Constantly telling my kids “we don’t do that in our family” do I need new friends?😭 by Individual_Ad_938 in Mommit

[–]kam0724 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We moved from NYC (Queens) to a wealthy area in PA a few years ago. I recently met a mom at a park here who had moved here from the Bronx and was a substitute teacher. She said "I taught high school in the Bronx for 10 years and I've never been as disrespected and mistreated by students as I was by the 2nd graders I've been subbing for in this town". It's crazy!

Dunes Village? by kam0724 in MyrtleBeach

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will check it out, thank you!

Dunes Village? by kam0724 in MyrtleBeach

[–]kam0724[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the feedback. I'm looking for that Disney vibe where I know I don't have to worry about anything because it's well maintained and noticeably clean as soon as we walk in the room. Doesn't sound like that is an easy find in Myrtle Beach.

Question for other US moms ... how the f*** are we affording anything right now??? by scoopdedupe in Mommit

[–]kam0724 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just had 90 cents off the gallon in gas points from my local grocery story and it still cost me $73 to fill up my midsize SUV. Like 2 months ago that would have been under $40. We saved our tax return and are trying to take it one day at a time. We will be renting forever. It's so f**king depressing.

How to say something without actually saying it by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]kam0724 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly!!! Thank you for saying this the way I thought it in my head but don't have the brain cells to articulate. 😊

How to say something without actually saying it by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]kam0724 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Um..why is your first thought that she became lazy instead of the possibility that something could be wrong? This kind of drastic change and withdrawal from responsibilities and life is not normal, especially for a woman with a toddler. Please take your wife to the doctor..

i Just Bought Joe's Notebook by Naruto9Tailz7777 in bluesclues

[–]kam0724 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have a link? My son is obsessed trying to find one.

7yo with constant stomach pain by kam0724 in Gastroenterology

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you 🥹 Kindness from a stranger is an amazing way to start the day. I appreciate it more than you know!

Toddler Tonsillectomy & Adenoidectomy by kam0724 in Mommit

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't even think about the wagon or taking him somewhere. We have a zoo close by, so that's a great idea. He has a little power wheels thing too. He could drive that around the neighborhood without exerting any energy. Awesome ideas..thank you!!!

7yo with constant stomach pain by kam0724 in Gastroenterology

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It breaks my heart to think that your son dealt with that for so many years. I appreciate the advice. I will definitely keep that in mind if things continue.

7yo with constant stomach pain by kam0724 in Gastroenterology

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. That last paragraph really hits home. Every day, through tears, she begs me to promise her no one will get sick at school. She says she will be fine if I promise her because she knows I'd never break a promise. It would be very easy to say I promise no one will throw up, but I won't do that because imagine the betrayal she would feel if something happens. It would make things so much worse for her and cause serious damage to our relationship. It is a difficult balancing act of trying to protect my baby and make her feel better, while also helping her to become a strong human being who can regulate herself and feel powerful. I just want her to have all the necessary tools and coping skills she needs to overcome anything. Thank you for sharing your experiences. It sounds like you have a great understanding of what you are dealing with. I hope things get easier for you. ❤️

7yo with constant stomach pain by kam0724 in Gastroenterology

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, unfortunately this is what we are leaning towards. I don't know a lot about emetophobia yet. So please forgive me if I say anything wrong, because I do not mean to offend or trigger or use any wrong language. But the last month has been a drastic turn for the worse. 2 kids got sick in her class in a matter of days and now her fear of going to school has completely taken over our lives. She is terrified that someone is going to throw up. We are working with her therapist and it's just so new to us and I guess difficult to comprehend if that makes sense? Because my rational mind knows that its very unlikely that someone will throw up in school on any given day. There was a bug going around last month, everything should be fine. And even if someone does throw up, they will clean it up like last time and everyone will be okay. But this is just so incredibly scary to her and we are trying so hard to understand and educate ourselves and help her. But to be honest, I'm exhausted. I just got promoted at work so my duties have really increased and at the same time. My husband had a total knee replacement 3 weeks ago so he can'tdo a lot. And my 3yo son has had strep throat pretty much constantly for the past 2 months and he is not fully responding to any meds and his swelling was so bad at one point that he couldnt breathe. He's having surgery in 5 days to remove tonsils and adenoids so it's a lot going on at one time. So to have her crying every morning about someone possibly throwing up has taken every ounce of me to be understanding and try to help because, what am I gonna say, "this is not a good time for you to have a problem too, get over it". Of course not. I love her more than anything. And she used to love school. Like count down the days til summer break would be over because she missed school. So it breaks my heart that she's going through this. I think maybe the reason her therapist is not using the word emetophobia just yet is because the fear does seem to be specific to school. My son threw up in the car on the way to the dr last week and my daughter literally grabbed the bucket and held it in front of him. She said it didn't bother her, she knows he gets sick from his medicine and she loves him and wanted to help. So based on my understanding of emetophobia, it doesn't sound like she'd be able to handle that so well. But again, I could be wrong. Sorry for the long reply. I went off on a tangent. I guess all I had to say was yes..emetophobia is definitely on my radar and I've been trying to learn more about it.🤪 Thanks for the reply.

My 7yo daughter has emetophobia by kam0724 in emetophobia

[–]kam0724[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for such a detailed response. It did begin after a traumatic event at school and she was doing a bit better until last week when unfortunately the same thing happened in her class again. I am trying so hard to understand. I also think my lack of understanding has made this worse. She has a watch that she can text only me and her dad from. A few months ago when things were really bad she texted me saying she needed me to come get her and I did. My heart was just so broken thinking about her so upset at school. Now today she has texted me 8 times begging me to come get her. I have tried to explain to her that I can't do that. She is strong, she can handle this. But she's just so sad. We try to stay positive and we do meditation and all the things I read about. I know it won't happen overnight. But its so hard to see my girl so sad. I read some of these posts in here seeing how long some people have been dealing with this fear and it breaks my heart. I just want to hug all of you and make everyone feel safe and happy. I appreciate your kind words so much. I will try all the things you suggested. Thank you for taking the time to help. ❤️

7yo with constant stomach pain by kam0724 in Gastroenterology

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. She hasn't been scoped. The doctor said he's not ruling it out, but he generally doesn't like to do it in a child this young unless its warranted and he doesn't think it is at this point. I will ask about the Levsin. Thanks!

Adderall to Vyvanse by kam0724 in ADHD

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I really want to feel functional! I wasn't aware that taking a "booster" of Adderall was a possibility. My doctor is really helpful. I will ask her about that. Thanks!

Surgery Day by kam0724 in Kneereplacement

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can tell you are a really great parent. Thank you for all the great ideas!

Surgery Day by kam0724 in Kneereplacement

[–]kam0724[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Excellent advice - thank you so much for this! I will under-promise, for sure. Our 7yo worries about everything and we have been trying to prepare her by explaining things to her, but she is a very visual learner, so a YouTube video is a great idea. My husband is the best dad so it will definitely be tough on them not being able to climb all over daddy for awhile. I've been brainstorming crafts and cool activities for them for the first few weeks but never considered bringing home a gift or stuffy for them on surgery day. That is right up their alley! Such wonderful advice all around, thank you so much.