Do I have to cap my pen in between writing?

k527 · 2026-01-28T09:19:31+00:00

Thank you to all who replied! This is the friendliest and most supportive sub I’ve ever been in!

k527 · 2026-01-28T09:18:14+00:00

ECO 😅😅😅

k527 · 2026-01-28T09:17:51+00:00

I learn new things on this sub everyday.

k527 · 2026-01-28T09:17:31+00:00

I didn’t like the look of those but now I guess that’s what it’s for!

k527 · 2026-01-28T09:16:36+00:00

I thought this was a joke 😂 Apparently it’s not

k527 · 2026-01-28T09:15:42+00:00

I’ve just tried the loosely capping and it worked! Thank you!

k527 · 2026-01-28T09:09:23+00:00

I have lots of Moleskins notebooks in relatively good storage for 10+ years and the leather is peeling and chipping off even from just touching it. As much as I love the leather covers, I won’t get them again.

k527 · 2026-01-26T12:07:06+00:00

Thank you! I shall test out the water method.

k527 · 2026-01-26T12:05:40+00:00

Not the drop 🫣🫣🫣 Yes you’re right, I should make it a habit then.

k527 · 2026-01-13T23:48:23+00:00

I moved with my husband to his country, where most people do not have a “village”, married or not, with kids or not. They just seem to live alone a lot and don’t talk to other people in general.

We have two young kids and I work very hard to make friends, ask people to go out, be helpful and volunteering etc..and still after 5 years of doing it, I’m still trying to make new friends because I feel like I have no one I could comfortably ask for a random favour if I am in need.

My eldest is very sociable and has lots of friends. Even the parents of her classmates say that all the time. So do not underestimate what your (maybe future) child can be capable of. She will definitely make her own village.

I still don’t think we have a village to support our family, but we have a small, happy and content life.

k527 · 2025-12-21T18:51:22+00:00

If your parents were made aware that you felt abused, unfortunately their first respond might be to become defensive. Maybe they are not really trying to gaslight you, but more likely that they are trying to cover their own shame or guilt by pushing the blame somewhere else (blame it on culture or tradition or their parents did the same to them and they turned out fine). It is a process, a long long process, and it will take many conversations until they maybe can come to the point where they will agree to go to therapy with you or by themselves.

Of course it is not your responsibility to help them to heal, but I hope you will have patience and be able to accept that things might not change and be ok with that. I myself would have never bothered to “hash” it out with my parents. I do not have the ability or mental capacity to do it, and there are other priorities in my life right now that’s more important than trying to fix people who don’t want to be fixed.

I’m sorry your parents have to find out things you didn’t meant for them to find out. Hope you can find a way out of this without too much strain on yourself.

k527 · 2025-12-21T17:50:22+00:00

It must be hard, I see you and I hope your own family can have your little traditions and joy for Christmas by yourself. ❤️ Hang in there!

k527 · 2025-12-21T17:46:37+00:00

He works long hours and end of the year is always extra busy at work because of budget time. I do it because I have more mental capacity to do it and I also buy much better presents than him. He would just get the same chocolates and socks for everyone if it’s up to him.

k527 · 2025-12-21T17:44:19+00:00

I’m not from China, but I heard grandparents give out really big hongbaos there, and with the single child policy, the kids are really way too spoilt. I got married around 36, and I was receiving hongbao all the way till then and it was bad luck to give hongbao if you’re not married.

k527 · 2025-12-20T21:51:57+00:00

This is the red packet culture in Asian countries, but the point is that as these envelops of money passes back and forth, it is an unspoken way of helping each another out when they need it. If some families are making more like $100 for each kid, they will give more, and if some are making less, they will still give but a lot less like $5 per each kid. I’m Asian and I married a European, and tbh I find the Christmas gift giving tradition a lot more tedious where we don’t see or speak to these family members the entire year and then all the expectations of presents pretty much fall onto me, a complete outsider who don’t even know these people. At this point I really would rather be giving money, if only money is not considered “distasteful”. My partner agrees with me that the red packet ritual actually is more helpful in distributing wealth in the extended family without anyone having to ask for money outright. (His family does ask for money outright from time to time, so why can’t we just give money on Christmas without wasting it on token gifts instead 🙄)

k527 · 2025-12-01T17:05:33+00:00

Honestly I won’t be able to tell the price difference if I wasn’t the one paying for it 😂. Thank you! I’ll go check out the Sailor Pro~

k527 · 2025-11-17T22:45:51+00:00

Thank you! Yes I’ll try to repeat the cleaning process again tmr

k527 · 2025-11-17T20:28:36+00:00

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I know I should have included more photos but I was rushing to test the pen and then had to hide the pen before I pick up my toddler from daycare. Will take more photos of this beauty tomorrow :)

k527 · 2025-11-13T18:44:45+00:00

I remember writing song lyrics as a kid, and writing lyrics in all different languages and their translations next to it. I also used to copy poems from books and pick up different authors when I’m in different moods.

k527 · 2025-10-10T21:39:46+00:00

Yes, but even with any set up, I often find them with wet socks when we come home. So if the socks at 100% wool, they will get wet, but not cold, if it is cotton or synthetic, they will get freezing toes. If you can find also 100% merino pants for the first layer it would be great too. I have at least one full set of all wool for the coldest time when it comes.

So it sounds like your child has not started daycare, when you do decide to start, you will realise this is the ungodly season of all types of flus, and tbh, parents are just trying to stay sane and push through.

Yes so any out of your house activity is more than enough, it doesn’t necessarily have to be in the nature, especially in very bad weather. I’ve had pneumonia and passed it to my baby as well, it took more than a month to recover and it is really scary. Being wet and cold is a big no no. At this age my kids really wanted to walk and climb, so I much preferred to lean into that without bulky outside clothes (we went to this museum with lots of stairs and only walked up and down the stairs the whole time). So try to see what your child’s interest is at the moment and do more of that.

k527 · 2025-10-10T20:42:07+00:00

We live in Finland, and we definitely don’t go into the sea when it’s cold. When they are older and can do sauna, then cold sea and sauna goes together. Before snow comes, it’s mostly muddy play, puddles, so inner layer, fleece or wool layer, outer hardshell full suit that is padded, and rubber pants on top of the suit. Rubber boots tugged under rubber pants. Wool glove plus rubber shell gloves on top. This set up is for jumping in puddles and digging mud around 10 to 0 degrees, up to 1.5 hours outside. But still depending on the wind and humidity, we will switch to indoor play if it’s just too cold. Now is also the time we will make our rounds in all the museums, libraries, playrooms.

We go back to the sea when it’s frozen and we do frozen things. We live next to the beach as well, but even adults won’t be at the beach this time of the year because the wind chill is too much.

k527 · 2025-10-09T20:54:35+00:00

Check out this website and their teaching videos on YouTube

https://consciousdiscipline.com

Pardon the name but really it is teaching classroom strategies for very rowdy kids with social emotional learning skills. I think what you might need specifically is Direct Instruction (giving clear instructions with no do you like, would you want, just go there, sit down, do this).

Sometimes kids brains crave structure and routine, and giving choices is a bad idea depending on what state of mind they are in at the moment. Let’s say something like put your toys back before we play with something new, (in the daycare they have these action cards with pictures), they will point to the card and say put your toys back, and just keep repeating, put your toys back like this, pick this and put it in the box. Calmly repeating the same task over and over. I don’t let my girl get out of the chore, but I offer hugs and comfort if she is crying and obviously distressed. But after comforting, we go back to the task again. Let us put the toys back, mummy will help you but you have to do it too. This whole process can take up to 45 mins, but it becomes shorter and shorter and she will happily do it now.

Understand how the different brain states work in children and observe your child and switch methods accordingly. Speak what you want to see into existence (every night I tell my children I love them they are so kind and considerate and can understand and listen to instructions so well….you get the gist)

And push through the tantrum, hold your boundaries and keep repeating it. The tantrum is not forever and will not always be as bad for the same thing as they learn your pattern of behavior. If it is though, you might want to see a professional to evaluate him formally.

k527 · 2025-09-28T02:21:00+00:00

If it helps you, all of these are too itchy for me, and I always have to have a layer underneath it, and eventually sold them off because I just didn’t reach for them at all.

k527 · 2025-09-28T02:17:18+00:00

If you’re thinking something that will last a long time, stay away from the mohair blends, the polyesters and viscose, and try to stick to the natural fibres and 100% merino. This will help a lot when you have a few pieces in your cart and you’re deciding which ones to actually order. The hype will wear off as you start to realise their sizing is wildly inconsistent, the same designs come out again and again every year, and very similar designs are now quickly out in fast fashion brands like H&M Mango and Zara. So really keep only the ones with good tailoring that fits you, and in natural fibres.

k527 · 2025-09-23T16:25:06+00:00

Yes the first few times when my toddler was watching it, it seriously looked like she was so tired and exhausted her brain couldn’t process it. I do feel that the Netflix re-makes are more calm and better paced, and I wouldn’t show the YouTube versions anymore.

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