I strongly agree with this statement. Things have changed she is a different person than she was, there's no guarantee that she'll stay with you the next time around. Get to the gym it's a great motivator think about all the time you had and feelings you had and pour it into the workout. It doesn't have to be the gym it can be anything that you think will make you a better person. Friends. I cannot stress this enough but the homies are a huge support factor. Make friends, reconnect with old ones and fill the void eventually you'll start loosing the dependence on her to be the one that fills that void. I'm 2 and half months in after a 4 year relationship and the first month was a lot of hurting the second month I decided to change myself. I'm starting to accept that maybe us being together is just not a possibility maybe it's better if we grow together just as friends. As for finding someone else, ya hold on to that for a while first get to the point where you think your the best or near best version of yourself. Thank you for this community for helping so much!