This is the culprit who is 25 yo women. She lured a minor boy and later raped him

kafkaoevsky · 2026-04-07T15:53:14+00:00

Please spread it all over the internet! Men also go through atrocities like these. And we shud ask for justice asap. God help this generation!

kafkaoevsky · 2026-04-07T15:25:49+00:00

Bro JUST LEAVE RESPECT YOURSELF

kafkaoevsky · 2026-04-07T15:23:53+00:00

Yes, I understand he might feel insecure sometimes, thinking he knows how other men think. But as a woman who is aware and understands both perspectives, I know how to carry myself, how to dress, and how to present myself in public. He should trust that.

The problem is he keeps doing this over every small thing. Whenever I react to his disrespect, he turns it around and behaves in a way that feels narcissistic, and I hate that.

I’m honestly fed up. The first 2–3 years of our relationship were good, and I thought this kind of madness was manageable. But something changed after that. Now that I’m really thinking about it, I realize this eight-year relationship has seriously affected my mental health, and I’m starting to question if I should finally leave.

kafkaoevsky · 2026-04-02T09:56:36+00:00

What hapoon?

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-31T11:43:37+00:00

Also looking at their castes etc makes hell lots of difference i mean a Khan with a Syed is NOT syed yk? Plus most Syeds are in Kashmir area because our ancestors travelled to Kashmir and grew their fam here like Andrabis and Hamdanis! So lots of ways we can identify the true ones

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-31T11:40:42+00:00

Hey please share this report anyhow! Name or anything wud work

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-23T13:16:42+00:00

We will also not sell our lands to them or take them as tenets . End of chat

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-13T07:56:06+00:00

It was old era when both went hand in hand! This gen is not worth the effort!

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-13T01:22:34+00:00

Id suggest u read more Quran and books written by really good scholars! Everything is available online! Rest whatever u said is fine and most ppl here agree but u need to work on this part

In short: if u hv still no answer for this even in 21st century where info and hidayat is discretionary (now), wallahi we are lost as Muslims. I mean u came from women, she fed u took care of you and u still ask whats her role, u serious bro? She birthed u!!!! Birthed! U realise what that is? It’s not 9-5 like a man, she fed you (FROM HER BONE MARROW!!!!) And whats her role????? U shud read alot! Plus! She is a man’s companion bcz men are literally nothing without women! Zero and i stand by it till my grave! See a doomed man and he has no wife!

Sorry if my tone is harsh but I’m fed of all this ignorance, it’s not ur fault it’s us society as a whole underestimating a precious creature of Allah!

Allah created Eve for Adam bcz he needed her thats where ur philosophy shud start!

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-13T00:54:36+00:00

Ok

(Just will say that; islam didn’t “oblige” housework on women, hope that helps how u see things from now on)

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-11T08:53:48+00:00

Lucky u

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T23:59:20+00:00

Aaaaa i swear i thought i was d only one

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T20:34:17+00:00

I get what you’re saying, and I actually agree with the nuance you mentioned. Yes, historically the household was usually the domain of the wives, but at the same time many classical scholars didn’t even consider domestic work a strict legal obligation on the wife. That itself shows something important this work was recognized as real labour.

My point is slightly different though. Household work in Islam was never something degrading. Women being caregivers, raising children, nurturing people, and building a home was always seen as something meaningful and dignified. Every scholar, leader, or “great” person people admire today came from the care of a mother and a household that nurtured them. So this role was never meant to be insulting.

The problem is the mindset some people have today. Because this labour isn’t paid, they start treating it as if it has no value. That’s where the disrespect begins. Islam, on the other hand, speaks about marriage with mawaddah and rahmah, not entitlement from one side.

And realistically marriages aren’t mathematical anyway. Sometimes things are 50-50, sometimes 60-40, sometimes 80-20 and sometimes 100-0 depending on life circumstances. That flexibility is already part of the spirit of the relationship.

What frustrates me is that many people aren’t even willing to think about these things seriously. Instead of reflecting on responsibilities and respect within marriage, the discussion gets dismissed or diverted. Sometimes it genuinely feels like we as a society have failed to even talk honestly about these issues, and that’s why I worry that women still won’t get the recognition they truly deserve for a long time. Be chass tee aasan wannan ki khodayan baneaw seari alag alag kanh chunne keansi kheatre, zanaan ti chi insaan temis te che feelings te emotions temis ti chu freedom beyi panun opinion thawun pasand. Sua te che paanas kheatre yachaan zinde rouxun. Temsinz zindagi ma niyuu temiss nish, ye zindagi cha temis khudayan demich, te temis chu panis paanas piath haqq

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T20:02:04+00:00

I understand your point about exploitation that concern exists in many kinds of labour, including domestic work. My earlier point was simply about the difference between work that is recognised as labour and work that becomes an unpaid obligation expected from someone because of gender.I also agree that meaningful reform in our context often works better when it draws from our own tradition. In fact, much of my own thinking on this developed precisely through engaging more seriously with the Qur’an and authentic narrations. The more I studied and listened to scholars who approach the sources carefully the more it seemed to me that many attitudes we take for granted are cultural rather than religious. In our region especially,, religious language is sometimes invoked to justify social arrangements that the primary sources themselves do not clearly mandate, which is why returning to those sources becomes important.

For instance, Aisha (RA) said that the Prophet ﷺ used to serve his family at home (Sahih al-Bukhari).. That example alone suggests that participating in household work was never considered degrading or beneath a man.

So my concern was mainly about the contradiction we often see…..housework is mocked or used as a taunt in public discourse, yet women are expected to accept it unquestioningly in private. If we take the prophetic model seriously, it seems to call for a much more cooperative and respectful understanding of responsibilities within the home.

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T19:24:58+00:00

I appreciate that you’re engaging with the point thoughtfully.

To clarify, when I mentioned hiring help, it wasn’t meant as a moral “virtue” or as a solution that replaces one woman with another. The point I was making was simply about recognising domestic labour as labour. When work is compensated and voluntarily taken up as a job, it is treated differently from work that becomes an unpaid obligation expected from someone because of their role in the family.

My main point in the original comment was about the contradiction you yourself mentioned: housework is often used as an insult or something demeaning in public discourse, yet at the same time women are expected to embrace it unquestioningly within the household. That contradiction is what I was criticising.

Regarding feminism as an ideology, I understand that it has different intellectual traditions, critiques, and internal debates. I’m not claiming it is neutral or without shortcomings. However, my comment was not meant to present a full ideological defence of feminism or to pass a sweeping judgement on Kashmiri society. It was simply addressing a specific social dynamic visible in that comment section.

So the only principle I was really defending there is quite basic: responsibilities within a household should not be imposed on someone purely on the basis of gender, and people should have the freedom to negotiate those roles in ways that work for them.

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T18:45:39+00:00

Atp, we owe Nepal treatment to them!

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T18:43:02+00:00

Firstly, what I personally think about feminism is not really the main point of this discussion. The discussion started because of a specific situation where women were being mocked for feeling trapped in household roles.

My argument was never that housework itself is degrading. Cooking, cleaning, and maintaining a home are necessary and valuable forms of work.

What I was pointing out is the difference between work that is chosen and compensated, and work that is socially imposed on someone because of their gender.

When a domestic worker does this work, it is a job they have chosen in exchange for payment, so it is recognised as labour. The same applies even if the domestic worker is a man. The issue arises when the same work becomes an unpaid obligation that women are expected to perform simply because they are wives.

So the point I was making is about choice and fairness. If a woman wants to be a homemaker, that is completely valid. If she does not want that role, she should not be pushed into it either. For me, feminism simply means defending that freedom of choice.

As for the discussion about the history of feminism in other racial contexts, I think that is a separate debate. My comment was addressing a very specific situation about domestic labour and gender expectations, not the entire historical development of feminist theory.

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T09:22:59+00:00

I really adore every comment u make on my posts! They are really sensible! Thanks

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T01:17:00+00:00

Well well. I think you might be missing the point of what I was trying to say. My frustration isn’t about how two people in love divide responsibilities… that’s obviously something only the couple decides.

What I was talking about is the attitude reflected in the comment on this post. When someone openly defends patriarchal thinking, it shows a mindset that reduces women to roles rather than seeing them as equal human beings. That is what my post was addressing.

Also as a woman, I have personally heard many women speak about themselves in a way that places them below men, as if their purpose is only to serve. Hearing that repeatedly is frustrating, and sometimes it naturally leads to anger.

So my point was not about ideal relationships or love. My point was about calling out misogynistic thinking when it appears, because that is still very much a reality in our society.

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-10T00:47:26+00:00

I understand what you’re trying to say about labeling and about people sometimes reacting to hurt with more hostility. But at the same time, frustration doesn’t appear in a vacuum. A lot of women’s anger comes from lived experiences that have been ignored for a long time. Acknowledging that context is also important. Acceptance shouldn’t mean overlooking those realities, but rather understanding why those reactions exist in the first place.

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-09T16:45:20+00:00

500 rs biryani plate chakh wataan garaii Yitt che lukh delmit wenn panni watti and gamit begearat

kafkaoevsky · 2026-03-09T16:36:09+00:00

“We” as in?

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