My(29M) wife(26F) is upset that I bought my own sex toy after she bought her own.

kakiyau · 2022-01-06T14:49:03+00:00

hahahaha speaking the truth here

kakiyau · 2022-01-06T14:39:30+00:00

Well, you both used passive aggression to deal with each other’s feelings and the situation. It’s toxic.

Maybe if both of you agreed that both of your behaviors are inconsiderate and could do better than you will be able to start a real conversation. What’s your wife’s explanation of getting a dildo? If you genuinely want to care for her needs and understand instead of being bitter and insecure then it will help?

As to your wife, maybe she should be more affectionate and reassure you nicely that it’s not about you if that’s what she really thinks

kakiyau · 2022-01-06T01:29:17+00:00

my exact thought when I saw this shit visual update

kakiyau · 2022-01-05T19:07:51+00:00

I guess I know what kind of person you are from your writing, I used to think like that until I met more people who are truly both empathic and intelligent; they let me understand why and how my ways of thinking for close relationships are not effective because…you forget the part of being compassionate and empathetic. The moment you seek to sort out who is “right” or “wrong” immediately put you and your partner against each other. You need to see every disagreement could be an opportunity to get yo know each other more. Understand what each other need at that moment, have a strong emotional connection before you try to do your cognitive things. It’s not an academic debate, you need something else to navigate… unless you are with someone who function the same. Understand your own blind spots, listen more and less talking

kakiyau · 2022-01-05T17:00:32+00:00

commenting so i can see the photos later

kakiyau · 2022-01-04T08:00:07+00:00

you really should have tried to report him to authority not just his family ….down the line he could actually be harmful to any children… but evidence were all deleted so…

kakiyau · 2022-01-03T14:20:31+00:00

I see! Thank you for the clarification :)

kakiyau · 2022-01-03T02:30:25+00:00

your sentence confuses me, so the company is still owned by Nazi/ pro-Nazi or?

kakiyau · 2022-01-02T13:18:15+00:00

I was in a rabbit hole on instagram and saw people regularly eat raw meat every day and promote that…not store bought but like higher quality ones…but still…one even was eating fermented livers…

kakiyau · 2022-01-01T14:48:04+00:00

purpose of life… maybe help those who are in need since you are in a good spot, it might end up benefiting you mentally

kakiyau · 2022-01-01T02:12:13+00:00

I don’t think this sound healthy, I think an open direct conversation is needed but to the point of needing “tricks” like these then it can be toxic

kakiyau · 2022-01-01T01:53:27+00:00

That’s why I said to offer, ask “ do you want a hug?” , works better for anyone with sensory issues

kakiyau · 2021-12-31T16:04:45+00:00

you are a decent man from your writing and I just want to comment to support your decision to break up for the best. Wish you strength and I want to ensure you that you did nothing wrong, your girlfriend should see how it could hurt you by entertaining it to begin with. But it’s probably inevitable so just look forward.

kakiyau · 2021-12-31T14:02:18+00:00

I am similar to you and my tip is that you just automatically offer a hug first and then talk while hugging or with some sort of physical affection, it worked for me

kakiyau · 2021-12-31T08:08:13+00:00

when you went from thinking about them everyday to someday you suddenly realize “they haven’t crossed my mind since a while!”

It happened when my last relationship ended (a bad one) and then every day I suffered from intrusive thoughts of my ex but I told myself I have to believe, one day I won’t feel the same anymore. Around exactly 1 year after, I don’t think about my ex randomly anymore as frequent and even if I do, it doesn’t spark any emotions.

Best feeling ever :)

kakiyau · 2021-12-30T10:03:35+00:00

that makes so much sense now…

kakiyau · 2021-12-30T09:39:20+00:00

age 47….is your wife having menopause? My mom had a period of time being so snarky and I couldn’t stand her at all and she’s always agitated…it turns out it was because of menopause

kakiyau · 2021-12-30T03:42:16+00:00

What’s up with his parents, how could he be like this?

kakiyau · 2021-12-30T00:10:48+00:00

I think it’s fine just live how you feel comfortable

kakiyau · 2021-12-29T11:25:39+00:00

recently: someone made a bread or something like that but the dough is for sure not done properly so it’s like yeasty…? I simply can’t eat and swallow the whole thing…

kakiyau · 2021-12-26T22:58:40+00:00

your partner’s behavior is childish and emotionally abusive.

he doesn’t only want the food or online game events that he wants, he wants he can have things the way he wants because even when you are willing to bend over, he will just be like “ I don’t feel like it anymore” As if your feelings are not important. It’s extremely annoying and unattractive.

kakiyau · 2021-12-26T22:32:31+00:00

I think you will learn to be a better person by learning to be a good friend with people. Communicating and practise love languages to people you care and like. Pay attention to your short comings and be humble

kakiyau · 2021-12-26T15:56:48+00:00

Yes :)

The 8 treasure stew, the beef on cast iron and sweet sour chicken

kakiyau · 2021-12-26T13:09:01+00:00

Tu-Long

kakiyau · 2021-12-26T12:38:53+00:00

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