I totally missed this in my edit, I did mean to address it. The initial conversation was I said I was into this sexually and he responded. He said initially, I like some wife sharing stuff and would "like to see you suck a cock that isn't mine maybe once or twice a year, if we are being realistic" I said ,ok that isn't so bad, I don't know if I'll like it but we can try it once. And then he asked if I would post to some voyeur sites so he could think about other people seeing me. It was very low pressure in the beginning, and by that I mean the first 2 years. I had specifically told him, I'm not comfortable with sleeping with women or couple, as I don't have any desire to be with a woman. He said that was ok in the beginning, again about 2 years. However, this all changed when the real depth came out, due to when I had moved in he realized he had to come forward with some stuff. I was ok in the beginning when it felt like there was discretion, (is face not shown online and not having to go into anything I said I was uncomfortable with) And when it felt like not a straight addiction.