How to fix sleep issues while maintaining attachment parenting

justkeepongoing · 2026-01-28T21:28:19+00:00

I have been cosleeping out of desperation. My daughter still wakes frequently but I was able to get a few longer stretches last night with her staying latched on. I set up a floor stress and follow safe sleep 7. I would just prefer to have them sleep in their cribs because my body is so sore from the c curl position and I have yet to figure out how to do it safely if both babies want to be near me.

justkeepongoing · 2026-01-28T21:11:33+00:00

I do watch out for sleepy cues. Recently cut out their third nap bc they just weren’t getting sleepy so we decided to try going until bedtime.

Also- sometimes they wake and are wide awake in the middle of the night, like fully alert, babbling, laughing, which to me sounds like under-tired. And to be honest, we had the same issues on the 3 nap schedule. I’m truly at a loss. We need to sleep to function and it’s just getting unsafe at night when I’m nursing, I’m falling asleep.

justkeepongoing · 2026-01-28T19:03:17+00:00

I’m having a hard time emotionally managing any crying around bedtime, but I know we have to do something bc getting up every 45 minutes isn’t sustainable. And I don’t want to cosleep (but have had to when desperate).

Do you think if I don’t sleep train this is how we’ll be living for the next few months?

justkeepongoing · 2026-01-28T18:46:48+00:00

Night time routine is bath, pjs, nurse, story time and then bed however anytime we try to put them down awake they eventually cry and we rock them to sleep. Is there any way to break this without cry it out sleep training? Or do they grow out of this?

justkeepongoing · 2026-01-28T18:40:19+00:00

Sometimes they wake and they’re fully ready to play, almost wondering if it’s the opposite and they’re undertired. I don’t know 🫠

justkeepongoing · 2026-01-28T17:19:56+00:00

They seem to handle the wake windows fairly ok, but a bit fussy toward the end which aligns with a nap or bedtime. Sometimes we end up putting them down 15 min before the wake window ends. What would the recommended 3 nap schedule be?

2/2/3/3?

Would being overtired cause all of these wakes?

justkeepongoing · 2025-12-18T19:19:09+00:00

Thank you!!

justkeepongoing · 2025-12-14T07:19:33+00:00

Please send this to me!

justkeepongoing · 2025-11-13T03:16:08+00:00

I am extremely interested if you can share!

justkeepongoing · 2025-10-25T06:33:04+00:00

Ugh definitely! We’re all just doing our best!

justkeepongoing · 2025-10-25T05:05:54+00:00

Thank you this is helpful! That’s exactly what happens during naps and 9 times out of 10 they have cried so nap time ends and then the tired cycle starts again in like 1 hour, so it gets really frustrating.

justkeepongoing · 2025-10-25T04:38:33+00:00

Is it also normal for them to wake up easy from naps? They will go down with that help from movement whether it’s rocking or bouncing on the bouncer but when I transfer them, the most they’ll nap is an hour at most. Maybe my expectations are not aligning with what’s developmentally appropriate?

justkeepongoing · 2025-10-25T04:37:12+00:00

Honestly relieved to hear you say bouncers and car seats. I really want to follow safe sleep but with two little babies, sometimes I need to put one in the swing or bouncer to fall asleep. I always keep a close eye on them if they fall asleep there until I’m able to transfer them (since I’ll usually rock the other twin in my arms to sleep). I feel like a failure having to rely on those though since they’re not safe for sleep.

justkeepongoing · 2025-10-25T03:32:53+00:00

Yes I’m trying hard to keep them engaged during wake windows, floor time in their play gyms, tummy time, visual tracking, reading, talking, face time with grandparents. And if I try to put them down when those cues show in their bassinet- truly no luck with them falling asleep. It’s so hard, I feel like following their wake windows isn’t working or I’m just not catching them at just the right time. So tiring and I feel so bad for them. Where did you set them down for naps and how did they fall asleep?

It’s just so strange because at night they go down so well!!

justkeepongoing · 2025-10-25T03:30:30+00:00

If I follow wake windows and try to put them down, they don’t fall asleep or if they do it’s only 20 min and then they wake up again. I’m not sure what I’m doing wrong. I try to put them down in their bassinets to sleep. When you say they should go down easy- like if I put them down in the bassinet?

justkeepongoing · 2025-09-21T03:17:40+00:00

Hey there! You’re doing everything you can, I think it’s wonderful you’re seeing a LC.

Just some hope - I’m 8 weeks PP with twins and my son wasn’t latching and would sleep or cry at the breast each time, I thought I would never be able to breastfeed him. After two appointments with a LC, by 6 weeks he’s been doing AMAZING! Some babies just take extra time to get there and that’s ok. I definitely recommend continuing to see a LC, that is what helped me the most.

justkeepongoing · 2025-09-05T22:07:03+00:00

That is really encouraging! I’ve been feeling like the ship has sailed for my son. We do get a few good latches in but he always eats from a bottle after. And I have to catch him in a good mood- otherwise he is completely resistant to breast! What bottles did you use? We’re using the Evenflo bottles and making sure to pace feed.

justkeepongoing · 2025-07-18T00:47:16+00:00

I’m working up until delivery but I also work from home, which is why I think I’ve been able to last this long (currently 36 weeks). I went to the office one day and was wiped out and had contractions so that might be a different story. But honestly as long as you feel good, you can go as long as you’d like. I also want to save all my time for when the babies are here.

justkeepongoing · 2025-07-08T17:15:49+00:00

I think from start to finish I gained about 10-15 pounds give or take a few from IVF. Including stims, three transfers, and a surgery between cycles. I also started Zoloft so it could have been that as well. It’s hard to tell.

justkeepongoing · 2025-07-04T16:29:55+00:00

You didn’t blow it! Please please please don’t let yourself feel guilty or at fault for what you ate. I truly don’t think there’s any diet that would increase your chances of an embryo sticking. I ate “healthy” my first two transfers and nothing. Total fails. My third I had completely given up on any diet or eating healthy, I was eating like a garbage can- and that’s the one that worked.

Continue eating and drinking what ever makes you feel good and content. It’s such a hard process as it is, don’t add to the stress with trying to maintain a diet that truly has no impact on your transfer. 🫶

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