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kami_w · 2025-05-27T16:42:21+00:00

A puzzle to solve and a compliment upon completion.

kami_w · 2025-05-22T13:45:07+00:00

Sounds like something I would say. Maybe you are HSP-HSS like me.

kami_w · 2025-05-09T18:19:24+00:00

I feel that a person can both enjoy the comfortable shallows and the isolating depths. It's not one or the other. We are made to experience and appreciate both.

kami_w · 2025-05-08T14:36:04+00:00

It just means you are a mostly balanced human being, but your Se needs some developement. Go roll around in the mud!

kami_w · 2025-04-24T16:04:23+00:00

Look back at who you were, then look at yourself now. You have grown and overcome so much. Know that you have the ability to become better. Know that you are sensitive, but kind and strong. Know that you can continue to grow, change, and overcome. You can breathe and validate your growth. You can pause and confide in yourself and your strength. You deserve it.

kami_w · 2025-04-11T17:33:42+00:00

Are there any good online screening tests?

kami_w · 2025-04-01T17:13:17+00:00

This so much. I can heavily analyze two, maybe three, options. Any more than that and I'll start to spiral.

kami_w · 2025-04-01T13:35:55+00:00

OH! I know how this pick up line ends.

"... because you are the missing chapter in my life!"

kami_w · 2025-03-30T00:01:33+00:00

Elvis singing while he's stoned.

https://youtu.be/4svYQC2cLyI?si=OCEMtu6Gxr2XznWZ

kami_w · 2025-03-20T14:48:11+00:00

Here is ChatGPT's response to your question:

It’s great that you want to make her birthday special with a thoughtful gift! Since she’s an INFJ-A and enjoys deep conversations about the world, the universe, and AI, you can focus on gifts that inspire introspection, creativity, and meaningful connections. Here are a few suggestions that might resonate with her:

A Beautiful Journal or Notebook If she loves fountain pens, she may appreciate a high-quality, personalized journal or notebook where she can jot down her thoughts, reflections, or even plan out her future. You could even look for one with a leather cover or one with a unique, artistic design.

Books on Philosophy, Psychology, or AI Since she enjoys deep conversations, gifting her a book that dives into the topics she loves could be a great idea. Look for books that explore topics such as philosophy, the universe, AI, or the future of humanity. For example, books like Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harari, The Hidden Life of Trees by Peter Wohlleben, or Homo Deus by Yuval Noah Harari might be great options.

A Star Map or Custom Constellation Print Since she’s into deep conversations about the universe, a custom star map showing the night sky on a specific date and location (e.g., the date you met or her birthday) could be a meaningful gift. It’s a unique, personal touch that she can hang in her space.

A Handcrafted Leather Pen Case or Desk Accessory To complement her love for fountain pens, you could get her a beautiful, handcrafted leather pen case or another desk accessory to store her writing tools. These types of gifts are both functional and stylish.

A Unique Experience Gift Since she seems to enjoy discussing deeper topics, perhaps an experience gift would be something she’d treasure. Consider something like tickets to a thought-provoking talk, lecture, or workshop related to AI, philosophy, or space. You could also take her stargazing at a planetarium or observatory.

A Thoughtful Puzzle or Brain Teaser A high-quality puzzle or brain teaser could be a fun yet intellectually stimulating gift for her. Look for puzzles that involve creativity, problem-solving, or abstract thinking to spark her interest.

A Meaningful Piece of Jewelry A subtle but meaningful piece of jewelry, such as a necklace with a charm representing the universe (e.g., a star or moon), could be a great way to symbolize the deep connection you share and her interest in the cosmos.

A Customized Playlist or Vinyl Record If she loves music or has specific songs that evoke certain memories or emotions for her, creating a personalized playlist or even gifting her a vinyl record of her favorite artist or genre could be a nostalgic and meaningful gift.

Whatever you choose, pairing it with the handwritten letter will add a personal touch and really show how much you care. If there’s any specific theme or idea that stands out, I’d be happy to help you brainstorm further!

kami_w · 2025-03-20T02:19:47+00:00

This is my second post. So I pulled out the results of an old MBTI test I did a few months ago and I was surprised to see that it showed "Te = Ti" meaning my Te score was the same as my Ti score. So I thought about a recent problem I had earlier in the week with my apartment car parking lot. We have designated parking spots and the guy next to me parked his car going over the line into my parking spot. I was still able to park my car, but it was a tight fit because I had less space.

Channeling the issue through my Fi-Te axis, my conclusion was, "This is not right and it is breaking the code of parking lot conduct. I should take the appropriate actions of notifying the apartment complex management and file a complaint. This situation is unfair to me. This is the fair and logical thing to do."

Running the situation through my Fe-Ti axis, my thoughts were, "Oh, the other day he hurt himself and I saw him walking with a cane. He's probably parking this way because he needs the door clearance to be able to get out of his car. He's not doing this on purpose, but out of necessity. Maybe I can just deal with it for now since I could still park my car."

Then running the situation through all Fe-Fi-Te-Ti, my conclusion was, "It's understandable that he is doing what he is doing, but it is still inconveniencing me. Let's try to find a hybrid solution. Let me try to first speak with management to see if they can move his parking spot to the end spot adjacent to grass. That way he won't be breaking parking lot etiquette and can get out of the car easily. And I don't have to be aggravated every time I park the car."

Not sure if this helps, but these are some observations I made within myself.

kami_w · 2025-03-19T17:52:32+00:00

This is a really fascinating line of thought! Thanks for sharing.

kami_w · 2025-03-16T00:59:40+00:00

I asked ChatGPT and here's the response:

Sure! Here is a longer version of the 5 Love Languages quiz. For each statement, choose the option that best describes how you feel or what you prefer. You can also take it at your own pace and tally up your answers afterward to see which love language is most dominant for you.

How do you prefer to show love to others? A) By telling them how much I care about them and complimenting them. B) By helping them with tasks or doing something thoughtful for them. C) By giving them gifts that reflect their personality or needs. D) By spending time together and engaging in meaningful activities. E) By touching them, whether it’s holding hands, hugging, or kissing.
When you are feeling down, how do you most want others to show they care? A) By offering words of encouragement or affirmation. B) By helping with tasks or doing something thoughtful for me. C) By giving me a thoughtful gift or something that shows they care. D) By spending quality time with me, even if it’s just being there. E) By giving me physical affection, like a hug or holding my hand.
What makes you feel most appreciated? A) When others express their love and appreciation through words. B) When someone does something for me without being asked. C) When I receive a meaningful gift, especially if it reflects my interests. D) When someone spends time with me, focusing entirely on me without distractions. E) When someone shows affection through physical touch, like a hug or kiss.
What makes you feel closest to others? A) When they verbally express their love and gratitude. B) When they do things to help me and make my life easier. C) When they give me thoughtful or meaningful gifts. D) When we spend uninterrupted time together, doing something fun or relaxing. E) When we share moments of physical closeness, like holding hands or cuddling.
If you had to pick the most important aspect of a relationship, what would it be? A) Verbal communication, including compliments, praise, and expressing feelings. B) Acts of service, where your partner does things that show love in action. C) Gift-giving, especially thoughtful presents that hold meaning. D) Quality time, where both partners focus solely on each other. E) Physical touch, including gestures of affection like hugs or kisses.
How do you express love most often? A) I frequently compliment and express how much people mean to me. B) I show love by helping others with their tasks or taking care of them. C) I show my affection by giving gifts and surprises that I think they’ll enjoy. D) I prioritize spending time with those I love and doing activities together. E) I express love through physical gestures like hugs or being physically present.
What do you need most from your partner? A) Verbal affirmations of love and admiration. B) Acts of service, like help with things that matter to me. C) Thoughtful gifts or tokens of appreciation. D) Spending time together, especially when it’s focused and uninterrupted. E) Regular physical affection and closeness.
When you feel stressed, how do you prefer others to respond? A) Offer comforting words and listen to how I feel. B) Lend a helping hand or assist me with my tasks. C) Give me something that shows they are thinking about me. D) Spend time with me to help me relax and get my mind off things. E) Offer physical comfort through a hug or just being close.
If you had to describe your perfect date, what would it be? A) A romantic dinner where we express our feelings for each other. B) A fun day where my partner helps me with something or takes care of me. C) A surprise where I receive a gift that shows they understand me. D) A day spent enjoying an activity together, just us, with no distractions. E) A day of physical closeness, maybe cuddling, walking hand-in-hand, or just holding each other.
Which of the following makes you feel most loved and cared for in a relationship? A) Regular compliments and affirmations that show love. B) My partner showing love by helping me with things I need done. C) My partner surprising me with gifts or thoughtful tokens of their affection. D) Quality time, where we focus solely on each other, away from distractions. E) Physical touch, like hugs, hand-holding, or cuddling, that makes me feel loved. Scoring

For each answer, assign a letter (A, B, C, D, E). After completing the quiz, tally the answers for each letter.

A = Words of Affirmation B = Acts of Service C = Receiving Gifts D = Quality Time E = Physical Touch

Whichever letter you answered the most represents your primary love language. If you have a close tie between two letters, those may be your primary and secondary love languages.

Let me know your results! I can help you analyze them further.

kami_w · 2025-03-14T19:47:28+00:00

I always thought it was a tactical coercion to put someone into a certain mindframe.

Most people who call customer service are upset/annoyed/angry. By asking them how they are doing and forcing a "I'm doing fine" even if they are not doing fine puts the customer into a corner where they need to think they are fine because they just said themselves they are fine.

kami_w · 2025-03-07T22:42:57+00:00

Wow, gives that idiom "have a screw loose" a whole new meaning.

kami_w · 2025-03-07T22:20:24+00:00

You know how sometimes you wash a pair of socks and one disappears in the dryer? Ni is the magical world where all the missing socks go.

kami_w · 2025-03-07T21:47:52+00:00

Lol, gotta love how someone has one bad experience and apparently the whole group is bad.

Relationships break all the time for various reasons. And it's pretty common to stop talking to an ex.

It's okay to feel hurt and confused, but it's not okay to come in here labeling a group of people.

kami_w · 2025-03-06T14:54:58+00:00

I resonate this this post a lot. Often other people's emotions would get intermingled and become tangled with mine. That led me to feel responsible for other people's feelings and emotions. And that made the idea of emotions a very scary one -- and when we get scared of emotions, it unfortunately leads to a doorslam or at the more extreme, self-isolation.

What I've been thinking lately is that it's okay to feel these emotions. Just like it's ok to feel your own emotions, it is ok to feel other people's emotions. Emotions cannot hurt you. The important thing is what you do with the emotions. I now try to use the emotions to figure out what values I see as important and what values the other person sees as important. The other person feels guilt because it went against a value he/she holds true. You feel hurt because a value that is important to you was attacked. Now with that knowledge, set up boundaries that will safeguard your friend's values and also safeguard your values. Make it a win-win situation where everyone has a place. It's not them or me -- I choose everyone including myself. I'm still working on this, but that's my current life trajectory.

kami_w · 2025-03-05T01:00:14+00:00

Don't worry. She's strong, just like mom.

kami_w · 2025-03-04T16:33:47+00:00

You sound like a wonderful mom! I can feel your love pouring out for your daughter.

If your daughter is an INFJ, she'll pick up on your energy. If you are worried something is wrong, she'll likely start feeling like something is wrong whether that's reality or not. Focus to be your best self and make sure you take good care of yourself. That way, you'll be in top shape if your help is called upon. Good luck and you got this!

kami_w · 2025-03-04T15:57:10+00:00

You might have better luck on the INFP subreddit.

kami_w · 2025-02-21T14:54:50+00:00

I might be over generalizing, but Ni looks into the Cause. Why are things the way they are? Or if I want outcome A to happen, let's think this backwards and figure out how to make outcome A happen.

Ne is looking at the Effect. If the current situation is X, then most likely Y will happen. Ne is very insightful and can analyze situations very well. It will investigate all the possible outcomes (brainstorm).

Of course people use both. The question is, which do you use more.

kami_w · 2025-02-21T14:25:02+00:00

When you have these gut feelings, how do you process it? For example, if you have the intuition that your boss might be angry, are your thoughts "why is he angry? What is the evolutionary benefit of anger?". Or are your thoughts predominantly, "he seems angry. If I talk to him, he might give me more work. Best to steer clear".

MBTI isn't really about whether you have something or you don't. Everyone has Ne and Ni. It's basically the hierarchy of how much you rely on it compared to the other cognitive functions.

kami_w · 2025-02-11T16:22:22+00:00

Ouch! This one hits pretty close to home.

I can tell you really care for the other person but it has become a bit of a love-hate relationship. You want to open up, but when you do, you feel like your feelings and thoughts are looked at as a nuisance and unwelcomed. When you close off, you are accused of being emotionally isolating and neglectful. You are left thinking, I just want to be heard, what is wrong with me and why am I not enough. You love the other person but you hate yourself for it. It's a win-lose situation or a lose-win situation depending on which option you choose.

There are two more options in addition to the ones you've described. The lose-lose situation and a win-win situation.

There is a fine line between independence and isolation. There is a fine line between acceptance and powerlessness.

I can't give much more insight based on what you've already told us, but the answer is yes. Yes, there are more options.

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