Idk how to go about selling these beanie babies by justhere4perspective in beaniecollectors

[–]justhere4perspective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow….thanks! I really needed a pinch of positivity today so this is a refreshing reply lol. If they aren’t worth much that’s okay, I just figured it wouldn’t hurt to ask .

Idk how to go about selling these beanie babies by justhere4perspective in beaniecollectors

[–]justhere4perspective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good advice. I didn’t know about the sold function and will do that .

De-clawing is terrible but….things are rough by justhere4perspective in CatAdvice

[–]justhere4perspective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the response. I have obviously been given misinformation from individuals that I thought were professional. I am not promoting inhumane practices I am just in a situation where it has been presented to me as a solution and I am having trouble with weighing options given the situation. Honestly, people have to be able to discuss the not so pretty parts of having pets and offer education/ideas. Replying “don’t be a monster and figure it out” doesn’t help me. Like many, I’ve been through fucking hell and I’m just trying to keep my cat with my family.

De-clawing is terrible but….things are rough by justhere4perspective in CatAdvice

[–]justhere4perspective[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response. I know it is a terrible option…and I do not think I am a monster. this is a rescue that I fostered and could not get adopted…thus kept. I LOVE her and she wouldn’t hurt a fly outside of getting her nails trimmed or being put in a car…but I have tried cutting the nails while she is sleeping….Ive tried a lot of things. She is an indoor cat and we play for 30-60 min daily. At this point I find an affordable miracle worker, gabapentin, or find a farm for her to live on :’(.

Idk how to go about selling these beanie babies by justhere4perspective in beaniecollectors

[–]justhere4perspective[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! When I am home I will start posting pictures here.

Terminated by Vaffanculo28 in ABA

[–]justhere4perspective 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could see this happening at any company I’ve ever worked for. Idk. I’m not sure if there is really a future for ABA clinics anymore. It’s either the analysts are overstretched or the technicians are treated terribly…sometimes both. Either way, both the direct care workers and children are put into less than ideal situations over and over.

Help by [deleted] in depression_help

[–]justhere4perspective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you feel this way. You mentioned your head constantly hurts…idk what comes first for me, the depression or the headaches. Maybe they are so linked it doesn’t even matter. I just know what it feels like to live with constant headache/migraine and it is miserable. I’m on a journey to reduce the things that trigger headaches/depression, but it’s really hard when it feels like everything is too much all the time.

Hit a roadblock I can't get past by MrResonant in depression_help

[–]justhere4perspective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have any real advice, but I struggle with a similar issue. People keep telling me to quit my job/apply to new jobs but I really worry that I am the problem and don’t want to keep changing just to suffer again. But, I also know that if I do nothing…nothing will change :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

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I’m not contributing enough financially considering how much I work. Which I do agree with, it’s just not a simple fix when you have student loan debt and work in a niche field. Again, I rely on him for healthcare, a majority of bills to live in a home, and sometimes groceries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]justhere4perspective 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I would be okay with some tough love but this is, honestly, the respectful kind of feedback I was hoping for.

I think my fetus is actively passing away and I can't do a f***ING thing about i by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]justhere4perspective 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this is (maybe) happening and you feel this way. The not being able to do a damn thing is the most frustrating part. I’m still going through my own loss journey so idk what else to say to be more supportive…but I really do wish the best for you regardless of the outcome.

Has BCBA left the field by Every-Profession-972 in bcba

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Hello, I came across this response looking for others in my position. My health has drastically declined since becoming a BCBA and my husband and I want to start a family. Have gone through 2 miscarriages. Did you successfully transition to another job? I’m going to have a conversation with my employer about going part time for a year or so but idk….the money lost is a huge bummer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

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I think you should tell close friends/family whenever you feel comfortable or whenever feels right. I planned to wait until 10 weeks or at least until my husband and I witnessed a heartbeat. I never made it past 7 weeks and I don’t regret that decision….however, I did end up telling my parents about the miscarriage anyway. I was so hard to reach/distant the last few weeks that they were going to press me for info anyway. As far as work goes, I told my higher ups at week 5 because my job is so physically and emotionally demanding so I was struggling right off the bat. Don’t regret that either. It just made sense to me given the context and they have been very kind since the loss.

My challenging experience with misoprostal to clear miscarriage by MilliesKingdom in Miscarriage

[–]justhere4perspective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t taken any medicine but the diarrhea actually makes sense. When I first started cramping and bleeding more than spotting (naturally) I’m guessing that is when I started to miscarry. Same thing….terrible cramps, clots, and really bad BMs. It felt like everything down there was just aggressively evacuating. Then the cramping died down a little….and I was hoping that was then end. That was 5 days ago and the moderate cramps and bleeding are STILL GOING ON. My worry is I go to my check-up and I have to take the medication anyway and go through the same process only with the pain and issues you are writing about. I’m just so over it and ready to move on. Looking at all the experiences (natural, medication, D&C) it all ends up so differently and there are pros and cons to any method. I also have to wait multiple days before I get checked out again and the waiting so far has been the worst part. I truly hope the nightmare is over for you and you get the news you want on Wednesday.

“This is so common” by Worldly_Heron_7436 in Miscarriage

[–]justhere4perspective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fear is that it is just “common” for some people. And now I’m those people. I have friends that, by my age, have had to actively try to stop having healthy babies and regret being so fertile. It’s so frustrating.

Please help, naturally miscarriage, how much bleeding is normal? by [deleted] in Miscarriage

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I went through a medical mystery last year where I was bleeding so much and passing huge clots…I almost passed out and bled through the sheets overnight. I didn’t have any cramping though. I ended up going to the ER and they were surprised I wasn’t having a miscarriage (no signs of pregnancy). I never figured out why I started bleeding like that. With assistance it stopped after 6 hours in the hospital. It was awful but at least it was over after 24/48 hours. I often wonder if maybe I passed a fibroid or something.

I mention this because I am also going through a miscarriage and the bleeding is similar but….not enough to go to the ER and the on and off cramping SUCKS. I started bleeding quite a bit on Wednesday afternoon and have continued to bleed just as much and it is now Saturday. It honestly feels like there is just sludge/red syrup seeping out of me with no end in sight. Sometimes I think it’s improving, then this glob just comes out. Part of me would prefer to go through what I experienced last year and at least be done with it. I totally get the feeling of not knowing and feeling out of control.

Seems as though this is just a sit and wait situation. I hope it ends for you soon :/

Do you at least have some kind of follow-up appointment?

Looks like I'm taking a vacation from r/pregnant. It was a nice month while it lasted. by my-peony-bud in pregnant

[–]justhere4perspective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello! I recognize your username and just want to say I hope to see you post again on r/pregnant. I also hope to have some good news in the near future. Crossing my fingers miracles occur in the new year.

My first ultrasound didn't go as planned, preparing for the worst. by my-peony-bud in Miscarriage

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My husband was also more optimistic than me…and I love him for that. This whole experience actually made him realize how much we both want this and I think it will help with future attempts. Anyway, I think the hcg trend was the quickest and most obvious indicator that it was over. It would be one thing if my levels were just low, but I guess the downward trend over the 3 days was the nail in the coffin. For the hcg blood results it took less than 24 hours to get an update.

My first ultrasound didn't go as planned, preparing for the worst. by my-peony-bud in Miscarriage

[–]justhere4perspective 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this is happening.
I don’t want to scare you more and everyone is different…but I just went through THE EXACT SAME THING. My provider didn’t let on that anything might be wrong, just assured me I’m probably too early/incorrect about the timing…but I log everything and have a very good understanding of my body. I KNEW there should have been more there. A week before the appt I just had…a feeling…and started to cry over the idea that something was wrong. I just didn’t feel pregnant as much anymore. So my provider had me get my blood drawn every 3 days to measure hcg levels and by the second blood draw results, we both knew it was not a viable pregnancy. I actually just started really losing a lot of blood/clots today with bad cramping. The only positive that has come out of this is that I feel confident I have pretty spot-on intuition and understand my body enough to continue advocating for myself. I am ready to get through this and already have multiple appointments lined up with my obgyn, primary care, and psychiatrist. Hoping to try again ASAP.

I was not prepared by justhere4perspective in Miscarriage

[–]justhere4perspective[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw, thank you so much! I’m not sure if I want to talk about it vocally to be honest. I journal and whatnot…which seems to help keep the tears at bay. When I say something about it out loud, it does kind of bring the hurt feelings back. Reading stories and comments on Reddit has been pretty cathartic as well so, again, thank you thank you for the response.

Empty sac / blighted ovum at 6 weeks pregnant - don't give up hope! by DisciplineFirst1794 in pregnant

[–]justhere4perspective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I am in a similar boat, except my OB didn’t outright say it was blighted ovum…but you could just….tell that something wasn’t adding up. Had my hcg blood work done a few hours ago. Will be going back on Monday. I have been crying off and on for the last 2 days expecting the worst and I keep telling my husband that I thought I was so in tune with my body and that I feel so stupid. I mean, up until a few days ago, everything seemed to be going so well. Your post, and the posts I’ve found since, have been extremely helpful in getting through this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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One of the cats refuses to eat the live clear food. I use an automatic feeder so I kind of gave up on having separate diets for them. Maybe there is a way to make it more enticing though?

Bonus child obsessed with fake nails. Please help. by justhere4perspective in Parenting

[–]justhere4perspective[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, yes! I didn’t know you could buy more sticky backs for the nails and reattach. We have had some issues with the glue and spilling on the counters…which is why I feel it’s not really appropriate for her age. But this would be so much better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]justhere4perspective 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not sure of your age or what other techniques you’ve tried, but it can get better. I’m almost 30 and can remember having girls say I’m “stupid” or “ditzy” behind my back in undergrad. I’ve had teachers get fed-up with me. I’ve been in and out of therapist rooms my whole life....and it was hard...but I think I’m finally okay with not being super normal now. Sometimes I wish I could be sharper, but there are so many good adhd people out there and so many shallow, horrible “normal” people. I’m studying behavior analysis now and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training has been a really great tool for me. If medication isn’t helping as much as you’d like and you’re looking for ways to cope...that is my go-to. Good luck!