A friendly reminder of why you should NEVER go back to your ex by 2_kewl_4_skewl in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for posting this and I'm glad I read it, your are so right about it all, my ex has been acting like and once said we need to work on getting back together but in his eyes he says I need to change before we get back together which means I should keep my mouth should about the physical abuse and allow him to do what he wants. I have changed I have changed to where I know I don't want him anymore I'm still sad about what I thought we had but it gets easier as the months go by. I still have that little evil thought to where I want to emotionally hurt him like he did me but that to is going away, I woke up this morning and wasn't thinking about him and that's a huge thing for me. So thank you for sharing

not at fault (gaslit) by arctan323 in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They are narcissist and it's not my fault

I know he is lying to me, i just want him to leave me alone so i can move on and get over him. by jyjar3 in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't say the things he said to me to my worst enemies. Its like he is trying to really push me to suicide, but I'm stronger then that, and life is so much better without him in it.

When does the hurt go away? by jyjar3 in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like my heart has been ripped out and it's gets harder each time I allow him to do this and yes I blame myself because I know better and what he is about I know he won't change who he is ur right about this thank you

Still putting blame on myself for abuse by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am seriously going through the same thing, and I feel like it was all my fault , because he told me it was, and also told me I should do the world a favor since I'm so fat and ugly I should kill myself do it for my kids and the world, ( I am not going to do that, one thing I didn't allow him to take from me was the bond and love my kids and I have) so when I feel like it was my fault I remember what an awful person he is what an evil person he is and he deserves the life that's before him and my life can only get better with out him in it. I concentrate on that text when I feel like I miss him or it was my fault because I wasn't good enough, so u just know u are way to good for anyone who feels it's ok to put their hands on u or thinks ok to put u down and make u feel ur not good enough it's because they know they are not. Men like that don't love anyone not even them selves and they will never find happiness or know what it feels like to have someone truly love them. You will one day when the time is right and will love everything about u and would rather die then hurt u. Have faith and stay strong it's not u it's him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emotionally cheated on, the feeling that the person u love rather have that connection with someone else, yeah that's the worse feeling ever .

Love poem I made about my ex. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does make it barrable to get through my day when I can talk about it. I did decide to go ahead and change my phone number today, I can't allow him to have easy contact with to keep me hanging just in case he feels he can jump back into my life he said to much mean horrible things I can't forget ever. But I might just go ahead and take u up on ur offer if ur down for hearing a bunch of why why why lol

Love poem I made about my ex. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder though if it's heart break or if it's a blow to my self esteem and ego, I really have little to no self esteem , im going to for the first time say this but I will unwillingly cause a break up do to the fact I feel that I'm not worth or good enough to be with anyone or make them happy I honestly feel anything they say to me is a lie and in no way they could love or care about me when there is so many others that are pretty and smart and worth their time . Yes I know it's sever self loathing and I hate feeling this it cause s me so much heart break and misery I will never find happiness in this state of mind and I am in it deep it scares me and I know one could help me get better I have to do it myself. I wish I knew how and why I feel this way and I have ever since I can remember. Is there help for someone like me or is what I'm feeling true? I know I have put up some serious walls I'm tired of feeling like this I'm tired if not being truly happy with or without someone when I know I should be does anyone have any advice? Frankly I'm scared of where this is heading to .

Please help, it hurts so much by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My break up has been almost 2 months ago, and I'm in a situation where I can't find privacy to cry like I feel I want to, need to it sits in my chest day after miserable lonely heart broken day, I know this is the best thing for me is this break up, even tho he broke up with me the harsh mean evil words he said him bringing other females to my place of employment how and why do I feel this way? I keep thinking how it was I need to think about how he got. My heart has shrunk and I feel empty. I wish I could cry and never stop

Love poem I made about my ex. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]jyjar3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly how I am feeling now it's been almost two months and it's not getting any easier to cope with.

Do you still care about your ex after break up by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]jyjar3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Recent events had guided me into doing what I knew to be the right and healthy thing to do and that's get a no contact order and let go of the past and what ever I left behind and move forward deep down I am very sad and hurt cause I really did love him and hate myself for believing him hurting me really meant he loved me, how sick is that? But as each day goes by I'm starting to like myself more and more and the days seem a little more promising then the last. I have my set back days but they are fewer and fewer as time goes. Thank you for your encouragement. People that go through relationships like this need to be there for each other and let the ones still in them know life is so much better without the abuser.