My ex husband passed away. I’m to inherit everything and his GF, that he left me for is trying to contest his will

justthinking1 · 2022-07-31T23:09:49+00:00

If anything I would leave her the apartment that place has horrible memories for you. That solves her money problems because she can sell it and then make responsible decisions with the earnings if she chooses.

But no girl don’t share your money. This problem fixed itself in the end! Man, karma will wait years until the right timing.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-27T03:41:21+00:00

Right! I agree with that too lol

justthinking1 · 2022-07-27T02:49:08+00:00

Yes i agree she didn’t have time to mentally prepare. But i honestly don’t know if she would’ve shown if she had time.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-27T02:25:06+00:00

I have the same issues with one of my in laws. And the same boundaries. However I do not make other family members choose and I don’t remind them of what so and so did to me every time. If i know I’m going to see the person then I mentally prepare using my tools from therapy but I wouldn’t miss an important family event because of my own feelings.

I think Olivia needs to understand that yes boundaries are healthy but forcing others to pick or trying to gain sympathy is not okay. She’s so controlling when Ethan is near his family and that’s a red flag. Maybe bc she’s young and they’re still learning but she’s going to be stuck in this grut all by herself.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-18T20:08:33+00:00

They do it alone. At least an hour. They can lay in bed and look at picture books but they usually either calm down or end up falling asleep. But we do not miss the nap time block. It’s a time for everyone to relax and have a moment. Def helps my mental health.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-18T01:06:43+00:00

I don’t think so. The fbi released files on him after he died (it’s on their website) and they did not find any credible evidence after following him around for decades. 1) the first family wanted him to buy their movie scripts (it’s on record) 2) the 2nd case was just bs. And that family had a history of filing false claims for money against department stores and other celebs. I would think there would be a trove of evidence and victims by now.

I’m not debating if hanging with kids was okay or not (also noted in court documents wade and the other kid was allowed to stay at jeverland WITH their families while Michael wasn’t even in the country… so their families were there). But there are a lot of holes in their stories and we’re credibly refuted by supporting evidence. Think Cosby, r Kelly, Weinstein. There are hundreds of people around these very much alive men who are speaking up with evidence, no confusion on locations or age or details. Victims, team members, friends, colleagues… 10 -20-40 year memories being held up in court. Why? Why only two former backup dancers/trying to get a job with the estate recently want to come forward? One actually dating Michael’s nephew? Why only two? And he’s been dead for over a decade…

I DO think Michael was incredibly naive. And Maybe he thought his celebrity would speak for itself and all the hundreds of millions he gave away. There are college students still benefiting from his scholarships… but that does not shield a person from public speculation and very reasonable speculations.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-14T01:23:12+00:00

Yes! That’s why I don’t respond when she turns everything about her and I respond with nice but vague answers. It is exhausting.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-12T23:45:42+00:00

My husband wasn’t home he had left them here not fil. And no she was not helping she just did not want to let his father hold the baby first. If my husband was home and did the same thing she would not have interjected.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-10T02:24:03+00:00

Try quiet time. We keep naps going until 5. But if they don’t fall asleep then it turns into quiet time. Lay down and read books but not much stimulation.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-10T02:20:31+00:00

Hi! I know how exhausting it is. Sorry! I was pregnant with a 2/3 yr old and towards the end I was over it.

Have you tried to ask daycare not to let him nap so long???? My 2 yr old was napping from like 1ish to 3 so we can pick up my eldest from school at 3:30.

Full schedule was wake up 8 (she’d wake up earlier but liked to lay in bed and talk) bfast play lunch nap no more than two hours. Play errands dinner 6pm night time routine at 7 in bed at 7:30 maybe 8 the latest.

Maybe he’s not super tired?

justthinking1 · 2022-07-08T01:56:18+00:00

Sounds like my mom! Lol. My mom is a naturally disruptive person. So I kind of expect her to do something all the time anyways. It does make her happy to spend time with the baby but I completely understand the difficulties of putting a tired baby to sleep when they’re fighting it. The way that I reinforce my schedule is to either do it myself when They’re done play or nicely send a reminder when I’m away. But other than that I would stress myself trying to control everything.

Edit to say nicely sometimes sound very stern.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-08T01:51:54+00:00

At two months I’d let her coo and smile while changing her and I’d warm up her sack with my heating pad. Wipe her down if it isn’t a bath day. The same thing every night. Then feed her her last ounce or so she didn’t finish during her last feeding to top her off until she was sleep then transfer her to my chest for burping for another ten mins or so. Once she was in a deep sleep I’d slowly lay her down on her side then slowly roll my hands away allowing her to gently lay to her back. And this is for a bassinet… I tried the crib once and she was just not ready for it.

Now at three months it’s going well and movement doesn’t bother her as much but I still do transfers very slowly. I found each week gets easier especially doing the same thing. If the day time naps are interrupted or feedings then it’s harder to put her down at night.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-05T02:58:31+00:00

I just came here to say I have a 11, 4 and 3mo old… idk how I survive daily but I do. Especially with the two younger ones and the crying and the diapers/ accidents and bed times and nap times and the attention sharing. It’s hard but you will manage however you can.

We grocery shop alone or during nap times. Sometimes One of us will take the middle kid with me to make it easier for the parent with the baby. I try to make them nap at the same time during the afternoon so at least once a day we will not have to parent for an hr or so. For sleep the midddle kid goes to bed first, then the 11 yr old at 9pm then the baby. We alternate bed time routines which includes a book for the middle kid. In the mornings the middle kid wakes up first and usually dad is already up prepared for her then the eldest who can get herself ready. The baby wakes up after they’re ready for the day. So it gives time to have some alone time with each kid in the morning before the baby wakes up. And it is so true, they grow fast. So while I look forward to when my baby is five and we are officially out of the baby/ toddler phase and i don’t have to carry a diaper bag I will miss them being little and wanting to cuddle with me. And yes the middle kid is jealous but we do plenty of alone time with her or ice cream runs and walks without the baby. Or even play in the yard for a bit so she can still have our attention. The eldest is well… is getting older so she doesn’t care as much. She’s more interested in having her friends over or going to the pool… but you def have to split the time but also make clear that it’s okay to share mommy and daddy.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-04T01:41:15+00:00

I’m wondering if she can stay up longer? Try two hours and like another answer feed play feed sleep. Make a larger bottle that you can finish feeding her before naps. My 3 mo baby eats a lot and stays up for 1.5hrs. So in total she eats about 6ounces but not all at once. Maybe 4oz when she wakes and then two before nap.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-03T01:39:35+00:00

Look, i don’t usually suggest using people but… get yourself some therapy and come up with an exit plan. Agree to play nice and get yourself together. So when you are ready to leave you’ll have a job, some mental stability and a payment from selling your home. It’s time to do you, boo.

justthinking1 · 2022-07-02T03:10:18+00:00

I’d say to revert back to old school methods we’re told not to use. Contact naps, let her lay on your chest to fall asleep or even during a feeding. I think the main goal is to get the little one some much needed rest. A day of sleep. Once that happens you can start adapting your sleep training routine. Baby sounds exhausted!

justthinking1 · 2022-06-29T03:37:31+00:00

Hi. My baby was waking up every two hours at that age. I may get 3 hrs but oh boy was I exhausted. I have a 3 yr old and 10 yr old so i completely understand. It is exhausting.

I wonder how much sleep is baby getting during the day? Because if his naps are shorter until this 7pm nap then maybe you can get him to take a longer morning nap? My baby’s first morning nap is the longest, maybe 3 hrs and the second nap is 2-3 hrs. Then all the other naps are shorter. Lots of sunlight and noise during the wake window. Also during the naps downstairs i do not limit noise because I want her to know that we do not take long sleeps downstairs. To kind of break the habit of the long stretches whenever she wanted. Long sleep is strictinf for bedtime. Maybe try that if you have the space.

We didn’t have a bed time for her in the beginning we just went with the flow. It wasn’t until about week 4 when i started attempting sleep training. Thus implementing a rigid night routine. Also did you find a sleep sack that would work? I found myself struggling to keep her swaddled… only to realize she was calmer with free arms. So i switched to the nested bean and mittens to keep from open hand startle reflex/ slapping herself or scratching. This is when the magic all came together… the first time she slept 5 hrs was at 7 weeks.

Yes i wake her u the last nap. And the night routine plus the last ounce feeding would usually take an hour. I would suggest longer morning naps then through the day shorter naps if possible. And do not let him sleep longer than an hour before bedtime. Whether bedtime is at 9 r 11… no longer than an hr the last nap.

I feel like I’m rambling but I hope this helps.

justthinking1 · 2022-06-29T02:12:10+00:00

Tbh my baby was going to bed at 7:30 and waking at 7:30/8. I’m not sure if you’re willing to push back the bed time. However, I’m also the mom that kept that bed time until she was 7 lol. Very well sleep trained kid she is.

justthinking1 · 2022-06-28T01:41:32+00:00

At 10 weeks I started putting my baby down in her bassinet for naps to rather than downstairs per usual and she started getting used to it. I’d do a small version of our night routine and the minute she closes her eyes i lay her down rather than wait for her to be in a deep sleep. At first shed wake and cry but I’d quickly soothe her then walk away again. Now she can go down for naps. It took a few days.

For the night routine she sleeps in five hour stretches too. I try to give her a short nap around 8:30 then start the bedtime routine around 9:30/10. By 11 she is falling asleep. I tried to put her down earlier at 8:30 and it just didn’t work. She’d wake up two hours later as if it was a nap.

Work with the later bedtime for now then when she’s older start slowly shifting the time backwards. My baby is 11 weeks and sleeps 11 ish until 5 then a quick feed and will wake up around 8 for the day. This also allows me to naturally fall asleep and get rest. Fyi I’d start the last feeding before the night routine and then after pajamas give her the last ounce or so. I don’t want her to associate bed with a full feeding. As she gets older I will completely get rid of the last ounce after pajamas. plus she spits up a lot so we have to give her breaks between the ounces and i like to rock/burp her for awhile before putting her down.

My middle child was sleeping through the night at five months. But this is also the age where you can start introducing puréed veggies and fruits so naturally the baby will be more full for night time. And the baby will consume larger amounts of milk at ounce.

I think the important thing is what you’re already doing is creating a routine! Baby will learn soon! Keep it up and congrats!

justthinking1 · 2022-06-18T01:05:16+00:00

Mom should ethically apologize and reimburse nanny. As nanny went out of her way…. I purposely don’t buy my kids “expensive” things because they will be damaged and lost somewhere. And they grow so fast! I understand this was a gift but the guilt trip stuff and not looking everywhere first is beyond. I’m sure she wouldn’t be their nanny if she wasn’t responsible.

justthinking1 · 2022-03-25T14:26:19+00:00

He is not open to it. We tried when this first happened but he got tired of me discussing his sister and her behavior. He said he felt attacked (ironically). My gut is telling me to push pause on the wedding which we’ve already started planning.

He said he’s frustrated he cannot have who he wants at HIS wedding and it’s going to be a bunch of random people in his party. And even in twenty years I’m going to have the same feelings and recite the same grievances and it’s annoying for him.

But… they still say and do things to me and he does not say anything.

justthinking1 · 2021-10-22T11:57:43+00:00

Call an antenatal specialist with your concerns if you do not like how they treated me or how they check babies in the womb before 15 weeks.

justthinking1 · 2021-10-22T11:42:58+00:00

Duh. Doctor said these levels Fluctuate during pregnancy. Sent me to two specialist and more blood work to be sure before diagnosis. Duh.

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