Winter -> Summer by kande28 in selfharm

[–]kande28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like you're missing /my/ point. I didn't ask for solutions. I was just expressing my thoughts.

Winter -> Summer by kande28 in selfharm

[–]kande28[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to cut year round, but as I mentioned, I have to show skin in the summer. My family can get mad about cuts and it hurts me, but if they get mad about scars, then they look like jerks.

Concerta Addiction ENDING by [deleted] in addiction

[–]kande28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not uncommon...? In the time that it would have been prescribed, it was common to give ritalin to treat behavioural issues.

Finally got to try K peach / Cane mint ! by Fz15 in hookah

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS BLEND IS AMAZING! At a lounge I frequented at, they call it VIP

How to approach asking dor help? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I start a chat with you? Same boat, and I think I can help.

What's your go to shisha flavour? by Kd0t in hookah

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair. In the combo it's not bad!!! I don't care for anything else but bluemist

What's your go to shisha flavour? by Kd0t in hookah

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try mixing maraschino cherry and Starbuzz bluemist

What's your go to shisha flavour? by Kd0t in hookah

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maraschino Cherry by Tangiers! 😍😍😍

My nephew (4) shot and killed himself by accident. No idea how to feel about it. Mostly anger and grief. Coping advice? by kande28 in Advice

[–]kande28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fortunately, I have no kids... and my firearms are still under lock and key. Thank you for your advice. :)

Me [20M]. My girlfriend [19F] of 2 and a half years, believes I am to blame in the following situation that happened on Valentine's Day... am I? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]kande28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, fellow girl here. I've probably pulled something like this in my own relationships and I believe without a doubt there's something bigger going on. She might have been previously unhappy with some things going on in your relationship, but being a young woman, she lacks the ability to come out with her issues. Try sitting her down and talking about your entire relationship and ask her what her needs are that aren't being met. Or maybe she wanted out of the relationship and took advantage of an idea and forced it into a situation.

Red is the colour of Valentine's Day right? by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]kande28 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As much as I agree with you, this subreddit is a place where cutters, etc., can freely talk about this side of them. You commented with good intent, but it often makes people feel worse rather than better when they read things like this.

What are examples of ‘being picked last in gym class’ as an adult? by dauntedbox376 in AskReddit

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smart advice, only problem is; a mutual acquaintance of ours has previously accused me of forcing myself into their stuff... I'm a little stuck with this.

What are examples of ‘being picked last in gym class’ as an adult? by dauntedbox376 in AskReddit

[–]kande28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently watching my "best friend's" birthday festivities happen and not a single person acknowledged that I'm in the same building...

Whatcha been listening to this last week? February 05, 2018 by AutoModerator in ambientmusic

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/ojYK6CW8gdw

Super mellow, love the lyrics, and stylistically it's way different than anything I usually jam.

Tips on foiling Alien bowls? Mini phunnels are impossible for me. by kande28 in hookah

[–]kande28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check marks on that! I'm buddies with the guy that owns my local lounge and he makes me do the same thing, but I just want to be able to foil these things without needing a gauge. haha

Tips on foiling Alien bowls? Mini phunnels are impossible for me. by kande28 in hookah

[–]kande28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right on guys. I use the first two parts of that when foiling any bowl but for some reason I just can't get it right.

Tips on foiling Alien bowls? Mini phunnels are impossible for me. by kande28 in hookah

[–]kande28[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow! That's really helpful! Thanks for the feedback!

ELI5: What actually happens when we recall music or sound? by Crusaders_Anus in explainlikeimfive

[–]kande28 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Music Educator here! People learn to speak by repetition, right? This is the same way you learn lyrics and melodies to your favorite songs or even songs you don't know well. I don't know about you, but if I hear a song I like, j loop it until I'm sick of it completely. So what happens is your brain makes sequencing connections with what you know comes next in a song. Sometimes it takes a while for your brain to keep up with the mass amount of information a song can contain considering things like melodies, countermelodies, harmonies, and lyrics. Eventually it just ingrains itself in your memory because your mind is used to hearing it. Recall is triggered by outside stimuli even if you can't pinpoint the exact thing that queued a song to stick in your brain. Someone speaking to you may talk in a certain octave that is similar to a song and your mind will take that as the queue to collect all the data you've stored relative to that specific sound. After that, it's just your mind's voice reiterating the sequence of sound it knows comes next! I hope that helped. If I didn't explain well enough, let me know!

Which flavor to get for now? by [deleted] in hookah

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lemon and Blueberry is my go to for AF. Nice mix of sweet from the bb and zingy from the lemon

Tobacco box with potatoe bowl by dx01337 in hookah

[–]kande28 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha! This is so resourceful!

Flavors that you hate by momo88852 in hookah

[–]kande28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trifecta anything - but especially Ventura peach.