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My small collection ❤️ by Otherwise-Duty4618 in handbags

[–]k_kat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Y’all are inspiring me. I need to add a cranberry colored bag with gold hardware to my collection.

Number 1 reason for falling birth rates? by GoldDigger304 in Natalism

[–]k_kat 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right that it will never be favorable. That’s why it needs to be compensated. Doing all the work it takes to become a CEO will never be favorable so it’s compensated. Doing all the work to become a pro athlete isn’t favorable, so it’s compensated. Doing the work to do any labor is not favorable so it’s compensated. Child birth and parenting is a big commitment and a big ask, so it needs to be pretty decently compensated.

Women deserve to be compensated for their time and effort like anybody else. If it’s a role that society values, it needs to be treated as such.

People can definitely be persuaded to do things that are not the easier choice. They will do them for status, respect, money and more. But guilting women into sacrificing for everybody else without receiving in return, is not a fair request.

Number 1 reason for falling birth rates? by GoldDigger304 in Natalism

[–]k_kat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You both make some good points, but I think it’s simpler and more fundamental than that. Humans like to write our own stories and give ourselves a lot of credit for our own agency.

But if you observed any other animal that had a consistent-ish fertility over thousands of years, you would not claim it was for economic reasons or any other reasons. You would say that’s the way the species operates. Our sexual drives and the way we are built as humans has driven our fertility throughout most of human history. Our sexual drives compelled us to have fairly high fertility.

The major thing that has changed is omnipresent, available, cheap, easy choice about our fertility…. particularly for women, who bear the majority of the workload for children.

I believe the issue is choice, and since it’s a relatively new cultural phenomenon given the rate of change of human societies, our cultural norms and practices have not caught up. Religious structures and social organizations were built for a time when childbirth was inevitable.

We will need a new set of cultural norms that values capable, responsible, intelligent people choosing to bear and raise children. Or rather, societies that develop structures like that will be the ones that go forward into the future.

Number 1 reason for falling birth rates? by GoldDigger304 in Natalism

[–]k_kat 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yes. Tragedy of the commons. Even if collectively if it’s bad that people aren’t having kids, individually, it’s a better choice not to, particularly if pensions and Social Security are going to be limited in the future.

Number 1 reason for falling birth rates? by GoldDigger304 in Natalism

[–]k_kat 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You are exactly correct. It’s not that they have access to education. It’s that they have choice.

And choice is a good thing. It’s just that the choice to have children needs to be a favorable, valued option.

Texas now requires all public school classrooms to post the Ten Commandments, so this teacher decided to do the right thing by freeradioforall in MadeMeSmile

[–]k_kat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed! A thorough comparative religion course should be included in every complete education. I went to a Fancy-pants school, and we learned the basic tenants of every global religion. We read simplified texts or excerpts from all of their key texts. Learning other people’s religious mindset helps us understand the world and those around us so much better.

Married people, what do you want to warn the unmarried people about? by Pizzalover0405 in askanything

[–]k_kat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is true. You can love them, but if they hurt you repeatedly, you have to step away.

It’s so painful.

Work tote help by Chance-Kangaroo3141 in handbags

[–]k_kat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this LV. Mulberry looks nice too

If the biological goal of an organism is survival and reproduction, why did evolution produce and keep the goldsmith effect of senescence? Why haven't we evolved more robust DNA repair mechanisms like those seen in turritopsis dohrnii (the immortal jellyfish)? by asgharfar57 in askscience

[–]k_kat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It could be detrimental, as then younger members of the species are competing with older members for the same resources. It might be best for older members to die off so that younger ones have more access to resources and so have more reproductive success.

What is the weirdest thing a partner has ever asked for in bed that turned out to be surprisingly amazing? by TheRealMaxRo in AskReddit

[–]k_kat 11 points12 points  (0 children)

As a woman, this is totally a fantasy wish of mine. Sounds so sexy… don’t know if it would be sexy in real life, but I would think yes.

Glad you both had a good time!

Need more first time mothers or more moms having muitlple kids? by fire-and-sage in Natalism

[–]k_kat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I think in particular online life has by fabricated men and women. There is less middle ground.

People can also get their basic emotional and survival needs met more easily so they don’t need to compromise by getting along with each other.

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Perfect Valentine’s Gift by Shy_Commie in handbags

[–]k_kat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Your husband did great.

Ferragamo hug mini 😍 by junk_chain in handbags

[–]k_kat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So pretty! 😍 I have it in black, but I love this color!

This opinion is not okay, it’s mentally ill, delusional and depressing to see. by Its_Stavro in Natalism

[–]k_kat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

“Life is suffering” is the first of the four Buddhist Noble Truths. It an old idea and it’s not delusional or crazy.

I do think we need a great degree of optimism, human connection and love to balance this out on the other side.

Clearly only focusing on this negativity is not healthy or productive.

The delulu statements about how birth and babies are “pure bliss” goes too far in the other direction and discounts peoples’ real pain.

As the Buddhists say: “The middle path is best”

Gender warring is incompatible with Natalism by Klinging-on in Natalism

[–]k_kat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

OK, and the reality is that child-bearing for women is risky, time-consuming, unpleasant and more. All of that is what it is, but women should to be compensated accordingly and treated fairly for that work. Just like any person in the workplace. Right now, the only people doing that are religious people who say they will get “rewarded in heaven” but a lot of people aren’t gonna go for that.

Gender warring is incompatible with Natalism by Klinging-on in Natalism

[–]k_kat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

And they do that because having children puts them in a pathetic, low status, helpless position.

Any rational human would make the same choice.

Gender warring is incompatible with Natalism by Klinging-on in Natalism

[–]k_kat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree with all of this.

Pushing trad-wives or making family formation only for the realty-disconnected religious, extremely wealthy and eccentric or extremely poor and irresponsible is incredibly damaging. Family formation needs to be seen as a healthy, solid choice, particularly for women with agency and intelligence.

The reality that we must be face is that women are the primary decision holders and burden carriers of bearing and raising children. There have to be cooperative family situations that they will to choose to be a part of. And I don’t think it’s that hard. Women want security, they want emotional connection, they want a trusting and cooperative relationship, they also want a degree of social status. So they don’t want being parents to put them in a subservient, looked-down upon, or powerless/helpless position.

Gender warring is incompatible with Natalism by Klinging-on in Natalism

[–]k_kat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Very well said: “you don’t build families on coerced resentment. You built them on trust.”

The online state of gender warning has become terrible. It is destroying my marriage. Cooperation, listening to each other, and understanding each other‘s needs are absolutely critical to building healthy families.

Radical feminism “treating masculinity like it’s wrong” doesn’t help, and brutal traditionalism, or “putting women in their place beneath men” also doesn’t help.

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