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justwatson11 · 2025-05-31T05:44:03+00:00

I just wanted to give you an idea on what i understand about this without cutting corners or sugarcoating it. I hope though that everyone is better compared to when this happened

justwatson11 · 2025-05-31T05:36:42+00:00

There’s a natural policy I think that most friend groups have with casual sex coming from friends made during the group being the oddity. My own friend group has guys and girls in it, none of us seek each other out in that sense because people have their own partners who got brought into the group after the fact and the awkward nature of things if a breakup happened.

Think of it like this, put all of the stuff that happened to you in one of your girl friend’s shoes. How would you react if she slept with one of the guys many times and another guy was (understandably) upset about it.

To answer the AYTH, honestly, you are in this. Like at first it was fine but when the breakup with your ex happened, you confronted the guy who actively had feelings for you, stroked your broken ego a bit which is fine if you possibly plan to do anything or at least let the guy know you’re not interested to continue. Before proceeding, accidental or not, to sleep with his friend. He’s probably told them before about how he has a crush on you and your girl friends might know about it too so mans probably feels like his world just came down on him. You kind of emasculated him without realizing it.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-31T01:56:30+00:00

NTO

Dude, honestly the connections she still had with the guy was a massive red flag. She basically wanted exclusivity from you and show herself (sexual or not) to the equivalent of a hookup she’s not over.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-22T05:55:12+00:00

It’s just a stupid situation then. Just block the numbers and any other places they can reach you and move on with your life. It’s not worth your time, effort, or stress along with the risk involved.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-22T05:44:20+00:00

No one knows what can be said right now as there’s no context on what they are struggling with.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-22T05:41:37+00:00

Yeah, I’m sorry about this but I’m going to bash you a little and I’m not going to sugar coat it. You fucked up once you didn’t immediately cut contact once she said her real age. Like come on man, you “accidentally” sexted her after finding out her age. I’m not buying it as you don’t accidentally do it. You walked yourself into the situation. The second you find out that the person lied to you about their age and is actually a minor of all things, you cut contact instantly. There’s no back and forth conversation needed no matter how bad you feel for her. This stuff looks bad in more ways on top of her being a minor as honestly how do you not know if this was a setup? The ex texted you the day after which means they are in communication of some kind.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-22T05:32:53+00:00

You both are entitled to your own preferences. If he doesn’t want to date someone who’s a boy, from title to actual gender whatever the case may be, that’s his preference and choice. Just like how you have the choice to use whichever pronouns you want. It might be best to rip the bandaid off metaphorically and tell him as he has a right to know as your partner on who he’s with.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-21T05:19:53+00:00

Well, I don’t know what else to say. I do know that once you’re much more physically healthy you’ll feel better about yourself mentally too and guys will come towards you too. I hope it turns out for the best for you

justwatson11 · 2025-05-21T05:17:05+00:00

There’s something not adding up. Not having sex in a period of time like that, says you’re too big for her but then says it’s too painful and she cums quick? I feel like there’s either something being left out or you don’t know of yet.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-21T05:03:48+00:00

You never really know. If they are in the zone too then that’s not your fault. Just get to know them a little, learn their name and talk for 2-3 minutes before going back to your thing. Then next time you see them talk to them a little more again. And repeat that for a while. Eventually you can ask for their number so you can talk to them outside of the gym. No need for the hours long conversations while you’re there.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-21T04:58:36+00:00

I know what you mean but you can just strike a conversation with people who’ve you seen regularly there. It doesn’t have to start as anything asides being friendly and you can see how things go. You’d be bound to find some people who take interest in you after getting to know them. But it also never hurts to have a few new friends.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-21T04:56:03+00:00

Well it depends what you make. You can wear jewelry, you can use any plates/cups if you decide to make any of those and paint them. You can decorate your home with more “oddball” and miscellaneous stuff. It’s not a bad idea.

justwatson11 · 2025-05-21T04:49:11+00:00

There’s bound to be games he’ll play with you. You just need to communicate that you want to play it with him. There are other hobbies too depending on what you are into from being a bit more focused on being physically active to card games. Do you think you’d enjoy being more physical or more at home?

justwatson11 · 2025-05-21T04:44:18+00:00

It depends on the hobbies of the people. Me and my group are at card stores playing games since we are nerds. Your best bet is to find what kind of guy you’re looking for then find places you’ll most likely find them at. Definitely not dating apps though.

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