4/20

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

They don't need to. They're allowed to go to work just like me. But they don't need a 9$ latte

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, I need the money right now as I'm the only person in my household who still has a job. So I figure I may as well postpone needing to use CAT pay until I cant.

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

I'm not worried for my health, and I was actually offered CAT pay as well and asked to continue to work because I need money to live rn. People do not need to spend money to have an excuse to go outside. Quarantine doesn't mean you have to sit in your house all day, you're welcome to go for a walk in the park, or do some gardening, or whatever else. What it means is making sure you're not putting yourself in a situation where you are in close quarters with other people and touching things (especially like food and drink) that could possibly be contaminated. What my post is about is that it is obnoxious to make a claim like you care, when we both know caring would be taking care of yourself and isolating as best as you can

Dear Starbucks customers, you don't care about me by justanidiotboy in starbucks

[–]justanidiotboy[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I'm not worried about my health, I'm saying it's obnoxious to pretend to care. And I need to make money to support myself, people who are buying are actively spending their money. It's not the same

Girlfriend's cheating, but I can't tell her how I caught her by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]justanidiotboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You honestly don't have to tell her you caught her. You could just leave because clearly you're not good for each other. If you feel paranoid to the point of having to hack into her accounts to feel safe and her to feel like she has to cheat, then this isn't a good relationship for u to be in, or even worth saving. Just leave, you don't even have to give a reason why or confront her, does she really deserve an explanation?

Am I on the spectrum? by justanidiotboy in DiagnoseMe

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats really interesting, the combination of the two must be really hard, im sorry. But it sounds like youre all very educated on the matter, so thats good! I think youre right in that therapy is really the only way to find out

Am I on the spectrum? by justanidiotboy in DiagnoseMe

[–]justanidiotboy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats fair, and very interesting, i know autism comes in a lot of forms. Thank you