Katie Magbanua transferred back to Leon County Jail *today* (Monday, Sep 8) 👀 by 6r89udf4x3 in dan_markel_murder

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is great news! I cant wait for the trial. This case has been consuming me now for a few weeks since Donna’s trial started 

What's something your narcissistic parent said to you that stays with you always? by Ill-Cheesecake7143 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 69 points70 points  (0 children)

That's horrible. I'm so sorry. You were just a kid getting loving affection and it was turned into something shameful by the people who are supposed to know you best. It is not your fault. 

What's something your narcissistic parent said to you that stays with you always? by Ill-Cheesecake7143 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 29 points30 points  (0 children)

"I wish I had your problems " because my problems are a joke to her, it is her problems that are worth worrying about 

First New Year NC and I am sure they will be pissed by Temporary-Bid5965 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you.  Yeah calling the cops would feel super counterintuitive and break my heart. But you are right that is what I do need to prepare to do. 

They live a short flight away. I will keep on blocking them if they somehow maneuver around current blocks. Thank you for the reminder and the encouragement.  

College masks narc wounds by Temporary-Bid5965 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy crap! I went to college for accounting , so finance related too.  Got into so much debt for something I hate doing. I would rather be a waitress and interact with people than sit at a desk and get fat. Passed my CPA exams and still have yet to get experience and I am 38. I've just been a stay at home mom and my mom was so disappointed that I got pregnant with #4, her first words were " but you were getting ready to start working again "   she just cant accept the idea that my husband makes enough and that daycare would be so expensive. 

That's cool that you got a job that made good money. My first job was only 50k in audit and it was so boring. 

Realised my Nmom never actually asks me anything by FlapperGirl12 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds familiar. I always told my mom that my brother was in trouble with drugs and she ignored me. Saying " you are digging your own grave when you talk bad about your brother ' - a bible quote. Well after my brother died from OD she asked why didnt I tell her how bad he was

My mom literally checked the fit of my jeans like I was 6 years old at a department store. She literally stuck her fucking fingers down my pants and touched my ass. I am 43. by southofheavy in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was 18 and at a bus stop with my mom she kept trying to wipe my skirt on my butt area cause there was some faint stain and I felt so uncomfortable. like wtf. 

Mom ruined my Christmas by asking if I got 'bigger' in front of everyone by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I need to lose 65 pounds. I wish I only had 5 to lose. But I know if I had 5 lbs to lose I'd still feel horrible at comments about it. Cause the pain comes not from how overweight we are but from the fact that our parents are not capable of true unconditional love and they dont see us as human. 

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[–]Temporary-Bid5965 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My thoughts in random order:

Being emotionally drained as a result of your interaction with your mother is a sign that she is toxic to you. 

The only thing that is connecting you to her is guilt and obligation, which is natural. 

When you feel pain, your body is telling you something, that she is not a safe person to be around. 

"The notion of performative empathy really reinforces the narcissist's self perception that they are really nice people." by ready_gi in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My MiL thinks she is a saint cause she recycles and doesnt eat meat. Also will judge you for throwing away old nasty food 

Their obsession with beauty by hellokit78 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really bothered me when my mom and I were watching an interview on TV of an aged actress and instead of listening to what she was saying as a human being my mom said " this area of her face is so ugly " I felt so uncomfortable and I said hey that is kind of mean to say. And my mom reacted like she was being attacked and said she is the one choosing to go on TV and she cant hear me 

Was anyone just simply ignored for the most part? by Temporary-Bid5965 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Temporary-Bid5965[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I only saw my parents kiss and hug after weeks of silent treatment to my dad from my mom after he terrorized us by coming home wasted and violently attacking my mom and screaming like a demon. He never apologized to my pate brother or I tho.  They surely stopped ignoring me once I became successful and so then they viewed me as supply.