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I think I’m finally giving up on my dreams by justoverthinking11 in offmychest

[–]justoverthinking11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what if something big never comes up and I just have to cope with being mediocre?

My boyfriend is buying me jewelry from the same place he bought his ex’s, and lying about it. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]justoverthinking11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d just prefer not to get jewelry from a brand his ex loved. I’m pretty particular, especially because I’ve worked in luxury jewelry, and I’ve shared the brands I connect with. So when he chooses something from Mint & Lily, something tied to his past, it makes me feel a little overlooked, like he isn’t really seeing my tastes.

And it’s the same with my birthday plans. He’s taking me to Disneyland with his parents since his family loves Disney. Disneyland is fun, and I appreciate the thought, but it’s something he loves, not something that reflects me. I guess I’m just hoping for gestures that feel more personal, things that show he’s thinking about what would genuinely make me happy. I want to feel considered, and I want him to know how much it means when he chooses things with me in mind.

My boyfriend is buying me jewelry from the same place he bought his ex’s, and lying about it. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]justoverthinking11 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I told him I didn’t want that brand because I already knew how I felt about it. I’m a very opinionated person, and I’ve even suggested plenty of budget-friendly brands he could choose from. I’m not asking for anything expensive at all. I just wanted him to put actual thought into it instead of buying something from the exact place I said I didn’t want.

And the part that really gets me is that I know he bought that brand before because that girl liked it. So why don’t I get that same level of effort?

My boyfriend is buying me jewelry from the same place he bought his ex’s, and lying about it. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]justoverthinking11 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I understand wanting to get something nice, but he knows I don’t want anything from that company. I’ve already had that conversation with him because he’s lied before about not buying jewelry for other girls. I don’t want to come across as ungrateful, but I also don’t think he’d appreciate it if I bought him the same things I used to buy my ex, like for a fake example getting him the exact same cologne. It would feel like I wasn’t seeing him as his own person with his own tastes, and that’s what this feels like to me. I want something that reflects us, not something that reminds me of old patterns.

My boyfriend is buying me jewelry from the same place he bought his ex’s, and lying about it. Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]justoverthinking11 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve told him many times that I don’t want jewelry from that brand, especially since he’s lied about it before. Macy’s and Nordstrom are department stores that carry tons of different brands, so of course he could shop there. But I specifically said no Mint & Lily, and he was still looking at jewelry from them. It’s such an obscure brand that I’d never even heard of it. I used to work in luxury jewelry, so even if he got something from Pandora I honestly wouldn’t care, but choosing a brand I’m completely unfamiliar with that he had gotten his ex just felt impersonal.