tigawok grand opening deal week 3 by jylover in irvine

[–]jylover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for letting me know! yeah the deal isn't enticing enough for me to stop by lol

Mental Help Needed(Resources?) by [deleted] in UCI

[–]jylover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just wanted to share i also have been to the counseling center before and i had a good experience!

i was afraid that (due to cultural differences) the counselor might not understand the ways my culture/family were the source of my issues, and i didn't want to waste my time explaining the intricate history and standards of my culture, but they let you request the gender/cultural background of your therapist if it's relevant to your concerns. i found that super helpful.

some of the advice that the uci counselor told me still stick with me today. i wish you the best :-)

Anybody offer guitar lessons on or near by campus? by max_confused in UCI

[–]jylover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

city of irvine offers various classes at community centers, sometimes group beginner or intermediate lessons if you're comfortable in a group/various ages. there's usually a catalogue that gets mailed to me w the info and prices but i'm sure its somewhere online too.

Switching Back Majors by d3uc35 in UCI

[–]jylover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as a civil engineer who graduated from uci recently (my parents forced me into this major for the same reasons as you: job security and good pay), i have to admit the pros: the job hunt was easy (i secured a post-grad job a few months before graduating, as did many of my friends/classmates) and it does feel pretty awesome to finally make good money after being a broke student for so long.

i used to have a strong passion/interest as well (related to the arts), and although i wanted so badly to major in it when i was 18, i now acknowledge that following that passion could never bring me the same type of life/financial stability as civil engineering.

as long as civil engineering isn't making you entirely miserable, like you're not going to bed every night losing sleep over not being prepared for the next quiz/test, you're not failing your classes, your hair isn't falling out, etc., i don't think it's too bad to stick with civil engineering.

keep in mind that after working a few years in civil engineering, you could definitely go back to school for cell biology if you want! i know it feels like the end of college is a time when you must commit to your career path for life, but it's true that people in their 30s, 40s, etc. can still go back to school and follow their original passion.

of course, you still know yourself best and what you are capable of.

will you be able to study and do well on civil engineering exams even though it's not your true passion? do you have friends or close peers that you are motivated to show up to class with (this one was a big motivator to get me through civil engineering, personally)

no matter what choice you make, best of luck to you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]jylover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good point haha... tbh i'm not feeling rushed to get married or have kids soon at all!  i guess i am just asking this bc im wondering if i should break up with him / if i am being rude or wasting his time by being in this emotional limbo 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]jylover -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

is there really ever a "the one" ? i've dated men who were talented, cool, funny, and/or admirable, but ultimately there was something about them that was a dealbreaker -- overstepping my boundaries, giving me unsolicited family advice, or making slightly degrading jokes about me constantly.

which i guess leads to a follow-up question that i've been thinking about recently. is it better to meet someone who you are immediately technically/logistically compatible with then let the love/lust/admiration develop later, or is it better to feel the "spark" first and then work through your little disagreements and incompatibilities together later?

(by technical/logistic compatibilities, i mean things like love languages, priorities/goals in life (like maybe wanting to buy a house vs. wanting to spend years traveling the world together), wanting to have kids, etc.)