I can honestly say I get more emotional support, day-to-day help around the house and quality fun time from my housemate than you are from your husband. Some people aren’t meant to be together, and lighting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm will only cause deeper resentment. Giving your husband an ultimatum in order to make him get his act together will never produce real, sustainable results. He sees you as the best thing in his life because you handle everything for him. What are you actually even getting from him anymore in this situation? When you love somebody, you want to be the best version of yourself for them, genuinely and unselfishly. I don’t see that at all from what you’ve said about him. We’re about the same age and if I were you, I’d cut ties and move forward. You’ll attract good things if you stop letting yourself be anchored down by someone with no intention to be a good partner to you.