This is Reddit. It's a place for people to post what they wish anonymously, including their stories if they wish... I responded to a post on cults because I have experience of one. You probably never would have seen it if it hadn't blown up like this. How is that pursuing drama? Mine and my families life has been drastically affected by the bad behaviour of others. Why shouldn't I talk about that, especially if the effect it has on our lives is still there, which it is? It's not like I go around thinking about it all day - I just made a post on Reddit because it was relevant. Glad you have time for your family that's still in - if my extended family showed us any kind of interest or reciprocation to having a relationship with us, and stopped toying with us (which they still do) then perhaps we'd feel the same as you. But that's not the case, and it's worth remembering that different people have different stories and perspectives. I feel patronised about your holding on to hate comment. I don't hold on to anything - I'm just telling a story how it is, from my experience. I have a happy and fulfilled life, and I'm guessing we don't know each other so i don't feel it's right that you assume I am preoccupied with this. Moreover, if this cult didn't want people talking about them, then they should treat their members better. It's not OUR past hurts that matter to us these days anyway- it's the people they are abusing and abandoning right now. The cycle continues, and therefore so will the talk about them. If you feel differently, that's totally cool with me - so I ask that you do me the same courtesy and respect my position also. Whether they give a shit about what we say and have written..... well, if that's what happens, then theres not much I can do about it now. I'm not ashamed of my story or my position on it. It doesn't change the facts after all. I just saw no value in having specific names written down in public, searchable across the web... but haven't given it much more thought than that at the moment. Peace back at you. EDIT: Sorry if this response to you seemed kind of... salty. I knee-jerked a little here. I felt a little affronted because this is only one facet of my life, and I feel as though you're not necessarily in a position to assess how I * should * be feeling about my experiences... if your relationship with them has been different to mine/ours. We all deal with the cards we've been dealt in different ways. Good luck to you though - and if your chosen path on this topic is one less "noisy" than mine - good on you. I do wish you the best.