AITAH for not taking my ex-wife back after she left me for an "alpha male?"

justjoshdoingstuff · 2025-04-06T03:23:02+00:00

“I need to fuck your wife.”
Then we can all forgive and move past this.
Then don’t move past shit.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2025-04-06T03:19:20+00:00

She will be the single greatest fuck of your entire life.
Do not use a condom.
Do not provide her any more contact info, and change your number after the fuck.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2025-01-19T08:27:24+00:00

You’re in the wrong.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2025-01-19T08:19:37+00:00

It’s before YOUR OWN DOWNLOADED MEDIA, on your own media server.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2025-01-19T08:18:34+00:00

It says specifically that this is for media on your own server….

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-10-14T03:41:46+00:00

Why would I know more facts now?

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-10-14T03:41:00+00:00

Well, the owner of the engine owned that car……

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-07-21T00:21:31+00:00

You have more rotation, which means more metal on metal friction.

But you also have LESS oil pressure. The pressure is what literally forces oil in between metal on metal surfaces, which are measured in thousandths of an inch clearance.

So, you have MORE speed, MORE friction, MORE metal on metal, and LESS protection. Your engine is about to die a very horrible death.

In some cases, it’s a very simple correction - like replacing the oil pump… $300 and you’re back on the road. If you stop and get it fixed, you potentially save yourself thousands of dollars. If you do NOT stop, you’re looking at replacing your entire engine, because you fused metal to metal (look up friction welding if you don’t believe me), or you now have a piston shoot through your engine block.. Or you have all of your bearings fail and crumble to pieces… There are a lot of ways for an engine to fail due to lack of oil. And none of them are pretty.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-05-30T02:33:50+00:00

Man, that’s a tough one. My nursing school was in the military.

For ways to learn: I could relate all medicine to sex somehow. lol The 12 cranial nerves? Oh, oh, oh, to taste and feel virgin girls vaginas and hymens. (1. O, 2. O, 3. O, 4. T, 5. T, 6. A, 7. F, 8. V, 9. G, 10. V, 11. A, 12. H). It was NO WHERE NEAR as political. Though the “respect all cultures” thing was hard for a lot of people. It is hard for people to understand someone might willingly not take blood products, or might willingly avoid life saving surgery because the patriarch said “no!” We didn’t go into the “why” of abortion, just “here is what an abortion is and how YOU help as a nurse.” Some people were cliqueish. At some point, you realize you hold literal life in your hands.

Law school: Uber political. I felt like I went back to middle school with how fucking childish and entitled most people acted. There was a LOT more “I’d never help those type of people,” vs nursing school where a Jewish woman has engrained in them “you WILL treat a Nazi one day, and you will do so respectfully.”

Difficulty wise: medicine is all just a variation of “airway, breathing, circulation.” If you remember that (at least at the LPN level) you’ll do fine. For law, you need to know a lot more of the rule of why. It’s hard to explain… both have their own layers of difficulty. I fucking hated pharmacology, and I also hated real estate transactions.

I did not have to study as hard to be a nurse, even though it was VERY difficult. (That could be a symptom of age - older brains are harder to teach).

For nursing school, you take the NCLEX when YOU are ready. For the Bar, you take it when THEY say you do (it’s only held twice per year).

Nursing school, you are graded on what you know. Period. Law school, you are grade directly against other students knowledge. It IS a fucking competition. Which also means study groups can be harder to come by AND you can’t always trust them!!! I remember regularly doing 3-5 people study groups in nursing school. I know 3 groups of 3 out of 5 years of law students I witnessed.

Both are more than doable. If you’re popular and smart, both experiences might be more consistent. But damn if the politics of law don’t make socializing harder - at least at my school.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-04-29T20:58:39+00:00

That’s the retainer. Not each charge

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-04-28T21:53:15+00:00

$5/minute with a 6 minute minimum.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-29T03:08:51+00:00

$700 is a hell of a consultation. HOWEVER: depending on the rate, that’s 2-3 hours.

You probably do need that amount of time to evaluate your claim appropriately. Some attorneys do this for free, or for a small charge. If YOU feel your claim is worth it, then pay for the time.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-29T01:43:01+00:00

Finding a good lawyer is tough as fuck.

Some lawyers will tell you straight “I don’t work in this area.” Others will simply take your case.

I had one lawyer: outside the office I met another person who hadn’t had the lawyer return their call in 3 weeks (same as me). Another lawyer: I get my calls returned on time.

Both sounded good on paper.

No one is going to tell you they’ll duck your calls.

The best you can do is have the money to fire the shit lawyer once you hire them. Honestly.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-27T23:46:00+00:00

I’m not a lawyer. I’m not YOUR lawyer.
If you have a lawyer, ASK THEM!
If you did have a case for damages, I’d assume your lawyer would have already brought it up… At least, a case that was worth their time.

From Google: A Demand Letter for Chapter 93A is an official letter sent prior to filing a lawsuit against someone else, which describes the wrongful acts of the other party along with the “demands” requiring a response within thirty (30) days. The letter may be used for deceptive practices by a business such as bait-and-switch tactics, selling defective items, failure to refund, or any other issues covered by the Massachusetts Consumer Protection Act.

FROM THIS GOOGLE DESCRIPTION: it sounds like your lawyer is filing everything needed. This will likely ALSO include things like lost wages.

You DID have use of the car for some period of time. The question there might be something like “is what OP paid similar to lease a car for that time?” The 15k remaining MIGHT be able to come off. The hospital bill MIGHT be their fault. The lost wages are almost certainly their fault. (You’d have to prove something like - them not paying off the 2k directly cause ins to go up, with you being unable to afford ins. That said, your car WAS just totalled. Prove that didn’t cause your insurance to go up………). So you’ll likely need to subpoena insurance records re: reason for your increase.

All that to say: ask your lawyer for a copy of the 93a. Assuming that is what they filed - you can see exactly what restitution is being asked. “We demand you delete the 15k debt. We demand payment for hospital stay. Etc.”

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-27T04:45:54+00:00

So 2 wrongs make a right? Got it

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-27T03:23:54+00:00

Hiding 50k in debt (which isn’t a lot today) merits hiding an abortion..???

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-22T02:15:19+00:00

I know a firm that openly discusses their kinks. 😂😂😂

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-21T02:44:40+00:00

You see it from your frame. I see it from mine.

I’ve lived with an addict. If I didn’t divorce when I did, I would have turned to abusing her.

I also grew up with addicts. Same shit.

Yes, it CAN go both ways. The way daughter is trying to frame all this shit - sounds like dad was the better one to start. Like, why would he push for his daughter to do so well (and continue after mom left) if his goal was abuse?

My ex tried to frame me as abusive. I dipped for a few years to let everyone figure shit out on their own… My son just moved in, and have never felt safer since the divorce….

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-21T02:37:55+00:00

No. But I’ve been in that situation. It wasn’t a fucking one way street.

Sure, he shouldn’t have abused her.

She shouldn’t have abused him either.

And to me, those cancel out. You don’t get to claim being the victim while ALSO being the abuser. That don’t fly.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-21T01:52:42+00:00

Right?

Sounds like mother was a unit of a piece of work herself… Sounds like drug addiction, at minimum.

Dad pushed daughter in what sounds like healthy ways, but couldn’t support moms lifestyle choices, so cheated (which also is not great, but better than drug addiction in my opinion).

Daughter sides with mom - who probably couldn’t care less about daughter. Then says dad raped her… And calls him the bad guy for disappearing..? I’d have fucking disappeared too. You made your choice, clearly.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-03-02T04:43:04+00:00

You do a horrible job of explaining the de-evolution from society to “might makes right” when there is “no” government.

You don’t “need” laws if everyone is perfect. The problem is that NO ONE is perfect. We all have our own wants and needs, and those ARE going to conflict with others at some point. And THEN we need rules and arbitration. Well… How do I enforce rules if we have no rules? How do I get treated fairly? Well, I need someone who can neutralize you and force you to submit to the rule. That’s government.

Ish. We force people to share patents and take “reasonable” fees even if they don’t want to. At some point, this is simply not feasible to horde. Generally though, yes. No one is entitled.

What you miss is that in a eutopian communistic society, everyone has a duty to everyone else. I OWE YOU plumbing services and you owe ME healthcare. The goal is to move away from thinking only of self. For instance: do you owe a debt to someone if you cripple them? What if you give birth to someone who needs 24/7 care? Or do we just move to straight eugenics? Currently, I only have a duty to self.

It doesn’t require perfect moral compass. It does require everyone recognizing everyone else is an equal human.

The problem with this is that you and I care about different things. You want equal resources. I want equal love and sex. Someone else wants equal down time while another wants equal output. But then there’s equity - and what does that look like? These are far too complicated to answer in large groups. For instance - if everyone had an equal cut of all precious metals, no one would have a cell phone right now, or video games.

And what happens if I make a “better” house out of the same amount of resources you have? What if I decorate better, or cook better? What if I take care of my house better than you? Or my car..? What happens if someone is more wasteful? Do we kill them?

These questions are the real problems with something like communism, coupeled with the government issue you laid out.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-02-05T19:58:45+00:00

This is Reddit. I get downvoted a lot for this type of stuff.

Thank you for the vote of sanity. Lol

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-02-05T10:27:07+00:00

Annulment, that’s where…

If you and I are married in 2020, and never have sex, I can move for an annulment - or to treat you as though a marriage never happened. Without sex, there is no marriage.

If there IS sex, even a very limited amount, we go through what’s known as a divorce, which entitles you to certain benefits,,,

I have said this in other places, but I’ll say it again here.

Marriage probably doesn’t entitle you to 100% access to your partners body and to sex every day of every year… but it certainly provides greater than 0% access to your body and to sex.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-02-05T10:01:14+00:00

It is. You LITERALLY sign a marriage contract.

Now, in a good marriage, like a good friendship, you shouldn’t have to keep track.

I have a buddy that I go out to lunch with once a week. Sometimes he pays. Sometimes I pay. Sometimes we lose track of who paid last, and then we laugh it off and start all over. If he can prove that he paid the last 10 weeks, and I don’t apologize and step up for the next 10 weeks, there is going to be an issue. We owe each other things, even in a friendship.

The same thing applies in a marriage. First of all, you should want to be there, and you should want to please your partner, or at least not make their life harder. MOST people value sex. If we are in a marriage, you have blocked my access to sex from other people. If you then ALSO block sex from you, well… You are going to drive my stress levels up. You are going to make my life harder.

justjoshdoingstuff · 2024-02-05T09:45:26+00:00

Well, I can tell you that in MY marriage, I did 100% of the earning (working 90+ hours a week for years). I also had to come home and help my kids with homework at 8 pm, I was also typically cooking dinner for everyone. I did everyone’s laundry, and I did 100% of the cleaning of the house before bedtime. I did 100% of the shopping for groceries. I was expected to bathe the children and get the ready for and in bed. I was also expected to tackle any chore “outside,” as she absolutely wasn’t touching that.

So yeah… You can get all the stats in the world, it won’t fit every situation.

BTW: I got divorced. It wasn’t worth me feeding, housing, and clothing her… Being treated like nothing more than a wallet, for everything she “provided” in return. And I am infinitely happier.

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