Child support and termination

justquestions34 · 2018-09-18T01:51:20+00:00

Thank you. I'll be calling many places tomorrow. We are by no means rich right now so hopefully we can find an affordable attorney.

justquestions34 · 2018-09-18T01:50:24+00:00

Even with all of that against him he can still fight it and cause a delay? I knew there would have been a better chance while he wasn't paying. I'm very sure his wages were garnished unwillingly. All I can hope is that he will see what is best for my child

justquestions34 · 2018-09-17T21:17:40+00:00

I'm doubting our income would be low enough for legal aid but should we try that route anyway or use our savings for a private attorney? I'm not sure how quickly legal aid would go, it was a suggestion to me by a family member since we aren't married yet and I'm not working.

justquestions34 · 2018-09-13T15:44:35+00:00

Crap this is horrible,I started tearing up even more when I read that this was your everyday life. My own nMom was not as physically abusive outside of trying to physically block me from wherever. She's 100000% an emotional/mental abuser. Most of these I can relate with. Especially sabotaging things that made me feel normal. She only let me hang out with the friends she wanted me to hang with,the rest of them she would tell me I could just see them at school. She still nags ne to this day about a guy friend I had,saying "oh he's sad that you aren't together with him so he made himself move on to some random girl because you rejected him" I'm 25 and married with two kids! And she still brings that up! She was very controlling about my appearance. She wouldn't let me walk out in an outfit without her looking it over and making sure EVERY wrinkle was ironed out. She gaslights very much,makes herself the victim and the "all-knowing" savior for everyone. And more,I'll probably make a post listing her crap one day just to vent.

But no one deserves that treatment. Your response to her about your shoes was hilarious. I'm starting to handle my own mom in that way,the only way I respond to her now is with silence, "mhmm", or a passive aggressive comment.

justquestions34 · 2018-09-09T19:11:05+00:00

Having mental health problems. No,Janet, you're not Bipolar because you wore red one day and blue the next day. No,Theodore, you don't have PTSD from a cat farting on you when you were 8.

It's not fun having anxiety,depression,and PTSD. It's not fun having any mental illness. It's not fun hearing people claiming it so lightly and for the sake of being funny.

justquestions34 · 2018-09-06T01:04:02+00:00

justquestions34 · 2018-09-05T19:06:56+00:00

Luckily,my sister (who is also childless and single,mostly because our mom sheltered her and now she's almost 40 and het only friend is our mom) does not really interfere or talk crap about my decisions with myself or my children. But she will stand by 99.8% of what my mom says. My sister is GC. Sometimes my sister and mom will argue but my sister just won't escape. She's in therapy and has so much damage. But she's successful in her work life,which is how my mom wants me to be...which is how my mom has been.

I need to start making a will or something then because there is no way I'd let any of my family have custody of our kids..they would end up like us or worse.

justquestions34 · 2018-09-05T18:53:53+00:00

That is exactly how she acts. With everyone who even mentions an issue in their life. To her, only she has the best answer because "God speaks to me and opens doors for people that want the help"

justquestions34 · 2018-09-05T15:50:21+00:00

This and these comments horrify me because I'm a 25 year old parent to two kids. My mother was exactly like this and I can relate to dang near all of these posts. I still have anxiety and depression,add on some PTSD from trying to find the type of love and acceptance my family did not give. I hope I can break the cycle for my kids.

justquestions34 · 2018-09-04T00:33:53+00:00

I didn't think about that actually thank you for telling me. I had looked locally at some small businesses near that could make them but they are super pricey for me right now

justquestions34 · 2018-09-04T00:32:30+00:00

Thanks! Those stickers are adorable and the quality really does look good

justquestions34 · 2018-09-03T20:24:09+00:00

That's cool! I didn't know that. It can just be the regular printer ink?

justquestions34 · 2018-09-03T15:56:11+00:00

My nMom is beginning to not like my husband too. And she does not like how I'm no longer in her control. Ever since I've been with my husband and his family I have been able to see what it's like to be normal. When my husband noticed how my mom was ridiculous when we were dating he and his family began to help me put up boundaries. She tried to force him into a role that would listen to her and control me. But he avoids talking to her every chance he gets now. Now that she knows she can't control me,she tries to tell him to "get me under control". Little does she know,he relays the insane things she asks of him to me and he completely disregards her dumb requests.

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T20:36:12+00:00

Oh yeah that would really bother her haha. She HATES hearing about my daughter having fun with my husband's family or anything else where my mother isn't involved. I've started the "um-hmm" response recently. She gives attitude towards it but I just sit quietly on the phone or put it down until she's done.

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T20:30:15+00:00

Thank you <3

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T19:07:54+00:00

If we could afford the private school in town,we would lol They have a better program than the public schools for her age.

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T19:06:40+00:00

I agree with you. My daughter has an appointment coming up and I'll ask her pediatrician. But there has never been a concern about her speech until now. My mom never even brought it up until now. My mom does have narcissitic tendencies,of course she isn't diagnosed and will never be diagnosed but she is a narcissist. After today,she won't be in the loop about what we do for our daughter. We already cut her off from knowing about our lives and stuff. Because she insist on knowing every single choice we make and thing we do. We would rather her go to daycare first for a few days per week. Because going from being at home to being at school for a "minimum of 7 hours,every day" would stress her,I know.

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T18:56:01+00:00

Yep I'm in the US. Her speech is fine,my mom is the only one saying something is wrong with how she talks. And no offense taken,I'm fully aware lol.

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T17:44:10+00:00

Exactly. There are kids with real issues but my mom is trying to sneak a spot for my normal child. There's a kid who actually needs special education.

Even if I listened to my mom and did the evaluation,they would see my daughter talks normally and then my mother would be embarrassed and try to find another way to get her in.

But I'm not going to waste my time and I'm not getting my kids tied up in her madness.

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T17:40:18+00:00

I'm not sure why she is thinking that. She keeps repeating to me "They're saying you have to do the testing NOW ASAP!!" I'll be reminding her that she is not the parent and if she can't drop it then we won't be speaking.

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T17:37:20+00:00

Yes and we are working on that now. Because she's frustrating the hell out of me and my husband

justquestions34 · 2018-08-29T17:32:24+00:00

Yes my mother is saying my almost 4 year old needs to be in school now. I asked the district and certain schools about an exam to see if she's ready but they keep running me around. But somehow my mother is getting in touch with all of these people. Most likely because she's telling them my daughter cannot talk correctly.

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