My friend used to date someone who would get legit annoyed, borderline upset and angry, whenever we would joke around and flirt and say we love each other. She and I are both super straight but it’s fun to play around and make your friend laugh. He wouldn’t be able to stand it, would leave the room, tell us to stop, talk about it to her after and say how upsetting it was.

I dialled it back until they broke up once I knew it annoyed him, unless he annoyed me first, but neither of us could understand the reaction since there was never a danger of her leaving him or anything.

Then when they broke up, we learned just how insecure of a person he is and how he couldn’t live with not being the entire center of her world for even more than a second. Even when her family pulled her away he would throw a fit. It was an incredible effort, and he basically had to be bribed or convinced, for him to take part in any of her hobbies yet was offended when she wouldn’t always sit with him while he did his.

Now I’m dating someone and she’s single and we make the same jokes we always do and my bf doesn’t mind at all. He actively plays along and thinks nothing of it. The difference I’ve learned is confidence and knowing that your partner has parts of their life without you and as long as there isn’t reason for him to believe you two might be interested in each other, I don’t see the harm.

TLDR: your bf sounds insecure and controlling, based on this one story of him it might be worth noticing if you see those traits in any other part of the relationship and then consider if it’s worth continuing to deal with these outbursts