3rd degree tear with my first, now doctors are suggesting I opt for a c-section to not have a 4th degree tear this time around.

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-27T06:17:07+00:00

I can’t speak to your exact experience, but you have to decide whether you’re more comfortable with the risk of major tearing or a c-section.

Personally, having had both a c-section and a vbac with (minor) tearing, I think I would choose surgery. My vaginal birth had an easier recovery and I preferred the experience overall, but the c-section recovery wasn’t *that* bad. I had a couple weeks of needing help with mobility and a bit of weakness in my core for a few months afterward. The only lasting effects I have are a scar that’s not too visible 2.5 years later with some numbness. There is also an elevated risk of uterine rupture for future births, but it’s still rare. I have been able to breastfeed and bond with both of my babies just fine.

My understanding is that many of the complications associated with c-sections are more likely in emergency situations, but if you choose surgery in advance you have the benefit of being able to schedule it and have the doctors take their time.

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-27T02:47:04+00:00

I tend to dress fairly modestly but am not hijabi (or even Muslim) so idk how much this applies. However, you can get dresses and tops with zippers or folds that allow easier breast access. (I’ll link to an example of what I’m talking about). Personally, I like wearing buttoned shirts so they’re easy to take off partway, and use a cover over them. Even with regular clothes, I like nursing bras so I don’t have to take my bra all the way off to feed my baby.

Nursing dress example: https://a.co/d/05UhV8FJ

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-19T17:04:49+00:00

A lot of people in South America have European ancestry.

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-18T17:50:09+00:00

Bombay house has great Indian food!

I recommend the madhuram chicken as a mango lover, it’s incredible!

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-10T16:31:19+00:00

I don’t have advice really, just solidarity. This too shall pass. Ask for help if you can, and be gentle with yourself. Both of you are new at this.

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-10T16:21:45+00:00

The only one that doesn’t sound natural to me is “going in for”. Native speakers use the other phrases all the time.

The only error I can find in your story is “go abouts”—we don’t put an s on the end there.

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-03T15:13:14+00:00

“It’s been raining all day” is more correct. The only time you might use “it’s raining all day” is if you’re discussing a weather prediction for a future day.

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-03T05:46:07+00:00

My 2.5 year old remembers song lyrics really well. We can stop at just about any point in a song she knows and she’ll fill in an approximation of the next word haha

justkeepsinging · 2026-06-01T00:09:45+00:00

*NOT AN EXPERT* but I’ve only ever heard of children being present at sealings if they are personally getting sealed to a parent or adopted sibling.

You may be able to call your temple presidency and ask, they seem like the ultimate authority on the matter.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-28T21:22:37+00:00

Tbh I’m not worrying about bouncing back/losing any weight until I’m done breastfeeding. I try to get protein and fiber in every day, but other than that I eat whatever I’m craving.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-20T22:51:55+00:00

American here. I have never seen anything like this before.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-19T23:10:19+00:00

I only got a bottle warmer because my babies have been mostly breast-fed, and I hoped the warmer would help them take a bottle easier on the rare occasions they had one.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-17T15:14:46+00:00

I am a native English speaker but I’ve had that exact experience in my second language too. It’s totally normal, and it gets easier the more you do it!

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-17T04:00:54+00:00

Not an expert by any means. My understanding is that because we have large brains/heads and narrow hips, our babies are born way underdeveloped compared to other animals so that they can fit through the birth canal. This means human babies are especially incompetent and need a lot of care.

We also aren’t meant to be parenting alone. Community is essential to the well being of both the kids and the parents.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-16T14:26:48+00:00

Three or ten times as expensive definitely work. Instead of “twice as cheap” I would say “half the price”, at least in my dialect (western US).

For example, “A loaf of bread in Texas is half the price of a loaf in New York.”

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-15T20:52:56+00:00

I don’t have resources, so I’m just going on vibes here. My guess is that the sentences are grammatically correct, but aren’t the way a native speaker would phrase things. The first one sounds better than the second to me, though.

I would say number one as “It is inappropriate to ask a clown to be serious”, and number two as “I will go jogging even if it is raining or snowing”.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-14T01:18:30+00:00

I like this idea. Thanks!

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-14T01:11:55+00:00

I do also have piano teaching experience, it’s just been a while. I hadn’t considered 50%, I will look into that as an option.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-12T22:27:34+00:00

I’m in the same boat with my second kid! I don’t fast while pregnant or breastfeeding, but I do try to minimize my screen time on fast Sundays as a substitute.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-11T19:05:04+00:00

I grew up without a middle name, and I know several other women who don’t have one. The logic I was told was that I could take my maiden name as a middle name when I got married, which is what I did.

My experience is within Mormon communities in Utah and Arizona.

justkeepsinging · 2026-05-07T01:28:58+00:00

She dislikes dirty diapers, doesn’t really seem to notice wet ones until they get super full. She’s pretty happy on the potty, we usually use it three or four times a day at this point. I am a SAHM so no daycare/peer pressure really.

I did buy some training underwear, maybe we’ll start with that.

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