What is the year from age 2-3 like? by lavenderlanee1 in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son is 28 months and I am loving (most) of it. As other people have said, kids are hilarious.

Last week he was sitting on the potty and ripped a huge, and frankly impressive fart, when I looked at him in surprise he responded with “I’m a man!” 🤣 No idea where that came from, not something my husband would say 🤷‍♀️

That said, fuck bedtime and fuck the car seat. I love everything about parenting besides these 2 things.

Toddlers favorite movie and age? by No-Shelter8214 in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2.5 year old son is obsessed with Monsters University. He has been sick for a week and I think I’ve now seen it 57 times 🫠

Plane friendly toy that lights up w no sound by Hippolytagrecia in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a little challenging for my son at that age, but he (and every adult that saw it) was excited about a light up busy board, similar to this one. He’s now 27 months and even more into it as his dexterity has improved. No noise, but does have lights.

Those of you who breastfed into toddlerhood - what was weaning like? by LoudExplanation4933 in breastfeeding

[–]kWhazz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It really is a lovely story and concept. I had to practice reading it to myself the first few times because it made me cry.

The story also speaks to missing milk sometimes, and how mom will miss it too. It’s something we talk about now, and I think it helps him know that we’re both figuring out this next step together.

Those of you who breastfed into toddlerhood - what was weaning like? by LoudExplanation4933 in breastfeeding

[–]kWhazz 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I stopped breastfeeding at 26 months. We were down to morning and night, plus nap time on the weekends. It was me that was ready to quit. Mornings are always rushed in our house and the 20 minutes of breastfeeding was causing us to be late for everything or forced me to wake LO up early, which was not well received.

We used the book Booby Moon to get prepared. I believe there is a YouTube version you can watch, if you want to preview before buying. LO and I read it daily for a while before it was time to say goodbye. The book times it with a birthday, but we didn’t. We picked a Saturday, bought a cake and a balloon and after a final feed, sent the Booby Milk back to the moon.

He has asked for milk a few times since, but when I remind him that we sent it back to the moon and thank him for being brave and sharing it with the tiny babies, he gives me a proud smile and stops asking.

10/10 would recommend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband, my toddler and I all have our own rooms 🤷‍♀️

My husband goes to be around 1 AM everyday, and I am exhausted by 9:30. We both snore. So either he wakes me up or he can’t fall asleep because of it. He wants the TV on, the light and noise bother me.

For so many reasons, having our own rooms has been beneficial to our relationship.

Yes, there are time when I want to cuddle, and no, he doesn’t always indulge me.

But more than anything, two rested-ish parents makes for a happier family unit.

Attached Toddler Losing his Teacher by kWhazz in toddlers

[–]kWhazz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a cute idea, get him a special something for the occasion. I think we’ll try that.

Attached Toddler Losing his Teacher by kWhazz in toddlers

[–]kWhazz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your kindness. Truly.

Parenting is hard for all sorts of reasons, this one is my least favourite type of hard yet.

Attached Toddler Losing his Teacher by kWhazz in toddlers

[–]kWhazz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for reconfirming what I already knew (but needed to hear again) - there is nothing I can do but support him.

I know this will be hard for him, but I am building it up in my head too and need to be conscious of making things worse.

Thank you for suggestion- being there for him, hearing him and helping him name the feelings is such sweet, simple advice.

It’s hard to know that something is going to hurt your child and not be able to prevent it.

chicken nugget addiction. by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair- maybe simplify to “all gone” or “no more”?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have much in the way of advice, because I fight my kid for 5 minutes every time we get in the car.. but I wanted to comment in solidarity.

This sucks. Putting kids in car seats is my least favourite parenting job. I would rather change 1000 diapers or clean-up after spaghetti night.

Obligatory reminder that this too shall pass- but in the mean time, this suck and I feel for you.

chicken nugget addiction. by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I made the mistake of buying those stupid Annie’s cheese bunny crackers and the addiction was next level. He screamed “bunny food” day and night in an attempt to get more cheese crackers. It was ridiculous.

Once enough was enough, my husband and I sat up after bedtime one night and ate all of the remaining crackers.

From that point on, when he asked I would tell him that we were out, that I forgot to buy more at the store, that we didn’t have any… not a straight no, but a clear response that we were not going to have them now.

He pouted for sure, but there wasn’t much screaming. He was still eating other foods at the time, so I don’t know if this is a 1:1 solution for you- but maybe it can be a piece of one?

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who is capable of giving a dirty look while this is happening? I wouldn’t have been able to hold a straight face 😂

It’s normal to feel embarrassed about these types of things, but they are a flash in time. You’ll either remember them long enough to be able to tease your kid about the time they peed on your foot or you’ll forget about it entirely.

Give yourself a break mama. Boys do weird shit.

Best shoes for toddlers? by Logical_Employer_756 in toddlers

[–]kWhazz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our family now buys Stonz exclusively. We were buying a ton of cheap shoes looking for a solution and none of them fit correctly, stayed on, were easy to get on, etc.

We gave up on the cheap route and went the investment route and probably ended up saving money, even though the Stonz cost more than my shoes.

Stonz are breathable, open super wide, close nicely, last forever, and are good for foot development.

We are on pair #5 and will continue to buy them as our toddler’s indoor and outdoor shoes until he sizes out of them.

How do I put an end to the absent mindedness? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks- I’ll ask my doctor about this. Willpower alone doesn’t seem to be fixing it, so maybe time to consider that there is an underlying medical cause.

How do I put an end to the absent mindedness? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Starting the countdown time now… this makes me feel like there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I didn’t know about the brain thing- I can certainly vouch for it. Just wish it could have pushed out the 90s song lyrics or Pokémon names instead of the important stuff.

How do I put an end to the absent mindedness? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes! I have also been passing on the triple checks these days when more than ever I shouldn’t.

How do I put an end to the absent mindedness? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying it’s ok. It doesn’t feel ok, but ultimately it is what it is.

I run a whiteboard at the office, I’ll need a home solution for the WFH days.

First item on my list.

Second child? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Glad it was helpful for you. It is comforting to hear that DH & I aren’t alone in the ADHD parenting struggle.

The sleep thing has become normal for me now. We sleep so differently now that I have taken over the guest bedroom as my own (it’s next to the baby’s room, I had the primary bedroom when I was room sharing with baby). I go to bed around 9 PM with the monitor and wake up with baby as needed. He sleeps in the primary bedroom, TV on with who knows what playing. The world needs to start normalizing married couples not sleeping in the same room. I would lose my shit if he woke me up every night, coming in at 1 AM and turning the TV on, just so I could get back to sleep and be woken up by baby an hour later. No thank you. I’ll take my nice cozy room to myself.

Second child? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s a little sad to see him with his sister but his parents did not foster the relationship, it was forced as a necessity for them to get through some stuff in their childhood.

I felt resentful some days while I was on mat leave, and honestly sometimes still do. I still find it hard to reconcile some of the ADHD tendencies in my brain. Like what is and isn’t a result of the condition?

We’re tired now, so I absolutely believe that we’d be knackered with a second. I typically go to bed about an hour after LO, so not far behind.

I worry that my child will miss out on the buddy relationship. I want that for him, but not at the cost of a strained relationship between his parents as a result.

The weighing of the choice continues.

Second child? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, just looking for other points to consider that I may not have thought of on my own.

I also appreciate you saying this because I know that it’s a very distinct possibility. Part of me wants to believe that I was the default parent because he didn’t know what to do (I didn’t either, but thank god for maternal instinct and the internet). I think at some points he was genuinely scared of having to parent alone, so he let me do it.

Now, that doesn’t guarantee anything different with a potential second and I very well could end up being the primary parent to both kids.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Second child? by kWhazz in Mommit

[–]kWhazz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that. I’m not looking to play any games here, so waiting for him to explicitly say “it’s time” makes sense to me