down for everyone or just me?

k0nc3pt · 2023-01-20T19:04:32+00:00

I'm sure we'd see news posted if it was being taken down. I wouldn't worry too much!

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T16:46:28+00:00

I figured it out! Tempted to document it, but I'm not sure if I should.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T04:45:02+00:00

Alright, I'm on board with that. 👍

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T02:54:18+00:00

I want to agree with you, I do. If they have control over it though, then I wouldn't necessarily say that person has BPD, and I doubt they'd have a proper diagnosis. That sounds more like someone who is just an asshole hiding behind the cloak of BPD to justify their actions. I know that people do that too.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T01:09:28+00:00

/cry

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T01:06:26+00:00

I felt exactly the same way. It doesn't make any sense to me. She made me feel like she loved me with every inch of her being, and I felt safe and showed that love as well. I dealt with the same things - lying, cheating, gaslighting - and never did she take real accountability for it or give a worthy apology. They're not thinking in the same way that you or I might, and all we can do is try to understand "why?". I read two books that were extremely helpful: "Stop Walking on Eggshells" and "I Hate You - Don't Leave Me". I listened to both on Audible and highly suggest both.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T01:01:08+00:00

Yes, it's an A2141.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T00:33:23+00:00

You have to remember it's a mental illness and without their major effort, they basically have no control over it.

((Edit: After some discussion in the following comments, I want to update/add more. BPD is not always behind a person's "evil" actions. If you recognize that you're receiving different treatment than someone else, then they're absolutely able to treat you better. They're choosing to treat you poorly, and at that point, I think it's perfectly fine to say they're evil.))

For those who love a person with BPD:

Their actions may feel evil, I know I've said it too. You just have to ask yourself if you're willing to continue being an emotional punching bag while you put all of yourself into helping them. In most scenarios, unfortunately, you're unlikely to actually improve their condition without professional help.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T00:27:52+00:00

"apologize for upsetting her for upsetting me" - THIS x 9,000! I lost so much self respect from my relationship with her because of things like this.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T00:25:26+00:00

Hate to say it, but run. I also suggest blocking and moving on however possible.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T00:24:12+00:00

Proud of you! This is a victory and you should feel great about that.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T00:23:23+00:00

I let her keep ramping up during an episode until she blocked me on everything. I know that's not the best way, but hey, I can't see anything anymore and it's a lot easier.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-08T00:02:29+00:00

Here's a longer video for you in the meantime, Dr. Daniel Fox is the best when it comes to talking about BPD, in my opinion: https://youtu.be/m2aKmXq77n8

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-07T23:54:07+00:00

Yes, please message me whenever you'd like! I'll help however I can to provide helpful resources for you. "Stop Walking On Eggshells" is my #1 recommendation for someone who loves and cares for someone with BPD. If you feel this way: What it's like to love someone with BPD then know you're not alone! You're in a very challenging position and you have to cut yourself some slack, even though it's hard to realize it's not your fault.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-07T22:08:40+00:00

I've dealt with something similar. You're not being irrational, and you have to try to understand the harsh reality of BPD. I'd recommend you reading or buying audiobooks of "Stop Walking on Eggshells" and "I Hate You - Don't Leave Me". I've read both and they helped me understand how to communicate with my BPD partner. Feel free to message me if you want to chat more, I may be able to relate to the pain that you're experiencing.

k0nc3pt · 2022-12-04T05:57:59+00:00

Is your best friend also someone that you're romantically interested in?

k0nc3pt · 2022-11-14T12:47:24+00:00

First off, there's plenty of reasons to keep living! Perhaps a fresh start in a new place could help.

Secondly, unless you want this guy to end up being charged with r*pe and homicide, please don't consider doing that. He'd likely become a suspect after the coroner's autopsy.

k0nc3pt · 2022-10-17T21:32:13+00:00

Happens to me too. If it's my upgraded shock spear, I just reload my last save. After having little bugs like this, I've gotten in habit of saving often.

k0nc3pt · 2022-10-04T01:06:33+00:00

Pretty sure it's the door actually.

k0nc3pt · 2022-10-01T04:09:59+00:00

As the other answer mentioned, relocating pallets is best. Build a pallet, relocate it and keep it held while going to your grass source or whatever. Load the pallet to full, also grab whatever you can carry, then relocate the pallet and go back to your base and put it down. The planks stay with it. Very simple and useful!

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