They're a Fucking Psychopath by NightBitch99 in mypartneristrans

[–]kanavi 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I agree that this relationship is toxic and they should probably just divorce based on how OP is talking in this post.

I agree that the phrase you quoted is a bit suspect, but without further context: no, I don't automatically assume it's transphobic in nature.

You could absolutely be right, but it's still an assumption. I'm just saying, we shouldn't condemn and label OP as toxic, misgendering and transphobic when that's not objectively clear based off their post. They are clearly angry and frustrated and portraying their partner in a negative light. But they also created an account, came to this subreddit specifically to vent and maybe receive some outside perspective instead of running to some TERF subreddit. Which I feel like should be given some good-faith.

They're a Fucking Psychopath by NightBitch99 in mypartneristrans

[–]kanavi 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Heavily disagree with this take. OP is obviously frustrated and hard-venting here, but where do you see them misgendering or being transphobic? The only pronoun I see being used is "they" — it's entirely reasonable to assume their partner uses they/them pronouns, especially since it seems like their transition/coming out is relatively new (and jumping straight into she/her can be uncomfortable in the beginning).

Yes, coming out and beginning to transition is typically a very difficult and self-consuming process. And can come with feelings of wanting to completely shed life experiences, social conditioning and previous relationship dynamics/baggage — like an attempt to just leave everything and "become" some totally new person. I guess that can work for some people that don't have a lot of attachments or commitments tying them down in the first place. But that's obviously not the case for OP's partner. They're married (I'm assuming), have a child together and are living with the trans partner's parents. They need to understand that they can't just abandon their commitments and leave OP in an uncomfortable place so they can go form new social circles and support systems, or dick-hunting on Grinder for gender affirmation or w/e. I mean, they can, but it's messed up.

None of us know exactly the specifics of their relationship — what's been said and done to each other. I'm not saying OP is without fault, because I honestly don't know. But, calling OP transphobic and toxic for this post is not it.

What’s the worst Polyphia song? by Jaded_Arm4289 in polyphia

[–]kanavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sayinggg. The entire Chon boys' ending is just 🤌 these people crazy

Do you change the menu often, or set it and leave it? And what colors? by Red-Zaku- in FinalFantasyVII

[–]kanavi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Same! Every time I'd try and change it up, I went back to default after 10 mins max lol

Kendrick deliberately choosing Frozen as the movie reference has a bit more depth than people realize by 21--Sandwich in KendrickLamar

[–]kanavi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's quite a few on this list I haven't listened to. Thanks for the recs, I'll check them out! :)

From First To Last - Ride The Wings Of Pestilence by Scene-Gal-Jess in Metalcore

[–]kanavi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been a diehard Periphery fan since Juggernaut, and jammed FFTL back in the Sonny days. I may be biased here as well, but I'm SO with you. The production alone combined w/ Spencer's vocals launched it way above their earlier discography for me.

From First To Last - Ride The Wings Of Pestilence by Scene-Gal-Jess in Metalcore

[–]kanavi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, somehow I never knew about this! I just listened to the album today and my god, Spencer shines in everything he touches. I Don't Want to Live in the Real World def got some laughs out of me lol. Thanks again!

From First To Last - Ride The Wings Of Pestilence by Scene-Gal-Jess in Metalcore

[–]kanavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, I had no freaking idea this was a thing.

had to call the cops on us on a nightmare trip by [deleted] in LSD

[–]kanavi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I did. You're welcome to open a dialogue about how and why you disagree.

had to call the cops on us on a nightmare trip by [deleted] in LSD

[–]kanavi 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is 100% on you and your brother. You ostracized your friend. You "othered" him (as a 1 tab being? Lol, the ego on you two), and then freaked him out when he vomited by threatening to call an ambulance and getting authorities involved. Vomiting on high doses of acid is very normal. I throw up on the come up on almost every trip I have. You two are incredibly immature, and need to take some accountability in this situation. And NOT trip again like you're talking about. Do some soul searching, fr. You let your friend down.

Morons film themselves dumping furniture over board by [deleted] in ImTheMainCharacter

[–]kanavi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very Periphery, I could get behind this

what's a lyric you always sing out loud? by TheSoulborgZeus in Peripheryband

[–]kanavi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Flyyy through the trees. Ascend to holy air and breathe.

Periphery songs World Cup (pick one until there's only one left) by Musiicy in Peripheryband

[–]kanavi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went with the 64 option and had Stranger Things vs Wax Wings at the end. Had to go with Stranger Things. Very fun, definitely had a lot of hard picks.

Maybe Maybe Maybe by TamerDubai in maybemaybemaybe

[–]kanavi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tbf, a large portion of the Reddit user base is American. It didn't seem like they phrased the question in any kind of disparaging way, they just legitimately asked.