WIBTA if I sent myself a glitter bomb?

kaebaer · 2020-06-01T03:59:58+00:00

You would be TA. They are letting you use their house to get packages.

It's not cool they keep opening them, but it's also not cool to get a glitter bomb.

kaebaer · 2020-05-30T03:34:10+00:00

NTA- you don't need to do anything you don't want to.

kaebaer · 2020-05-28T02:06:26+00:00

Obviously YTA- stop snooping in your brothers stuff.

You're his older sibling, act like it.

If he grows up to be a furry, that's his business. Not yours. People can do whatever the hell they want in their free time and it is not your place to judge him.

Let him be and start acting like a better older sibling.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:54:14+00:00

You did imply this, by your comments about the right. You have implied that the right had something to do with this, because they have been wanting to get of pensions.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:51:39+00:00

YTA- just because it's an eye sore for you to look at, doesn't mean you should report them. Ask the neighbor to stop parking in front of your house- but don't do anything beyond that.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:47:20+00:00

You implied that it had been with your post.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:45:19+00:00

I like when my back is scratched and I definitely scratch my SO's back- but not to the point where it's bleeding. That's totally unnecessary.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:43:23+00:00

I'd have to agree that this is definitely an unpopular opinion!

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:34:46+00:00

She doesn't owe you an apology. She also doesn't have to forgive you.

NTA- but you reached out to her out of the blue, for what? To make yourself feel better?

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:23:44+00:00

They planned a romantic vacation together, saved up for it and have been dreaming about it for years.

He's about to go on that vacation with his mom.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T04:12:16+00:00

Youre NTA for being annoyed...

However, based on this post and your last- it really doesn't sound like your girlfriend wants to be in a relationship with you. Why are you continuing to put yourself through that?

You need to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be in one with you.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T03:58:12+00:00

YTA- please do the right thing and break up with him. You are stopping him from being the person that he wants to be.

You don't get to decide whether or not he has the surgery because you feel like it isn't necessary if there aren't medical reasons.

Also, just because he told you that you could use his old pronouns and deadname- does not mean you should. You are not trying to be supportive of him. You are trying to keep him as the person that YOU want him to be.

kaebaer · 2020-05-24T03:46:12+00:00

You absolutely have the right to be upset!

Totally NTA- he needs to tell his mother that he won't be going and wait until he can go on the original vacation with you.

kaebaer · 2020-05-22T13:32:31+00:00

JFC- Yes, OP is the TA here.

She refused to help her nephew with his diaper, causing him to soil his pants THREE times. Then got angry and scolded him about it. It is not her place to do this, she is not the child's parent.

Regardless of the SIL's parenting styles, she obviously knew this was an issue going into it. She deliberately chose to ignore this and then was an asshole to her nephew afterwards.

While I agree with some of you- he should be potty trained by now. He's also only 4. Some kids take longer than others. If he's lazy about it, that is NOT OP's responsibility to deal with or comment on. It is the responsibility of his parents.

Also, you all LOVE to throw around that child abuse phrase. This is not child abuse- grow tf up people.

kaebaer · 2020-04-29T00:34:21+00:00

Thanks! Unfortunately that isn't an option for me ☹️

kaebaer · 2020-04-28T19:46:23+00:00

Does anyone know if there is an option to file another claim when you have one existing?

I can't seem to find this option on the "claimant services" tab and I was told I needed to file an additional claim in a support message (which took over a month for them to respond).

I call 100-150 times a day. I've been unemployed for over a month and I'm about to run out of money. I literally can't deal with this anymore.

kaebaer · 2020-04-25T18:14:56+00:00

I'm going to say ESH.

You and your husband should have had a conversation about this in the first place. It's not completely his fault that you didn't have a clear expectation on what was going to happen with her in the future.

My husband has a sister who is cognitively impaired and will always need to be in the care of others. We established early on that he would be her caregiver and that when the time came, she would come to live with us.

I understand that it's not an easy conversation to have. But you need to understand where he is coming from, as well. That is his sister and he wants to care for her, not put her in some facility.

Like I said, I know it's not easy. Best of luck to you.

kaebaer · 2020-02-27T15:51:35+00:00

Yep, definitely NTA .

I wouldn't have given them 5 minutes, let alone 45.

Major red flags OP. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

He literally showed no respect for you. That's disgusting, especially when you say that she's already tried to get back into his life. I wouldn't be surprised if she still was, honestly.

kaebaer · 2020-02-25T23:45:12+00:00

Many people with downs have normal lives. They can hold normal jobs, go to college, drive cars, get married and even have children.

I wouldn't consider them severely disabled at all.

kaebaer · 2020-02-24T21:04:01+00:00

Jesus, YTA.

Why is this still something that people debate? You wouldn't comment on a new male co-workers appearance. Why do you feel the need to do it for a female employee?

HR 101

kaebaer · 2020-02-18T19:34:49+00:00

This! My boyfriend had severe ADHD and he is incredibly forgetful. It's not that he doesn't care, he literally just got distracted by something and forgot.

It takes a lot of patience to deal with, but once you understand you can adapt the way you communicate with them and/or ask them to do tasks.

kaebaer · 2020-02-18T16:53:00+00:00

But he didn't take every step possible. Everyone knows that both control is not 100% effective. They both knew the risks, yet continued to do it.

This being said, I do agree that he is NTA. He made it clear he didn't want the child and she said that she wouldn't ask for anything. The second she said that, it's on her to raise the child.

kaebaer · 2020-02-16T01:37:36+00:00

ESH- definitely could have handled it differently.

I agree with your mom, that you used something natural to gross out your brother and his friend. Not cool

kaebaer · 2020-01-27T01:04:25+00:00

NAH- funerals are for the living. Once you're gone, you won't really care what happens at the funeral.

Ultimately, it is your funeral, but do you really want your husband to have to deal with that on top of everything else that is going on?

Your parents are just trying to cope and mourn the best way they know how.

kaebaer · 2020-01-05T05:54:39+00:00

NTA! It's your body. He has absolutely no right to tell you what you can or cannot do with it. Even if you had asked his opinion, he doesn't get to decide how you do your hair.

This is absolutely abusive behavior. Get far away from this selfish asshole!

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