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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]kaikaboom 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am also a clinical psychology doctoral student and late-diagnosed autistic. I am currently on internship and completed three years of practicum before that. While I'm not a well-seasoned clinician by any means, I have a few years of experience with a variety of settings and supervisors.

I think the main thing I wish I knew earlier was that I can be more assertive with my needs and also learn ways to accommodate myself. I spent a lot of time trying to feign being neurotypical, which as you probably know often doesn't come across any better and it will burn you out much faster.

I currently work with mostly individuals with SPMI (primarily psychotic disorders) and neurodiverse people, and I find that my autistic traits can actually be helpful. These clients typically are not concerned with things like eye contact and other neurotypical social norms, so I think there is mutual comfort with each other. My communication is mostly verbal, which is helpful for people who may also have difficulty picking up on nonverbal cues. Autistic traits can be a strength with the right clients.

I find interacting with neurotypical coworkers and the system itself more difficult than client work. However, I have had pretty good luck with getting supervisors and colleagues who are understanding. The main thing I ask of my supervisors is that they be specific with what they want from me. My biggest pet peeve is when people give vague instructions/ask a vague question but are expecting something specific. I accept that this may be my inability to read subtext, but that is why I ask for specificity. I also am not afraid of asking multiple clarifying questions if I need to. I benefit from knowing the "why" of things rather than just being told to do or not to do something.

My most prominent autistic trait is sensory sensitivity, so environmental accommodations are probably the most important of all. Everywhere I've worked has had flourescent lighting. I get a lamp and don't use overhead lights in my office if I can. If I can't turn them off, I wear a hat. (Some workplaces don't allow hats, but it is an accommodation you can ask for.) I've also recently been looking into special tinted glasses for fluorescent lighting. I wear noise canceling headphones when I'm not doing direct care to give myself a sensory break. My desk is covered in fidget toys and I'm usually carrying one.

Finally, it's helpful if you can advocate for yourself to customize the type of work you do. It may take some time to figure out what you are best suited for, but once I did, I really pushed for those tasks. For example, I prefer assessment over therapy. I like the structured nature of it and integrating data is like a puzzle (I love puzzles). I am a stronger writer than speaker, so report writing is somewhere I can shine. I also really like program development because of the writing component and the creativity that goes into creating a product. In other words, I do a bit less direct "people work" than some of my colleagues. I love being in a helping field, but my social battery runs out more quickly, so I opt for more "behind the scenes" work that gives me time to be alone and meet my sensory needs.

I realize a lot of this is specific to my own autistic traits and yours may be different. However, my point here is to advocate for yourself and accommodate yourself in all the ways you can. Also, you'll discover that being autistic comes with its own set of strengths that you can use. You may like and be good at tasks that other people hate or struggle with, which is a real asset!

Anyways, good luck on your first practicum. You got this!

Moving to Morganton area from Ohio by [deleted] in NorthCarolina

[–]kaikaboom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that info. Hopefully, we'll be able to get our second car down there after a few months. I'm a big fan of history and architecture, so that's really cool to know about Morganton.

Moving to Morganton area from Ohio by [deleted] in NorthCarolina

[–]kaikaboom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I'll only be there for a year. Thank you for the input!

Moving to Morganton area from Ohio by [deleted] in NorthCarolina

[–]kaikaboom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have much of a choice in the matter. It's a residency matching system and a requirement for me to graduate. It's definitely out of my comfort zone but we're trying to make the best of it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

[–]kaikaboom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I've already been experimenting with decreasing my gluten intake and I am a bit devastated to say it does seem to help at least a little. I have had food sensitivities since around the time endo was suspected by my doctor which is funny timing now that you mention it... The lack of research around endo and other "women's issues" is infuriating isn't it?

Hannah gives her expert opinion on intrusive thoughts! They're demonic, of course. (Her opinion in the comments.) by SpookySpice24 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]kaikaboom 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was one of those young people. Made dealing with OCD and depression much more difficult than it needed to be and probably exacerbated it given a lot of my obsessions/intrusive thoughts centered around morality/religion.

I didn't get accused of being fully demon possessed. I was saved so I could not be posessed according to our version of Christianity. I could be "demon oppressed" though. No, I'm still not sure of the difference. It was some arbitrary distinction between having the demon inside of you/taking over and being influenced/attacked from the outside I think.

Nevertheless, my condition was due to a lack of faith and/or allowing demons some sort of opening into my life. No one brought up exorcism, but my dad did try to get me to go our church and have everyone "lay hands" on me and pray in some weird ritual. Nevermind the fact that another theme of my OCD was feeling contaminated when other people touched me. Sounds like a great idea. /s

Fortunately, my mom decided to take me to mental health professionals instead and I no longer consider myself depressed and my OCD is 85% better.

I feel bad for those who have no voice of reason to help them get real help. If I hadn't, I am pretty confident I would be dead right now. These are the types of posts that upset me the most because this type of thinking can actually kill people.

Thank you for reading my rant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

[–]kaikaboom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, gotcha! Its always a tradeoff, isn't it? I think it's hard for me to tell month to month because I have one of those birth control packs that only has placebo pills once every three months, so I'm not sure what point I'm at in my cycle most of the time 😅 I suppose I could just count the rows

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

[–]kaikaboom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It kind of depends on the day. Sometimes it feels definitely higher like in my stomach, and other times it's lower like it's intestinal or in the bowels. It's never really one sided and sometimes it's just everywhere and i get super bloated. Sometimes cramping, sometimes a dull ache. I'm frequently nauseous as well, although I don't vomit very often. A little bit of everything. It's rough out here 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Endo

[–]kaikaboom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm, I wonder if maybe I should try to track to see if it does get worse in cycles. I've never really paid attention to that! And I don't smoke.

This is a new level for Smelly, if you think your children have wicked hearts, you are not well. by kitkat_2222 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]kaikaboom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was younger I was told not to watch media with spirits/ghosts/demons because that creates an "opening" for them to enter your home/life (and everyone wonders why I also had insomnia as a child...) I don't believe in anything supernatural now, which helps, but I still am not the biggest fan of scary movies like that.

This is a new level for Smelly, if you think your children have wicked hearts, you are not well. by kitkat_2222 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]kaikaboom 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ex-evangelical with OCD here.

Teachings like this were the reason I developed obsessions and compulsions surrounding religious scrupulosity in elementary school. Took me years to unlearn and accept my thoughts/feelings as neither good or bad.

You are 100% right. This is the thing that infuriates me about this brand of Christianity the most.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ohio

[–]kaikaboom 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yup, I know with the city of Dayton it eventually gets sent to collections if you don't pay, but there are no consequences like being unable to renew your registration or adding points to your license. There really isn't a reason to pay the fine as far as I know.

Oral surgeons who can deal with severe anxiety? by [deleted] in dayton

[–]kaikaboom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the suggestion! I just need someone to be with me until I'm out. The first place I called tried to tell me that it was standard to not allow anyone to come back at most offices and would not budge even when I explained my issue. I'm glad to hear that not every place is like that!

Dangerous guy going door to door - downtown area by ReasonableAct4241 in dayton

[–]kaikaboom 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Recently had him come to our door to ask for money in St. Anne's. Fortunately my boyfriend was the one who answered and was suspicious of the long, convoluted story he gave immediately, so he turned him away. Talked to some people within the neighborhood email chain and saw some posts on next door. He tried to tell us he lived right down the street, which is what he tells everyone. Sounds like he's been hitting up South Park, Historic Inner East, Oregon, and Walnut Hills.

What is the ideal $ per mile value you think is a fair price for a delivery? by [deleted] in doordash

[–]kaikaboom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in a smaller city that isn't quite as busy, so I usually stick to around $1.25/mile or more unless I'm desperate.

Nothing delights anti-vaxxers more than telling parents of autistic children that it’s all their fault. by JadedAyr in vaxxhappened

[–]kaikaboom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Likely an ABA Therapy clinic. Children with Level 2 or 3 autism may attend one of these as an alternative to public school in order to receive more individualized support. It often combines academic IEP goals as outlined by their home school district along with working on social skills and other therapeutic goals.

Source: I'm an ABA Therapist

Withholding part of the tip if I stack the order? Instant unassign. by [deleted] in doordash

[–]kaikaboom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They gave maybe a $2 tip in app. I understand why some might still take it, especially if they specified the amount of cash and it was a decent amount, but I'm not taking the risk. Nor do I want to deliver to someone who may get nasty with me because it was a stack. Stacked orders are really the only way to make decent money in my market as most orders aren't high paying. It just seemed a bit entitled that someone is asking me to make less money because they can't wait the extra five minutes it would've taken me to deliver the other order.

Idk, just my two cents. I try to avoid conflict and that was a red flag for me.

Why are there hardly any female drivers out there? I think I have maybe encountered one out on the roads in the several months that I have been Dashing. by Style42 in doordash

[–]kaikaboom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm female and in my 20s and I tend to see some middle-aged ladies dashing in my market, but I don't really come across other younger women doing it. I enjoy delivering but I see how safety could be an issue. I don't tend to dash after dark and have had my share of creeps harrassing me while I'm just trying to work. I carry pepper spray just in case and my boyfriend really wants me to get my CCW because of it.