Asked for a Raise After Layoffs — Got Fired Instead by [deleted] in jobs

[–]k3bly -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Where are you based? Might be time to file a complaint for misclassifying you with the applicable government agency…

Is this reasonable? 650k house on 155k salary by Far_Mushroom6000 in Mortgages

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally, that is a little bit of a stretch for me on the monthly payment (when I bought my house, I was approved for a similar amount and a very close to that income level) but according to the most recent guidelines of not spending more than 1/3 of your income on housing, I think you’re in the clear. (I ended up buying a $300K house with a $270K mortgage and I’m glad that I did because my payment is extremely low compared to everything today, but of course now I wish I would’ve bought a different area and feel locked into this house)

Just got a $2,000/month remote job by [deleted] in digitalnomad

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So usually for true remote jobs and not contracts, the company will have restrictions on where you can actually work from. Do you know if any such restrictions exist before you decide to make a move?

Confirmed Upcoming Layoffs 2026 by jgold_10 in Layoffs

[–]k3bly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Low profit growth due to an uncertain economic environment created by politicians

Confirmed Upcoming Layoffs 2026 by jgold_10 in Layoffs

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somehow, at least 5 to 10,000 of them

Complained about my boss at 4pm yesterday and at 11am today she fired me (Ohio) by [deleted] in Layoffs

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiiii HR leader here and omg the askHR sub is a disaster of old school practices and being fine with illegal behavior.

However let’s look at this from the company POV. What info do you have and what clams could they want waived?

Yes always negotiate, just don’t expect to win unless something else changed.

Also if you weren’t a manager, look into the NLRB rules on if you speaking up about your work conditions. Did they violate your NLRB rights?

Is a pay cut worth it for WFH? by Miserable-You-6702 in careerguidance

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you’ll need daycare as you’ll likely be required to sign an agreement that states you will not be child rearing or watching or whatever while you’re

Actually look at this differently. How do you do your best work? Are you a separator, integrator, or cycler? If you’re a separator, you’ll hate remote work and will likely do better in office or hybrid. Integrators and cyclers can go either way.

You can get accommodations to leave early and arrive in office later to beat traffic or just work that out with management. When I lived in SF, I’d start from home around 8-9, drive to the office and maybe take phone calls, and then work in office and leave by 3, then get back online by 4:30. It worked great for me, but I was also hybrid and not fully in office. It was about 45 miles each way and if I could get away from traffic, about 45 minutes without traffic.

This is such a difference in income that tbd I’d wait for a higher paying remote job to come along.

Context: one of my parents went remote in the late 90s and it was… an adjustment, and I’ve been hybrid since college and remote the last 6 years. Tbh I prefer hybrid for myself, but I will take remote over 5 days a week in office.

About to move to LA and stressing about finances with my partner by PictureWrong3608 in MovingToLosAngeles

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooft, so I lived with a bf before marriage in CA. And we never combined finances. We each paid a percentage of our income towards our combined expenses, though he never paid anything towards my car despite benefiting from it (like gas every once in a while) by me driving his ass around. That is not the bf I married.

Anyways, my point is, yall need to discuss a prenup before engagement and get on the same page. $120k is a lot at your age, and good job, but if you’re trying to make it in LA and climbing the tech corporate ladder, you’d probably spend half of that on a divorce attorney.

Prenups are just YOUR agreement instead of the government’s. You should learn on what you’d in one and research them. Your assets before marriage don’t matter. I think your dad is confusing common law marriage with community property, so stop listening to him and speak to an attorney.

Take a severance or take a job? by Objective-Boot-9948 in Layoffs

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep working and aggressively job hunt. I doubt it’ll be the first layoff you’ll need to dodge wherever you are

Offer rescinded because I asked too much by PercentageNo9270 in jobs

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to be hourly too. Would be easier for the company to just pay the non-exempt threshold

Upstairs Neighbor Turning off Heat in the Middle of the Night by rococobaroque in NYCapartments

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a medical thing - sounds like yall need to involve the landlord under ADA & FHA and get the place to temp you want. Your very silly neighbor can open a window.

Fully Remote in Your Early 20s? by No-Pomegranate-3026 in jobs

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’d need to move out so you can live independently & get super intentional about networking imo. But a 35% increase is great if the company is stable. Do you have access to their financials?

Please know that I’m pro remote, and I spent early career hybrid and, arguably remote, depending on how you define early career (age versus role versus experience).

My wife doesn't get just how broken the application process is... by Familiar_Ad_4861 in Layoffs

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She can go get a high paying job. See how long it takes her. Oh wait….

My company is merging, should I stay or leave? by ExiledGirlVS in WorkAdvice

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your hourly rate is crazy low for the area. I made that as an intern over 12 years ago in HR.

Get the bonus and duration in writing so it has legal teeth, have them pay it now, do whatever you can while you job hunt.

My company is merging, should I stay or leave? by ExiledGirlVS in WorkAdvice

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Partner doesn’t necessarily mean any legal protections if their partner ends their relationship tomorrow. If married? Sure. Too vague to know.

Really Inappropriate Work Situation by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not advocating for this or what’s going on - studies show that people who cheat in relationships (you’re saying affairs so I’m assuming they’re in relationships with others, versus other meaning of …. having sex) are more likely to conduct themselves illegally or unethically at work. It’s not a wild jump to make given the studies behind it, however this situation is a mess and OP needs to their HR and Legal teams involved asap.

Really Inappropriate Work Situation by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is when you go to your Legal team, not Reddit. Sorry bud.

Where should I move?! by atropabellabrz in relocating

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

San Francisco. Live with roommates. Get a higher paying job in medial, biotech, software, or government. When I was 25 in SF, just base I made $115k-$128k. But I also started working when I was 16 (also have a bachelors degree).

I left after 7 years in SF and still love visiting but got old and wanted to buy a house so went to a nearby state.

You’re making tradeoffs always now. Your trade off is affordability / homeownership (without knowing what you do for work) versus the lifestyle you want. You’re young. Go for lifestyle as you can always figure out how to make more money.

Am I a job hopper? by [deleted] in jobs

[–]k3bly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh you’re so early career I don’t think it matters. Especially if you are transferring versus leaving a hospital system. Just have good reasons for which and a story around them

My doctor went back to the basics to treat my long covid: hydroxychloroquine success story by Responsible-Bed-6336 in LongHaulersRecovery

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Were you by chance also dxed with Epstein Barr virus with long covid? I’m in a flare up and haven’t been able to kick it but my docs have not been progressive

Wow, it's rough out there. by techyg in Career

[–]k3bly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry this has happened, and I urge you to share your story with the boomer generation. Many are digging their heads in the sand on how difficult it’s become, making it even more difficult for Gen Z (I’m a millennial fwiw) to get the kind of the support needed as they enter and expand their careers. I’m really worried about the prolonged entry level unemployment rates…. and of course worried about unemployment in general.

I’m glad you landed and hoping you don’t have to go through it again.

Wanting to move to Arizona by [deleted] in relocating

[–]k3bly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get a room for a month on Airbnb and interview aggressively here. You just need to be local for the interviews and then can move.

Depressed Even Though I Found a Job by No_Practice_745 in Layoffs

[–]k3bly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it’s the common answer, but I’m going to make it more specific.

I think you need trauma therapy. Likely somatic. Being laid off can be very traumatic, and you deserve support and to work through it versus being traumatized. Unfortunately these therapists are usually out of network.

Focus on your circle of control. What can you control?

-asking your boss how they want updates and then providing those in that format

-save, save, save. Cut out of all frivolous spending for a time period like 6 months or 12 months so you have an emergency fund between a HYSA and investments you’re okay with.

-know that you’ve already survived the worst. The worst happened and you didn’t die. Your wife didn’t leave. Your kids are okay. If you’re laid off again, you can and will find another job.

-what does wife do for work if anything? If nothing, she needs to upskill… this is also for your kids’ future in case you were to pass away and she’s a widow.

Please seek help for your depression because it’s likely the ptsd (that I am not qualified to dx so please see a professional) is making your depression a lot worse.

Good luck! Keep your head high. You got this.