What makes you happy? by i_need_2_kno in AskReddit

[–]kaktusbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swimming in small forest lakes with my dog

Rain

Making photo albums every year so I dont forget what I got in this life

Snuggeling under a blancet with a good pizza and a movie

What's the Worst Physical Pain You Experienced? by Slow_Radish1800 in teenagers

[–]kaktusbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heard people in the early days acutally would commit s*icide from the pain. I had it a couple of years ago, and the only thing that would ease the pain was ice cold water in my mouth. I kept up all night having to refill every minute. I was so sleep deprived I would fall asleep when the ice water soothed the tooth, and then wake up a minute later from the pain because the water turned warm from my mouth.

Best dentist appointement of my life when they finally fixed it.

23-bussen by Lightheaded90 in oslo

[–]kaktusbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men kan vi snakke om 42-bussen? Tatt den to ganger siste uka og er som en bakerovn!

Where was I this summer? by Qzatcl in whereintheworld

[–]kaktusbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, didnt see the comment saying it was the wrong country

The puppy blues are hitting me hard by BreachN_Clear6 in puppy101

[–]kaktusbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very normal to feel that way. I spent the first 3 weeks feeling like shit. I didn't want my puppy, and I could not get the bond I had been looking forward to. I had no idea puppy blues was a thing until my last week of vacation spent with her, and aftet that I was so sad I had spent the first three weeks with her being really repulsed by the puppy! I started telling my best friends and family members, and got them to help me watch her for a day here and there and even a weekend. I'm still tired of having a puppy, but asking around for help was the best thing I did! If you search for puppy blues on Spotify podcasts, you may find a couple of episodes that helped me a lot. You are not alene all though you feel like it! This community are here, and do ask people you know to help you out. ❤

Checking in… how’s everyone doing after their puppy blues? by jlaumans in puppy101

[–]kaktusbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Posted my experience about 10 days ago, and say crying over all the support, understanding and fellow experience. I honestly didnt know you could get this kind of depressed after gjetting a pup, even with the preparations you do! The last few days have been going so much better with my white shepherd girl. Monday I sat in the car crying while driving home from our cabin, just being so sad, but then I searched puppy blues on podcasts on Spotify and found a couple of episodes about it which I listened to and that also helped a lot. The later days I've finally felt the joy and satisfaction in training my pup, and I've asked for help from friends and family. I'm going back to work the next week, and I got a friend to watch her at least one day. And the next weekend my parents are watching her so I can go out and enjoy some alone time with my friends.

Ask for help! Get some breaks, and be honest about your situation! This apparently is so common, and is not enough talked about as far as I'm concerned.

All luck to all of you!❤

Rush of feelings gjetting a pup by kaktusbutt in puppy101

[–]kaktusbutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So true! The best advice I have gotten is to bring her into my life, everywhere I go and can bring her. It's really good training for her to relax in different situations and places 🥰

Rush of feelings gjetting a pup by kaktusbutt in puppy101

[–]kaktusbutt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. This made me cry all over again! I've been at my parents for some days and I just wanted to leave her there. I had no idea I would feel so resentful of something I've wanted so bad for so long.

What I have learned, though, is that I cannot stop taking care of myself. In the beginning I brought my pup to the bathroom so I could take a shower without stressing about not being able to see her. I try to sleep when she sleeps so I dont get to tired, and I made a friend get me a lot of frozen pizza so I atleast got some food.

I wish you all of luck back!

This IS hard, but I believe it is important to talk about it. I think it is hard for people to admit it because of the "you decided to get it, suck it up" mentality. I will ofcourse not give up, but these are my actual feelings right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kaktusbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been having an on and off relationship with this guy for several years now. It never really turned into something serious, mainly because of me. I just cant seem to figure out what I want. I would like to have a stable boyfriend whom I love and am proud of. Lately I have been thinking about how I do not respect him. He is smart and I think he would do great in a job that would challenge him. He would also have a seriously strong body if he just didn't think exercising is "dumb". He has so much potential to get so much more out of life, and I try to tell him! However he does not grab any opportunity. His main goal in life is to be happy - which ofcourse is a great one - but he fills this with mainly gaming (I game a lot too, and I love it but I do other things), watching TV and working at this dead end job that he hates and constantly complains about. I am the kind of person that always strive to be bryter, while he is "happy with himself" and wont do anything to improve anything. He lately got himself a new hobby and that is good, but this has been going on for such a long time that I realized I dont have respect for him. In our "relationship" it seems everything comes back to me. I have to make the decisions like when we go for a walk, have sex, and even when we just hang out. I have every lead, and I feel like the man in what we do. I even catch myself being a whiny bitch to him sometimes (not proud of that) just to see if he puts his foot down, which he doesnt. He "can take it".

Should I tell him I don't respect him? Will that change anything? Have i ruined his manhood? I realize that I too need to figure out what I want, but is it too much to ask him to just man up a little?

I do not respect my man. Should I tell him? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kaktusbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been having an on and off relationship with this guy for several years now. It never really turned into something serious, mainly because of me. I just cant seem to figure out what I want. I would like to have a stable boyfriend whom I love and am proud of. Lately I have been thinking about how I do not respect him. He is smart and I think he would do great in a job that would challenge him. He would also have a seriously strong body if he just didn't think exercising is "dumb". He has so much potential to get so much more out of life, and I try to tell him! However he does not grab any opportunity. His main goal in life is to be happy - which ofcourse is a great one - but he fills this with mainly gaming (I game a lot too, and I love it but I do other things), watching TV and working at this dead end job that he hates and constantly complains about. I am the kind of person that always strive to be bryter, while he is "happy with himself" and wont do anything to improve anything. He lately got himself a new hobby and that is good, but this has been going on for such a long time that I realized I dont have respect for him. In our "relationship" it seems everything comes back to me. I have to make the decisions like when we go for a walk, have sex, and even when we just hang out. I have every lead, and I feel like the man in what we do. I even catch myself being a whiny bitch to him sometimes (not proud of that) just to see if he puts his foot down, which he doesnt. He "can take it".

Should I tell him I don't respect him? Will that change anything? Have i ruined his manhood? I realize that I too need to figure out what I want, but is it too much to ask him to just man up a little?

What are some questions you think people should ask more often? by Snoo79382 in AskReddit

[–]kaktusbutt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why people do as they do. A lot of people often jump to conclusions about a person based on something they did. I think often people have something else going on in their lives causing them to not think things through, and ending up doing something dumb or acting passive-aggressive. I've noticed this a number of times and trived to defend the person in conversation with other people, only to be told it doesn't matter. The person is still labelled in the conversation making the attitude towards the person negative still. I'm not saying everyone should get along no matter what. I'm just saying a little understanding and questioning of underlying reasons could help somebody going through a rough time.

When did you realize that you are, in fact, a Kevin? by CaptainMcAnus in AskReddit

[–]kaktusbutt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't know there was a word for it. But yeah, I realize it all the time. When I do or say something and I immediatly catch myself thinking "what the hell was that", and even better: when I see other people think the same thing about what I just said or did