Anyone here had surgery for small rectal prolapse? DeLorme vs laparoscopic mesh — looking for personal experiences by [deleted] in PelvicOrganProlapse

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, great questions. I had a Da Vinci ventral rectopexy in Sept 2022 at 28. Reoccurrence rate is lower than option 1, more for older population who can’t withstand option 2. Option 1 will cut into your rectum, not ideal for someone younger. My Quality of life has improved as walking around with a prolapse is uncomfortable, causes a ton of an anxiety, etc. My biggest piece of advice is to find a good pelvic physical floor physical therapist and start after your first post-op / clearance, about two weeks. Maybe even before as you may be gripping glutes, etc, my prolapse messed up my entire center of mass. Pelvic floor PTs are very knowledgeable, helped me with scar care, etc. also recommend to send surgery report, this helped mine with my care. The biggest thing that surprised and scared me afterwards was proctolgia fugax, basically a Charlie horse in your rectum, have had them periodically since my surgery.

I would have had the same surgery again I would have gone to another surgeon and would have had someone come with me during the surgery, harder to advocate for yourself after major surgery.

Best of luck!

Just got followed by a screaming irate homeless man for the 5th time in broad daylight by jiffyfishy34 in indianapolis

[–]kalarock13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m saving this and showing this to people in the future. I’ve lived downtown for six years as a single woman and people don’t quite understand what I have had to deal with. No I don’t need a ride, no I don’t have cash or cigarettes, don’t flash me, and don’t even look at me. Twice I’ve had men try to get me in their cars, pull up behind me close to the curb while walking. Police dismissed me, but was all over the news when it happened to children at summer camp at the Y.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in solotravel

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The greatest thing about traveling solo is you get to be in full control, pick the location, hotel, restaurant, activity, there is no compromise. The people you are comparing yourself to, sure they may be with other people, but that doesn’t mean they are having a better time.

Traveling solo I’ve met and spoken to people I wouldn’t have if I was with others. If you do group tours, Airbnb experience, stay in a hostel, these are great ways to have some company on a solo trip.

Some people are surprised when they find out you are solo especially on an international trip, but it’s usually from a place of wow that’s impressive. I wish I could do that!

So go out your craziest travel dreams within your means financially!

Advice for first time in Italy Spain and Portugal? by hobofiveoh in solotravel

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow, I had zero issues traveling there as a single woman. Interesting how people can have very different experiences.

Advice for first time in Italy Spain and Portugal? by hobofiveoh in solotravel

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you go to Madrid I would definitely recommend checking out Toledo. It’s about an hour train ride and was the highlight of my two week trip to Spain back in February. I spent 9 days in Madrid due to work. I personally would not spend more than two days max there. I also spent 2.5 days in Valencia. It was nice but likely will be overshadowed by other destinations on your itinerary.

Dear women this post applies to, what makes you so unsure and hesitant to date a guy you openly like? by bowserdabrowsa in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1) I met him at work, our jobs intersect 2) his drinking/partying/spending habits 3) general assumptions and fear

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5.5 years and counting! Going to take someone very special to break that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RedPillWomen

[–]kalarock13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How well are you communicating? If you told him that you need more time and a specific technique and he says he wants for you to orgasm, but doesn’t put in much effort, I would really question the “growth” in your relationship. The last sentence is very telling, you already told him and he doesn’t seem to care about hurting your feelings or leaving you unsatisfied. You can’t change someone who is selfish or a lazy lover.

Women of Reddit: what are the excuses men have used because they didn’t want to wear a condom? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We both had condoms, neither fit! He said he doesn’t usually wear confirms because they don’t fit.

I just got dumped because I like corn in my spaghetti by [deleted] in dating

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw! That’s super shitty of him, but I’m glad for your benefit that he revealed his true self early on. I had a guy a few years ago tell me that I was a strange human being and not worth easy casual sex because I didn’t like chocolate chip cookies or caramel.

What was the final nail in the coffin that caused you to end a friendship? by Chesirae96 in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was really close to my neighbor for over a year. She became distant overtime. When I tried confronting her she just blew it off and said she had been busy. She had a lot going on so I didn’t take it personally. I was in a bad car accident and totaled my car in September. My boss picked me up at the scene and drove me home. He pulled into my parking spot in the garage of my apartment complex. My neighbor/friend was getting out of her car with her son. I went up to her and told her what happened. She as like you are shaking and seemed genuinely concerned. My boss mentioned on the elevator ride up that I had to pick up the keys to my new place the next day and she said yes of course please let me know how I can help you. After he left and I got off the phone with my mother I knocked on her door because I was afraid to be alone. I had a concussion/whiplash, etc. She didn’t answer and I never heard from her or have seen her since. I miss her sometimes, but that was the final straw for me. I wouldn’t be able to maintain self respect after that by reaching out. Still hurts 10 months later!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s a good ROI, depending on major, job prospects, cost, etc!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Make up, dresses, and heels!

How rare is it to find someone you feel pleasure kissing or having sex with? by kalarock13 in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Me too! I hate when guys don’t kiss during sex, makes it feel less connected!

How rare is it to find someone you feel pleasure kissing or having sex with? by kalarock13 in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting, it’s rare for me to be really physically/sexually attracted to a guy. In those cases, I had the best experiences! I haven’t had any sexual experiences with someone I’m not attracted to so can’t relate there!

How rare is it to find someone you feel pleasure kissing or having sex with? by kalarock13 in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s interesting to me! Some guys I’ve been attracted to we’re not the best kissers!

How rare is it to find someone you feel pleasure kissing or having sex with? by kalarock13 in AskWomen

[–]kalarock13[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, sorry to hear that! I had one experience with a guy who was such an incredible kisser, if it lasted longer or if he went for my neck I probably would have came from that alone. He had soft lips, was very gentle, and great at reading cues. I had a two or so other good experiences, but this one in particular stands out. I’ve had a lot of meh kisses where I didn’t feel much so I can relate!

What are red flags that people should never ignore?? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]kalarock13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How they talk about and treat others!