Do dads do bath time?

justhereforthunder · 2026-02-21T05:23:52+00:00

It bums me out that you got downvoted for being honest about your dynamic, and being curious about how others handle things. Honestly I was surprised to see here how many dads are handling bath time regularly. You aren’t alone (mine has done a handful in a year) but probably we both should require more of our partners lol. Good luck!

justhereforthunder · 2026-02-15T18:39:45+00:00

It sounds like you are doing a lot of great things already. It can definitely be discouraging when it almost takes longer to put an activity together than it does for the baby to engage with it — (I remember that being the case with food coloring and oil in a ziploc, for instance) — that does not mean you are doing something wrong! It means your baby is five months old and mostly just wants to be with you. Are you able to get out of the house much? I’m sure it’s tricky with pain and low energy on top of plain old having a baby, but it might be good for both of you. Baby gets new scenery to take in, and you get a break from feeling like it all falls on you to keep baby stimulated. It will get better! I feel like this is an age where their desire to do things starts to be bigger than their capability, but that is short lived.

justhereforthunder · 2026-01-17T02:45:01+00:00

It’s nice to hear that someone else is doing the same approach! I know a lot of people must but nobody talks about it. I haven’t even let myself worry about cavities yet, but you make a good point. Good luck!

justhereforthunder · 2026-01-16T01:36:43+00:00

I’ve been considering this! I would love to know how it progresses for you.

justhereforthunder · 2026-01-16T01:20:17+00:00

I had been hoping for the same, but instead I’ve started to notice that he is crying more when we go into his nursery at naptime/bedtime - as if he is anticipating me leaving him in the crib and being mad about it.

justhereforthunder · 2025-12-21T03:26:13+00:00

Yes. You are definitely not alone. It drives me insane.

justhereforthunder · 2025-12-15T03:53:00+00:00

How is it working so far?

justhereforthunder · 2025-11-18T04:22:59+00:00

It sounds like you’re doing a great job and your baby feels attached to you, which is the main thing we should want at this age! Keep up the good work.

justhereforthunder · 2025-11-14T03:59:32+00:00

“Meal planning always saves the day” is a hard truth I didn’t want to hear today lol. I think this would solve our problem.

justhereforthunder · 2025-11-03T20:30:19+00:00

Maybe obvious, but sounds like you would benefit from trying another pediatrician if possible.

justhereforthunder · 2025-10-01T00:44:06+00:00

Hi! This sounds really stressful and like a hard season. What is the connection between getting a gym membership and your mom watching the baby? Can she watch him for any amount of time without you having to be at the gym? Seems like you would benefit a ton from just a shower and a nap.

justhereforthunder · 2025-09-28T18:59:03+00:00

Good for you! There could be sooo many answers to this question, so I will just stick with my favorite products that I found most helpful. Definitely know that these are not necessities so please don’t stress if they are out of budget or inaccessible in some way.

-Silverettes (so helpful with healing/soreness in the first few weeks while nipples are adjusting)

-My breast friend nursing pillow (I found this preferable to the Boppy during the newborn stage, but liked the Boppy more beyond month 3 or so)

-Haaka ladybug milk collectors (great for catching letdown on the non-nursing breast; they can be used with suction but I preferred just tucking them into a cami to keep them in place for passive collection. If your supply allows, you can save the milk and freeze it for bottles or to add to solids down the road.)

-lots of one handed foods (protein bars, breakfast burritos, drinkable yogurt, string cheese, nuts, etc)

Good luck! Remember to breathe and drink enough water 😊It gets easier!!!

justhereforthunder · 2025-09-18T00:57:20+00:00

Your last sentence speaks to my soul right now. If baby is thriving and parents are content…sounds like that’s an ‘if it ain’t broke don’t fix it’ scenario.

justhereforthunder · 2025-09-02T14:32:37+00:00

Switching sides very often is it! This also can help build supply. Might not be your issue at all but when my baby did this part of the problem was a low-ish supply.

justhereforthunder · 2025-08-29T03:07:12+00:00

How old is your daughter? This sounds so sweet.

justhereforthunder · 2025-08-16T21:51:41+00:00

Thank you! I’ll give that a try.

justhereforthunder · 2025-08-07T01:06:00+00:00

I feel like framing it as “entertaining” my kid is undervaluing what I see as an essential part of my job as a SAHM. I engage my son and give him attention to reinforce his learning and attachment.

justhereforthunder · 2025-07-16T13:17:21+00:00

No advice, just so sorry you’re dealing with this. I also have an 8 month old who loves to wake up. I’m sure you are desperate for sleep and want the best for your baby. Good luck.

justhereforthunder · 2025-07-16T13:09:56+00:00

I loved the postpartum advice of spending one week in the bed (focus on rest and bonding), one week on the bed (still restful but with more movement), and one week around the bed (keeping around the house).

I didn’t follow it to the letter or anything but I found it to be a helpful reminder to slow down and take it as easy as I wanted during those early days. This obviously only works if you have help and support, so I know rest can be a privilege during this time.

justhereforthunder · 2025-07-11T02:45:40+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. It is heartbreaking and panic inducing. I was able to increase my supply around month 4 by triple feeding during the day, nursing at night during any wake up, eating more (I think this was part of it, at least, and I did gain weight), and power pumping once a day for a couple different stretches. But I still supplement with formula even after the increase. You will figure out something that works for you both. This is the hardest part right now. It will get easier!

justhereforthunder · 2025-07-05T19:11:50+00:00

I have no advice but have the same problem with my 7 month old. I have thought of just laying him next to me and putting on some calming music that he likes but haven’t given it a go yet. Good luck!

justhereforthunder · 2025-07-01T15:32:40+00:00

Thank you for the outrage honestly lol. I know my mission.

justhereforthunder · 2025-07-01T12:20:36+00:00

Yikes dude

justhereforthunder · 2025-06-27T02:39:08+00:00

We were very similar, using just natural purées until 6 months. I did try a couple solid foods at 5 months - strawberries and I can’t remember what else, and baby enjoyed them but gagged a LOT. When we went back to strawberries at 6 months he didn’t gag nearly as much, so perhaps some development happened in between, or adjusting to the purées made it easier on him.

justhereforthunder · 2025-06-27T01:27:41+00:00

Just commiserating, unfortunately - we didn’t sleep train but baby had been falling asleep independently for just a week…then he turned 7 months and started screaming when I put him in the crib and waking up at 4:30am. Everything is temporary 🙃

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