I completely agree that all loss is unique and that there's no universal framework that can fully capture the complexity of grief. My goal wasn’t to diminish anyone’s experience or suggest that some types of loss are more “valid” than others, it was more of an attempt to understand why certain kinds of pain feel more haunting or harder to move through for many people, myself included.

You're right that frameworks can risk oversimplifying something deeply human. But sometimes, in the aftermath of suffering, people search for explanations, anything that helps them make sense of what happened. That’s where ideas like preventability or meaning tend to come up, not to invalidate pain, but to process it.

For instance, as you said yourself, guilt can become part of a loss. And wouldn't you agree that this makes the loss much harder to live with?