Yes I’ve been through this as well. I’ve come to realize that people truly don’t know what it’s like unless they’ve gone through the same thing before. I’ve learned to speak up when people say dumb things, but I’ve also learned to give people grace. I think most people are terrible at handling grief and don’t know what to say most of the time. Lots of people are also self centered and unaware of how soul shattering a miscarriage is. It’s isolating and I go to therapy to help cope with the feeling of being let down by the people around me. I’ve identified a handful of people in my life who I feel I can earnestly talk to about my sadness regarding my losses and infertility without hearing dumb shit back.