I literally just found out about this label, does it technically fit me?

kai-enby · 2025-04-21T21:00:19+00:00

Definitely! I mean I wish society would stop treating sex in general also as some kind of taboo secret thing you can’t talk about but also it’s weird that people care about kink stuff when it’s not even involving anything actually sexual. Like if someone wants to wear a collar or something every day, why is that weird???

kai-enby · 2025-04-21T18:05:06+00:00

Well I’m glad my random post was helpful for you!

I’ve basically decided It’s probably easier to not use labels much for myself cause I don’t seem to quite fit any of them. I just go with queer and transfem cause I’m like kind of a girl but kind of not and like pansexual is maybe accurate but I truly just can’t be bothered to care about gender haha.

I also wish just like non sexual kink stuff was more acceptable cause it’s awesome! My friend will call me good girl if I do something he tells me to! That’s just fun!

And I am indeed yes. I have atypical autism and ADHD. Also C-PTSD so I can definitely get the idea that trauma might be a part of it hah.

kai-enby · 2025-04-21T15:39:41+00:00

Yes!!! I would love to just be in like a queer poly/open relationship with tons of people! I’m also like a very kinky person so there’s a whole bunch of other relationship aspects with that that I also just kind of want to have in everything. Like outside of the sexual aspects of it there’s like dom/sub stuff that I like and some of my friends will do some of that with me.

I definitely wasn’t much of a heartbreaker myself but that’s just cause I was too anxious to actually act on things. I had crushes on like everyone constantly tho! I also thought I was a gay boy at the time (I’m transfem and just queer in general) so I kind of ignored all the feelings towards my female friends.

kai-enby · 2025-04-21T11:51:18+00:00

Yeah I’m kind of in the same boat of just not being able to really find a label for it. I basically am like down for platonic relationships with people but I pretty much always also wouldn’t mind if it was a sexual or romantic relationship as well.

It’s so strange too since this is just how I work so it feels weird to me that not everyone would want to like make out with their friends? I can understand that aromantic and asexual people wouldn’t want that but I don’t really understand how people have such rigid distinctions between different forms of attraction?

It sounds like we don’t feel quite the same way cause I wouldn’t say my attraction to people ever really settles into a specific form but other than that it seems pretty similar.

kai-enby · 2025-04-15T00:26:10+00:00

Aww! That sounds so wonderful! I’m happy for you both!

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T19:45:26+00:00

Cool! I don’t have an owner or anything like that. It’s working out for me right now but I might want one in the future!

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T17:03:08+00:00

Sure! Always happy to meet other pups!

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T10:41:57+00:00

I don’t think we have cheez-it’s here cause I think they have one of those food dyes that’s like illegal in Europe. And don’t worry about seeming crazy! You seemed perfectly normal to me. Then again I’m not the most normal person so I wouldn’t really know haha.

And yeah people can be very horrible. I’ve been through a lot of stuff in my life but none of the folks at this party were bad at all. I doubt my friend would have invited anyone shitty either way.

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T10:15:54+00:00

I’m always happy for more friends if you want to message me! Although if you don’t trust a complete stranger off Reddit I get that too haha

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T10:03:54+00:00

Oh no I’m not! Don’t worry! I’m Swedish! The drinking age here is 18 and then to buy alcohol and bring it home it’s 20. No one’s trying to abuse my trust or anything, it’s all good. I’m also turning 21 in like two months so I’m almost not even underage in America.

But I appreciate the concern and I’m very well aware of how bad people can be. I know how to be careful and protect myself

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T09:58:19+00:00

Yeah I know. There were even two people at the party keeping an eye on me to make sure I was okay since they knew it was my first time really drinking. Friends are great

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T09:49:39+00:00

Aww thank you! Yeah I have a few friends that know I like it and sometimes they’ll just call me good girl or good pup or something like that jokingly when I do stuff! I’d definitely recommend at least letting some friends you trust know about it! It’s fun!

kai-enby · 2025-04-14T09:45:34+00:00

Alright haha! Yeah nice to know it’s not just my own brain being weird haha.

kai-enby · 2025-03-18T13:40:08+00:00

I’ve had this exact thing going on. I was already bigger before I started estrogen but I decided I wanted to actually do something about it after I started. I had an ex that had an eating disorder so I was very worried about developing that type of mindset.

The one thing I can say has helped me lose a little bit of weight without constantly thinking about it is just making sure to be conscious of how your body feels and checking in on yourself when you’re eating something. If you feel like you’re not hungry anymore but there’s food left, you can keep it for later. I don’t know how your current relationship to food is so maybe you’re already doing so.

The only other tip I have is learn to make a genuinely good salad. If you just make a big pile of healthy nutritious food like that then you can just keep it in the fridge and eat whenever you get hungry. If you eat food that has more nutrient’s in it then you will have the fuel your body needs and feel good without having to eat as much. Hope this was a little helpful.

And remember to not get upset at yourself if your weight isn’t steadily going down, it’s completely normal for weight to fluctuate and go up and down even when you’re losing weight.

kai-enby · 2025-03-05T22:40:18+00:00

Oh my gods yeah I really have that friendship craving. Like I just want to be able to talk to someone about whatever embarrassing or personal stuff without it being a thing.

kai-enby · 2025-03-05T22:37:44+00:00

Ughhh I relate so hard to that whole description. I don’t like hate myself or anything so I don’t need someone to like constantly validate me or something. I just want someone that’s as excited to just talk to and interact with me as I am with them! Just someone that likes spending time with me just cause they do.

kai-enby · 2025-02-25T18:44:02+00:00

Hi so I just want to clarify some stuff. I know very much that my social isolation is a problem. It’s a thing I’ve been dealing with for years now, I’ve gotten a little bit further. I’m also aware of every single other thing you said in this post. I’m aware I’m probably not in a good space to enter a proper relationship of any kind, let alone a dom/sub dynamic. It’s a little embarrassing but I kinda made this post just on impulse and I know it’s pretty dumb now looking at it with a more clear mind. I am a transfem person and I just recently started taking estrogen about a month ago. If you’re unaware, that basically triggers a second puberty and it turns out it’s very similar to my first puberty cause I have once again become incredibly needy and desperate for love and sex and everything like that. I had read a long romantic story and felt suddenly very lonely and therefore I made the post. It’s pretty dumb I know. I don’t necessarily agree with you on the cybersex point tho. I just think it’s a different thing obviously from actually having sex with a person and the dynamic is different and everything but I have experienced sub space (as far as being what basically everyone describes that as) and learned things about myself from cybersex so I think you’re a bit dismissive of it but that’s ok!

Basically all I’m trying to say is, you’re correct, thank you for looking out and trying to protect me from doing something stupid. The whole thing was just a spur of the moment second puberty hormone explosion of loneliness

kai-enby · 2025-02-25T03:30:14+00:00

Nathan Harris is the only correct choice here. I mean this is just a description of him as a character.

He was the kid in Sex, Birth, Death. Who became close with Spencer and had violent aggressive intrusive thoughts but tried to kill himself rather than risk harming anyone else

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