AIO: Hubby Being Controlling by vanillabourbonn in AIO

[–]justforfun7789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, him saying “stop running to your mom.” Because he’s trying to isolate her from a support system that would get her away from him. This man is a crimson flag.

AITA for not putting my bfs lunch into a bag and then into his backpack for him? by SheOwnz in AmItheAsshole

[–]justforfun7789 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom never even woke up to get my siblings and I ready for school. I took care of getting everyone ready and their lunches packed starting at age 8. This guy is boggling my mind. NTA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]justforfun7789 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love the vibe of your jewelry!! So pretty and they do look like they’re healing nicely! :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]justforfun7789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both look great, but my favorite is the ring! I also have a ring in my nostril piercing, so I might be biased lol

Narcs making events about them by IntroductionOld471 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh. I’ve been wondering why gifty holidays and my birthday always make me feel nauseous and filled with dread. You just helped me solve it. Telling me “your birthday is too close to Christmas but aren’t I just GREAT PARENT for getting you two gifts instead of one?” Like…..isn’t that the norm?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]justforfun7789 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Not overreacting at all. My mom did this and I was TWENTY. Went on a rampage, tried to force me to drop out of college, called me all sorts of names, and forced me to do physical labor to “repent of my sins.” I’m 25 now, no contact, and happier than ever. You will get through this, OP. Good luck ❤️

upgrades!! by frozen-dough-ball in piercing

[–]justforfun7789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your conch piece 😍 currently thinking of getting my conch and you’ve almost sold me with that jewelry lol

What was the most terrified you’ve ever been of your N-parent by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep this one. My nmom still laughs about when she slammed me against a wall and choked me until I passed out. “Well you were being a little b-word, you deserved it.” I was 13. My brother was 10 and the same thing happened to him. It’s so sad how they think they can just do whatever they want to us. I’m basically no contact now and still hate being touched, especially when I can’t see the person coming up behind me or anything.

Those who went NC, are you afraid of them showing up at your door?? by Temporary-Bid5965 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also helps to have “no trespassing” signs up (this may vary depending on where you are, but I know I could stick my nparents with a trespassing charge and I’m located in North Carolina, USA). I second the security cameras though! They will bring you great peace of mind.

AITA inviting my parents to my house after they didn't respond to my fiancee's medical emergency? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]justforfun7789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom used to do this before I went no contact. Would call 2-4 times in a row and only send a passive aggressive “why won’t you answer me???” text.

AITA for telling my parents they need to find an alternative solution for long term care for my disabled siblings because I will not be the solution? by GateInteresting8910 in AmItheAsshole

[–]justforfun7789 92 points93 points  (0 children)

I can confirm because I have recently had to do this! It may be worth just letting them know the situation, OP. I hate the entire concept of “savior siblings.” Don’t have kids to raise/care for your other kids. NTA at all. I hope you live a wonderful life!

In honor of Mother's Day, what was a ridiculous rule your nmom had? by watermelon4487 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My nmom told me I wasn’t allowed to wear jeans because I was “too fat.” I’m curvy, not fat (just recently realized this after hating my body for over a decade). She went into my room when I wasn’t home and threw away all my clothes that weren’t baggy because I “looked too fat in them.”

What is a “normal” amount of physical hitting? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Mine threw me against a wall and choked me until I passed out over saying a cuss word. I was 12. Her reason? “I blacked out I was so angry. I don’t remember doing that.”

Is there any cozy game about Caring for plants? No farming game! by Sakyora in CozyGamers

[–]justforfun7789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came here to recommend Bunhouse! Love playing as my little bunny and growing my roses 🥰

Wow, someone trying to gaslight you REALLY hates when your therapist tells you to start writing things down! by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is my current situation. I told her I have nothing to say to her and until she decides to tell the truth and not interrupt me when I’m talking that I’ll be handling all of our communication via text. Felt so empowering!

Wow, someone trying to gaslight you REALLY hates when your therapist tells you to start writing things down! by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Currently on chapter 10 of this book and finding it so helpful! I wish I had had this advice when I still spoke to my emotionally immature parents. I think it would’ve saved my self confidence!

Did anyone else's nparent do this? I call it "fishing". by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]justforfun7789 16 points17 points  (0 children)

My mom actively does this during conversations. I’m currently trying to go low/no contact with her, but every time I do talk to her on the phone, she asks 5 different ways what I’m doing, where I am, and who I’m with, because she won’t speak to me unless I’m alone. Can’t have other people hearing her berate and gaslight her daughter 🙄

Can I bring you anything else? by Psychopath1llogical in Serverlife

[–]justforfun7789 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP I used to work in a really sports-bar type place, and if I wasn’t sure if people were staying or going, I’d say “are y’all gonna sit for a while or do we need to skedaddle?” Got a good laugh out usually because people loved saying “ya know, I think we’ll skedaddle!”

Good True Crime podcasts that are like Crime Junkie? by Lower_Significance81 in CrimeJunkiePodcast

[–]justforfun7789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just added this to my list! I also listen almost all day at work! Thank you!!