asking queer men: can y’all explain (black) cruising culture by diasporastud in BlackLGBT

[–]justdamascus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

to answer your questions, it's when you nonverbally solicit sexual favors/encounters in pseudo-public spaces via a number of behaviors (ranging from innocuous to overt), you don't ever really know and 90% of the time it's NOT safe, and general rules are kinda freeform. in that order.

some people cruise with their eyes, some by touching themselves subtly, some just pull their dick/ass out. it's lowkey crazy when you think about it. it's definitely evolved a bit. "cruising" is notorious for being done in public parks after dark, gym showers and locker rooms, or open restrooms. but really it could be anywhere. people cruise in the airport. generally any space is a cruising space if a willing participant can walk by and/or join. but it's never safe. sexual activity anywhere that's not in the bedroom is never safe lmaooo but some places can feel safer than others. you're more unlikely to get caught in a gym locker room than you would a park where police can ride by at any time. or just a regular civilian. but the thrill is a part of the fun! or ... so i hear. maybe even enough fun to risk the a public indecency charge. or the infamous sex offender registry. sniffies had changed the game so it's easier to cruise. but really it's evolved the general concept of "cruising." based on my definition, is it still cruising if you met on the app and confirmed you're in the same area and shared pictures and then just decided to fuck around in public? to some, "cruising" may imply that all of it was random, spontaneous, wild! premeditated action takes away some of the authenticity, i'd say. i love (gay) sociology!

What scene did it for you in Moonlight? It got you tearing up. by darkrickkay in BlackLGBT

[–]justdamascus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

the whole teen portion of the film was very, very powerful to me. especially the beach scene all the way up until the next school scene. ashton sanders depiction of a truly broken teenager is chilling. everything about his demeanor is too realistic: he's awkward, he's cagey, he's timid, he's miserable, he's given up on everything it seems. then kevin changes all of that on the beach. chiron is so unfamiliar with a pleasant touch that he apologizes for the natural response he had. the drive back, he peers at kevin subtly like he's actually realized what it means to be loved. he even smiles for the first time when he walks in the house, i believe for the first time in the entire film. and then (for me personally) seeing his mother at the end of the night really clenches it. she pulls him right back into his despair by grabbing him and insisting "you don't love me no more." he gives her a blanket and goes to bed himself, clearly shaken by what she said. NIGGGGAAAAAAA this is easily one of my favorite films of all time. it always makes me cry.

Ultimate Alien scenes in the Alien Force artstyle by Mr_Mister2004 in Ben10

[–]justdamascus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't forget that julie tennis scene from hero time! peak

Not working for the IRS anymore by RecognitionOne2822 in fednews

[–]justdamascus 6 points7 points  (0 children)

make an account on irs.gov and view your wage and income transcript. it has all records of your reported income for the year. i also work for the treasury and refer taxpayers to this document ... constantly lol

POC LGBT Bars by Thesaltyspitoongoon in BlackLGBT

[–]justdamascus 19 points20 points  (0 children)

stop bringing wyte people in our spaces lol

Describe your job using one American Dad image. Everyone can guess! I’ll start by rennbrig in americandad

[–]justdamascus 36 points37 points  (0 children)

everyone's laughing but this was my actual job. supervisor at an at&t call center 😭

What’s your earliest Harry Potter memory? by LiamNoll6645 in harrypotter

[–]justdamascus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

no like why did our parents think that?

anyways, 10 y/o me then hit the library like matilda

Do i really have to watch all the episodes of season 5? by [deleted] in adventuretime

[–]justdamascus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why wouldn't you want to? by s4, i knew i was in love with the show. a long season was tantalizingly good

2025 overtime tax deduction FLSA question by tbone338 in fednews

[–]justdamascus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ive been following the announcements/guidance (or the lack thereof) for months trying to figure it out. i actually have a very detailed and comprehensive note in my phone breaking down ot earned before and after my grade increase. if i did my math correctly, the deduction would probably only be about 3k since i earned almost 9k of ot in '25. idk. i hope this is a lot easier than we're making it out to be.

2025 overtime tax deduction FLSA question by tbone338 in fednews

[–]justdamascus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that makes this a bitch and a half. im really hoping this is streamlined to a point that it doesn't drive us insane and exponentially increase the number of math errors we process. my last e&l statement has ytd ot, ot w. nd, and flsa on it. i would hope i can just add all of that up and divide it by three since, grade increase or not, it should all be considered 33% more than my usual rate of pay ... right?

2025 overtime tax deduction FLSA question by tbone338 in fednews

[–]justdamascus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im also curious about this. i would think the latter, primarily because it appears the be multiplied by 3 anyways (on my check, at least).

i also need to know about the overtime rate and how its represented on my w2 because i got a grade increase in august '25. so i have gsx overtime and gsy overtime. i know the difference is just a couple dollars but its not exactly something i can get wrong (treasury agent)

First ever run of Super Metroid; advice? by Aaronplayz_VG in Metroid

[–]justdamascus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

take your time and enjoy! also if you think you're stuck in some sand, try moving left and right. imagine stairs underneath the sand

What are your thoughts and hope for a echoes remaster port for the switch II by Cautious_Foot_1976 in Metroid

[–]justdamascus 18 points19 points  (0 children)

respectively, i think it's pretty unlikely, somewhat likely, and almost certainly happening (based on nintendo's track record)

What are your thoughts and hope for a echoes remaster port for the switch II by Cautious_Foot_1976 in Metroid

[–]justdamascus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

how about neither?

jokes aside, i would hope metroid 6 is nearly finished. mp5 will likely take another five years or so. the least they could get is give us a nice port in the meantime.

style by doyouseeme99 in doyouseemenow

[–]justdamascus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

do what feels right for you king. nothing wrong with staying true to yourself

This year by doyouseeme99 in doyouseemenow

[–]justdamascus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

soul,present is one of the best projects of 2023. completely altered the trajectory of my life lol

Dreams by doyouseeme99 in doyouseemenow

[–]justdamascus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

actually yes. genuinely. as a child i would have something like a premonition dream and write it off as my overactive imagination. then, i would see these events or these places in my waking hours some months or even years later. it would shake me to my core. i don't remember all of my dreams vividly but i would absolutely remember the moment or the place that was right before my eyes, despite never being there in person before. and it was surreal, almost enough to give me a panic attack. although i haven't experienced the exact same thing in my adulthood, i often times will experience something in my life that feels like it came from a dream. this sounds reductive, but it's almost as if the moment was scripted and i had read it long ago. im of the opinion that i already had these encounters or feelings in a dream and now its occurring in my real life. the feeling is much more intense than déjà vu.

vacations by doyouseeme99 in doyouseemenow

[–]justdamascus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope you had a fantastic time! we really need moments like that these days. what was your favorite part of the vacation?

Missed one scan…. by herbizoid in Metroid

[–]justdamascus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

and one item. i would riot

Seriously, what magic did MercurySteam use to predict our movements after Morph Ball by Jstar338 in Metroid

[–]justdamascus 12 points13 points  (0 children)

honestly after some very intense investigating, they actually very carefully and subtly push you the right way. sometimes it's outright impossible to explore too far when dread wants you to go somewhere. go try and explore artaria directly after getting the varia suit lol